Help with Life

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  1. N Hollow Bastion Committee

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    I'm having a really hard time dealing with my parents. Today me and my mom can't get by each other without bickering and me getting upset. I feel that nobody loves me and that everyone never listens to me because everytime I talk, people act like they don't hear me.

    And I'm also frustrated because everybody looks at me weird when I go to parties and I answer those questions. They ask those questions about "What do you want to be?" and when I tell them I want to be around horses and show they stare at me as if I'm an alien and tell me, "Don't you want to be a model instead?", and I always say no.

    It's really irritating because people think that I'd never stand around some 'stinky' horses and ride in a saddle, they act like I'm supposed to be dripping with diamonds instead of jeans and tee shirts.

    I don't know what to do...I want to cry it's so frustrating.
    It's the odd life of a beautiful, misunderstood person...
     
  2. Explode Who?!

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    For your parents, if you feel it's getting out of hand, be the better person. Don't instigate, and of they start the fight, just agree and/or be polite. Be affecionate, it may make them guilty, which unfortunantly, you have to do sometimes.

    Be sure to stand by what you believe in. This is easier said than done, I know, I'm shy too, but don't be afraid to push back when people push your buttons. When they ask, "Don't you want to be a model instead?," use a stronger word than "no," to show that you're sure of yourself. Again, be the better person, don't raise your voice or do anything unnecesary, just get the point across. It shouldn't matter what they think in the first place. If it really bothers you, change your image, just enough so that people will believe what you say.



    Wow, that wasn't very helpful ^^; oh well, I hope you find it somewhat useful. Good luck, and remember that you've always got friends here at kh-vids.
     
  3. Rosey Chaser

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    I get mad really easily, if someone says something about me, or my family, or my friends, or really anything that has to do with my life, I take it personally. And The problem is I'm also naturally strong, and so now when I get mad, I really just want to beat the people up. And Its gotten to the point where its really bugging me that I want to hurt someone that much for saying something. And now the boys in my grade are making a game out of by seeing who can make me the maddest by insulting my brother (hes my twin) and making fun of the way I look. And now I feel bad about dragging my brother into this because he did nothing wrong, and I just dont know what to do :(
     
  4. N Hollow Bastion Committee

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    Well, I was crying an hour ago and I'm at my grandmother's house because I don't think I could handle my dad...he's so critical. My mom and grandma are alright, and my dog, and my birds, but my dad is very critical and my grandpa is in Lousiania so he can't critcize me...

    I used to feel the same way, but people used to call me ugly and stupid and weird and stuff like that because I wasn't like them. (i.e, I was very quiet, I minded my own business and kept mostly to myself, I wasn't interested in Digimon, I was more mature, I got a lot more attention, and I was very creative).

    I guess we have a lot more in common, that's why my mom and grandma pulled me out of school...and I really like home-school a lot better than public/private school!
     
  5. Roxas- PARTYMAN MORE LIKE HOMOVAN 73M SUCK MY B****!

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    Ouch, I know what it's like. If you don't get on well with your parents, It makes like really hard.
    I'm sure you'll be okay with you Grandma.:(
     
  6. Explode Who?!

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    It's hard to help some one cope when you can't really relate, but I'll try my best. Maybe you should restrain yourself as a promise to your brother. Like in Chain of Memories, how Sora keeps a promise to Namine, which helps him get through Castle Oblivion. See, who says you can't learn things from a video game ^.^

    Try using your brain instead of your muscle, it resolves things much better. If they make a move on you, well, then it's technically self-defense, right? *wink wink* Just don't let your anger get the best of you.
     
  7. Rosey Chaser

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    Lol, yes you can learn from a video game.

    Its just that the boys in my grade make me so mad, that its cutting me off from having any sorta relationship with anyof them, and I am sorta pretty and funny, and my anger is getting in the way of being friends with any of them. I just talked to the one guy friend I have, and he said that some of the guys wanted to ask me out, but they were to scared I was going to hurt them (some of them I would have)

    Going to a private school sucks
     
  8. Askilfeasd Destiny Islands Resident

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    Then learn to control your temper. That'll solve the problem.
     
  9. ThosAbout2rock Destiny Islands Resident

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    First off i would like to say that this thread was a really nice idea.


    The one good thing about private school is the adults tend to be more understanding. Whereas public school, they couldnt give a rats *** half of the time. I guess what i would suggest is just talking to someone. Honestly, talking to someone and knowing you have someone there for you can be the greatest feeling sometimes.
     
  10. Gwen Farewell.

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    -has been lurking on this thread-

    okkz... so...
    I'm bi.
    And, I like a straight girl.
    Like, a lot.
    But... I'm way too shy when it comes to love
    Especially like this.
    I can't seem to muster the strenght to tell her...


    Advice? Pwease? ;_;
     
  11. Gravity Chaser

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    Well, if it's the way you feel, you can't change that. I think you should just go ahead and tell her how you feel. If they're worth it, then they'll understand.
     
