Help with Life

I know exactly what you mean about the panicky, wanting to throw up thing. I did the exact same thing with my ex-boyfriend, I also only said yes because I was so in shock and everyone was saying "yeah you totally should!" But I dumped him two days later after he starting calling me 'sexy' and stuff like that. Had I in anyway found the guy attractive I would of just said "stop it" but I was looking for an excuse. I settled on you look like my brother O_o

Anyway. I think I've told you this before but don't ever use the word love unless you know you mean it. If you don't know it's love then it isn't. And at this point in your life it's all physical and social, sorry to burst that bubble there. Not that that's a bad thing. I'm gonna stick with my previous advice and say do what you think is right. Ultimatley it's your descion and your descion alone. I doubt that helps but I thought I'd try and be of use some how...

 

Well I felt love once and it wasn't so good.I never had a real boyfriend either but I know how they're like and how relationships can end.I'm not saying your's is going to fail.It could be that you do like him a lot but you're so unsure of it, that you're telling yourself that you might not like him.Or it could be the other way around.Maybe what you should do it tell him you need time to think about your relationship to see how you really feel.And once you figure that out you will either choose to continue the relationship or end the relationship.But also it can depend on the age.I'm 15 and I'm still not sure on what I would say if someone I like were to ask me out.But before if you were to break up with him because you need time to think, listen to your heart before you break up with him.

 

first of all, I've said "I luv u" a couple of times to him, but I say that to all of my friends XD

Secondly, I had a feeling about that... I kind of thought that it might be that I really DO like him but my thoughts are getting in the way... Because I keep getting really nervous around him and alot of people have told me that it's because I really DO like him... I really don't want to break up with him because he's been so sweet to me, and I would hate to break his heart... Everybody at my school treats him like trash because they think he's just some nerd... My best friends even hate him. When I started going out with him, he seemed to get alot happier and I would hate to just crush his heart by dumping him... However, if he hurts me, i have about 4-5 friends who said that they'd hurt him REALLY bad if he made me feel bad in any way... Even so, If I break up with him, my best friend will start hurting him (pullin hair, punching him, etc.) like she used to before we were going out and I'd feel bad for making him suffer >.< I really don't want to lose the first real boyfriend I ever had, but I need some time to think about this... I'm too nervous to go up and say that to him, though... i can't even say it through a damn text...

 

I mean more LOVE then LUV. I mean, I love my mates and I'll say that some times but with a boyfriend it has a completely different meaning.

 

Your friends used to hit him?!That is just mean.
Well it could be that you do like him.You should give it time.But I'm sure since you get nervous around him then that could mean that you like him.

 

Yeah... It has two meanings... >> I just use the friendship one, though ^^

*nods* yup... I don't know why but she hates his guts O_o

:o Thanks for your guys' help... I feel much better now... i think I'll just give it some time and try not to be so nervous in a relationship :)

 

Just don't do what I did and go Chandler Bing DX
It's funny to talk about, but I don't think it's the right first boyfriend story for you. ^^

 

i got a problem >_>

I've been missing alot of school due to an injury to my knee, and i'll be missing 2 more days this week and i'm afraid i'm going to fail. I've got some grades that have been recorded a whole week when i wasn't even there and i'm a little worried i might fail this year

If i do fail, my parents will so ground me from the internet the whole Summer D:

 

you usually receive a W or an I which are both for Incomplete which doesn't coutn against you but doesn't help you either, i'm not really sure about what happens after that tho

 

Well if it's a serious injury, your school should allow you to make up the missed work without consequence with a doctors note, and you parents shouldn't ground you because you are unable to attend school.

My suggestion, get a note, tell a friend in the class to give you the assignments then have them turn it in for you. Or just email your professors, most are understanding as long as it's a medical thing.

 

Update on my probem:

My sister left before I could talk to her, so I finally got the courage to talk to her myself.

I asked her if I was getting my brothers up and ready for school and on the bus because no one else wanted to do it. I found out that My dad can't do it because his work schedule won't let him. She can't do it because she gets sick if she gets up that early. My sister can't do it because she's going to college and isn't even her most of the time. So that leaves me.
Mom also told me that she knows I probably have more responsibilities than I should for my age.
We're all going to regroup during spring break and try to fix this situation that obviously isn't working.

