Help with Life

Hi everyone...

I'm not a person who comes for help (I usually give It) but I really need it right now...What do you do If something or someone you love, someone who understands you, someone you understand even better then your family will be gone?

I'm getting a lot of bad news tonight...maybe I just need some comforting

 

What do you mean 'will be gone?'

Do you mean, you may never see each other ever again or seperated by each other by the realms of life and death?

Dude, I reckon she's just messing with ya. Go look for another girl. There are plenty of chicks out there.

 

GOOD IDEA! Thanks!

 

Ok so my parents are in the final stages of a divorce and neither of them can afford our house by themselves. I have been living in this home since I was four years old (over 13 years) and now completely out of nowhere I am going to have to change residence. At the moment I am fine but in the near future I predict lots of stress. Does anybody have any coping mechanisms they would like to share with me =/

 

Awww, Jordie hun, whats the matter? Like is the person gone gone, or just leaving you, or dead?

*hugs*

Okay. Imagine on how you can make your new room look like your old room. Visualizing helps. Also, go house 'shopping' with your parents. Let them know that you want your say heard, and by doing this you can also gurentte that you like the place your going to live in next ^^

 

Thats a good idea. ^_^ I just spoke with my dad and he says that we could probably redo the basement for my room in whatever house he gets. I always thought a basement for a bedroom would be way cool. I really hope that works out.

 

This person Is going to die ;-;

 

Awwww...Jordie hun *huggles*

Sweetie, there isnt much we can tell you to do. Make sure that you help them live the last of their life to the fullest, and make sure your fully prepared for when they do go on. *hugs* Im here if you need to talk sweetie.

 

Wow I'm really REALLY sorry to hear that.
Sometimes life is not fair,but what can we do?it's life.
Try to spend alot of time with this person,I'm sure that will make that person happy and forget about his or her condition.

Praying helps too.
Good luck.

 

Jordier0xs0x, just have the best time you can have with that person because when that day comes, you won't have it anymore. It is also important that you are there to give support and prepare yourself for the day that will come.

 

Thanks guys...

Its gonna be sad ;-; But you Live You Die right?

Thanks again ^^

 

I think its a good thing, to know when you die, then you can do everything you ever wanted, (unless you were disabled), just have a great time while they're alive, make memories of them that you'll never forgot, and when they die, don't be sad they're dead, be happy you brought some happness into their life, memories of loved ones is what makes me happy, I hope it'll help you too....

Jordier0xs0x, I hope you will be alright, and remember you ever need to talk, you always have all your friends here, this thread was made to help, and we all want too.

 

I need advice you guys. =/ My friend already had an emotional breakdown last week, and on monday he said he wrote a suicidal letter and even showed it to my friends and me. My other friend tore it up though. My friend had to go the the grade counselor for emotional help today.

I can't stand my friend in this state. I already tried to talk to him, but he doesn't seem take my help seriously. Got any advice on another way to help him before I see some scars on his wrists?

EDIT: I was just IMing him and this is what he said.

 

OMG that's sad. She needs help. You should help her out.

 

okay. this may sound weird. but trust me. this might actually work.
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since your a girl and he's a boy (and hopefully your single) ask him out. it might brighten his day. you could make him feel better. for me a hug or a cheek kiss could work. maybe it'll work on him too.

 

Actually, I would disregard what Tummer said. You should never ask someone out unless you are actually interested in the person that way, as it just leads you to breaking up with the person later. It might make some problems go away, but that is not why you ever go out with someone. Compassion doesn't mean you toss your own self into commitments to help someone else in that way. A relationship should be pure when you go into it, not have motives such as this.

What I'd try to do is be supportive as you are and keep contact with the person, and tell him that you are there to listen and he can say whatever, rather than holding it in, which seems to be what he is saying is his grand problem in the first place. Then be calm, try to help him think of rational ideas, because he's obviously very depressed and cannot find the focus himself, or try to just help him get back to not hating himself. Try to help him see the good things about himself he is missing while depressed, and maybe if he just isn't capable of talking about it, see if you can help him unwind some by perhaps doing something with him like going to a movie or some fun project. He needs something to kick him out of the depression state so he can get back to living and well, cognitively figure things out that have put him in this rut. Sometimes friends won't tell us things right away but what he is doing now is a call for help and he needs support.

Also, tell him that you are worried for him and want to help him because you know this doesn't sound like how he is normally, and you want to be there. If nothing gets through to him, does he have any other good friends? You might be able to convince that friend to go with you and talk to him about things, just saying you are worried about him, but don't give out too much information in case he doesn't want to talk to anyone but you. I wish you luck with this and if we can get more information on what is going on, perhaps we can come up with something better of a solution.

 

I have the same situation Easter.
My best friend already cutted herself and was about to commit suicide,what you should do is to be by their side and let him know how much he means to you.
Also,try to talk with his parents,that might help.
I know it's hard,trust me.
Keep him company and make him smile by any stupidity,if it doesn't work,take him to professional help.

 

Why does this happen to people? Its so saddening:(

 

Dude, it might make things better at the start but in the end, things will just get worst. I know cause I've seen it happen, man. Not pretty.

:nono:

Does his parents know, eastercat?

 

You are right, it is very sad, but it is a part of life we have to adapt to. We all get rejected and I think the teenage years are the hardest because that's really where we start to realize it and have to mature fast or else we get caught up in a maelstrom. People are affected by this differently so it's important to have good friends and people we can stand by and who we can count on too. Sometimes family is great too and they understand while other times they just are like 'get over it' and it's so easy for adults to say, but if they could remember back then, they might pause with those words. It's very hard to realize in our lives we are going to be told 'no' when our emotions want things so the opposite way but it must be sooner or later. There's nothing wrong with being angry and upset about it at first as long as we let these emotions go, move on with things, etc. Hopefully you guys will be okay with supporting these others who need you, and things work out. Even if people feel really horrible, even if you have to stomp around to make them see they are still wanted by others, they should recover. Good luck!