  12. axel8th Traverse Town Homebody

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    Here's my problem My life sucks............. Everything i do turns to a disaster,I'm hated by everyone.....And i wish i could just fade away.....99% i feel like killing myself but i don't want to spend eternity in hell.....Not only that..i'm Emo.

    i'm Depressed 24/7 and everyone who said the where my friends stab me in the back all the time.........Help me.
     
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    Thats not true, and dont believe that. Its not true. NOT TRUE!!!!
    Not everything is a disaster, believe me. And you are not hated by everyone, you arent hatted here! And the people are just either steryotypes, or idiots. And dont kill yourself. never the answer. My sub teacher once explained to us that sucide is really the most selfish thing you can do in life, because it makes everyone else around you hurt for a very long time, wondering what they did wrong. And emos are cool.

    And its okay to feel depressed, but you need to get out and do something, join a club, hang around new people, have a little fun. Ive had more backstabbing friends then you can imagine, and its not fun. Just figure out who your real friends are and go from their
     
  14. axel8th Traverse Town Homebody

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    I know emos are cool,thats why i am one but besides that, around here there's not that many things to do........I would like to go shopping in the malls on weekends but no one ever has time to take me. My birthday's coming in 2 weeks(July 9th I'll turn 14....i wanna Wii for my B-day.....)But if my mom takes me somewhere to eat (After i get my Wii of course) They're probably gonna give me cake and sing....Which i don't them to do. And i hate cake..... All i'm gonna do is just play my Wii and listen to "Happy Birthday" by The Birthday Massacre (My favorite band) here's the lyrics

    Happy Birthday

    I think my friend said, "I hear footsteps."
    I wore my black and white dress to the
    birthday massacre, birthday massacre, birthday
    I wore my black and white dress

    I think my friend said, "Stick it in the back of her head."
    I think my friend said, "Two of them are sisters."
    "I'm a murder tramp, birthday boy", I think I said
    "I'm gonna bash them in, bash them in", I think he said

    Then we wished them all a happy birthday
    We kissed them all goodnight. Now he chases me to my room,
    chases me to my room, chases me
    In my black and red dress

    I think my friend said, "Don't forget the video."
    I think my friend said, " Don't forget to smile."
    "You're a murder tramp, murder tramp", I think he said
    "You're a murder boy, birthday boy", I think I said


    Over and over again............
     
  15. Askilfeasd Destiny Islands Resident

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    You're obviously not hated by everyone if you're receiving a Wii for your birthday, along with going out to a party. So stop whining, there are people who are much worse off.
    And most of us don't really care about what those song lyrics.
     
  16. Peace and War Bianca, you minx!

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    Askilfeasd this is not a place to berate people, but to advise anyone to do something about their problems.

    I will try to advise, but this is only advise, it is your choice if you take it:

    axel8th: Try and keep happy and positive about any type of situation when needed, remember, suicide is a big choice and you can't go back.

    Zekushion: If you haven't already just try not to be near the twins when they fight or try and tell your Dad their fighting and make him get in the middle of the fray instead.

    Emo Pengwin: I have to admit that situation needs delicate handeling since many problems can happen, but like Evilman_89 typed, proffesional help would bee the best possible action.

    Love2act1989: If there is a God he would probably like people to make their own decisions in life. With your brothers usually younger brothers try to mimic what the older one does so thats probably why Ryan is like Chris, you need to show both them something better than what they are doing now.
    With your parents, since your mother has mental illness your father probably went to drink alchol for comfort and thinks it is the only way to numb the pain, you should try and make your household as stress-free as possible so everyone is less angry and more comfortable.

    AerithRose: Show people that you can be a threat to them but don't actually hurt them, also try to act more friendly with them, since they know that you can be a threat they would rather have you on their side.

    SilentNocturne: Try and reach a comprimise with your parents so they will understand you more. And when you talk about what you want to do say that It is something you love and should respect your view.

    MadiYasha: If this girl doesn't know you are Bisexual than try and hint it, so it will make her understand you more, then build up the strength to tell her she is lovely to you. You are a 100% sure she is straight, right? If she isn't try to show her that being bisexual is a positive thing.
     
  17. xekushi Gummi Ship Junkie

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    Not to be insensitive here but... How does suicide make you go to hell?
     
  18. Askilfeasd Destiny Islands Resident

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    If he was actually suffering or anything like that, I wouldn't berate him. However, he's acting extremely childish, ungrateful, and self-centered.
    Secondly, this is a place to "help" people, and you're not going to help him by encouraging the way he's acting.
     
  19. Peace and War Bianca, you minx!

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    This thread is to advise people on their problems, do not judge people so easily. If someone says they are thinking about suicide should you really encourage them? axel8th came here trusting we would understand his problems and not judge him on it.

    It is a Christian view that if you commit suicide you go to hell. Since Christrains believe that life is sacred and only God can take it away, suicide would send you to hell.
     
  20. xekushi Gummi Ship Junkie

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    Ah I see. Thank you.
     
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