Wish me luck! ^_^​

 

*claps* hooray! I'm glad to see that you guys are trying to fix the problem. And I'm REALLY glad to see that you got the courage to stand up for yourself and that should make you happiest of all... :3

Good luck! :D

 

Well its not really help with my life but there's this boy that makes me laugh,he tells me he loves my smile,he gives me hugs and all.And he has a girlfriend(at least I think he's still dating her)and my friends say he likes me.Is it possible that he really might like me?Even though he has a girlfriend(I think).My friends even tease me about him and I.He's not the most hottest guy but he's possibly the most sweetest guy I've ever met.

 

well, sure! I mean, if he likes your smile and hugs you and u guys hang out like that... Then I'm sure it's possible. Even though a guy has a girlfriend, it doesn't mean that they're trapped in a cage... that's only if they're married ;P He's allowed to like other girls, too... So I'm sure if you guys are that good of friends then he probably does like you :)

And they don't have to be hot to be cool... My boyfriend isn't what you would call "hot" but he's one of the nicest boys I've ever met... :)

 

lol yeah thats how he is.And there was another boy too but the way he would hit on me was yeah like no you're not my type.My friends teased me about BOTH of them.But then they started noticing that the current one and I have gotten a little close.And I don't know why but I feel that he's always in my head.And I don't kow why he is a lot of the times.I have a feeling that I might like him.And when he's in my head I remember the times that he made me laugh a lot.An then I get like a small grin and my friend ask me why I'm smiling and I say its nothing lol then I would want to laugh more

 

well then maybe you do like him... And you should just accept your feelings :)

First of all, ignore your friends. Who really cares if they tease you about him? It doesn't matter what they think... and They're just trying to make you feel bad. Ignore them and you'll feel much better.

You are almost exactly like me O_o I just recently got my boyfriend, and the week before he asked me out was like TORTURE. I couldn't seem to get him out of my head... I couldn't stop thinking about him or talking about him... I'd always wonder "do I really like him like that...? Or is he just a friend...?" I asked for advice on what to do and everybody just kept pushing me on to ask him out... and then I found out from my friend that he had been going to her asking for advice on what to do because he has a secret crush on me... so they all pressured us until he finally asked me out and I said yes (actually, i didn't even speak... I just nodded my head) and now we're a couple... The problem is, I'm not even sure if I really like him like that or if it's just my desire to have a boyfriend... >>

even so, you're starting out the same way I did... always thinking about him, just out of the blue. All I can tell u is to NOT STRESS ABOUT IT and DO NOT LET PEOPLE PRESSURE YOU. Trust me... if things are going to happen, they'll happen in time... just don't rush it and forget about what other people think. All that matters is how you feel and how he feels... If you feel like you don't know if you really like him, try getting to know him more and become closer friends. Do you get nervous or shy around him? Does he make your heart beat faster whenever he's around? Do you ever worry about how you look in front of him? :)

 

Actually I don't get shy or nervous around him.No my heart doesn't beat fast.And I sometimes do worry about how I look.To make it easier to explain I'm going to make up names for the three people I'm going to mention right now.On Friday a girl in my english class told my friend Irene something about her hair.It was a comment but the way she said it was funny.Then I told Irene that I was going to tell our friend Naomy.I said it as a joke.Then Irene said she was going to tell Naomy that the guy Ricardo kissed me.Or even worse she was going to tell Ricardo to kiss me.When she told me that I started laughing but then I started thinking if Irene were to tell Ricardo to kiss me, would he actually do it?Irene said it as a joke but it still left me thinking.

 

(sorry if i'm busting in on some one else's problem o.o)

well i have this massive crush on some one and she likes me but not like like just like o.o i am flattered on the fact she would call me in emergencys =D but what to do....

 

I understand that. I have the same problem with a boy. I'd suggest, if you can, ask her to just hang out some time at a simple place, or after school just talk to her and try to get to know her better. Its a little trick I know of, I've only used it to hook up my friends though. ;D See if you can then go forward and ask her on a date, when you feel. ​

 

Hmm... yeah... Well, you need to stop and think for a minute to see if you really feel you like him or not. I'm sorry but I really can't be of much more help... The rest is up to you :)

*sigh* I have another problem... I just started dating and I got a boyfriend... We've been dating for a month but I just don't feel like we're very close...I'm closer to my best friend than I am to him... And every time I'm around his family, I get really really nervous... He asked me to come to his birthday party tomorrow but I don't know if I should or not... because I'm afraid I'd get nervous and screw up or something... But then again, it might help me become closer to him. Any ideas on what I should do...? <_>