Help me...?

Its my sister.
My sister is sarcastic, mean and is horrid to me. She always tells me off for doing nothing, keeps on saying i'll get no where in life and never says anything nice to me. Shes 14 and I knew it would happen but I just can't take it.
When we walk to school, she speeds ahead and then tells me off for not keeping up. But if I walk fast, she'll tell me off for walking to fast.
At school, she'll be sarcastic and mean, critsing what i'm eating at lunch and not caring if I get bullied.
At home, she'll hog the computer and not let me on, even for homework. So sometimes I have to say after school or do my homework at lunchtimes.
Its driving me crazy and I just want to cry but if I do, she'll tell me off for being a crybaby since I already am one.
I'm more like my Dad and I would talk to him but he lives far away and phoning him would be a no go. (sis hogs phone too)
My mum goes to work for ages and then comes home tired and grouchy often. I can't talk to her either.
I just want my sister to be nicer to me and treat me like a little sister. I'm SO angry about it yet I want to cry too....
I really need help....

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I'm in a completely similar situation. My sister can be extremely temperamental and will get on my case for absolutely no reason, and I can't bring myself to stand up to her. If it really is turning into a problem that you can't deal with on your own, go to your mother. I understand that she works hard and you don't want to bother her about these things, my mom is the same, but I do think you might be able to sort this out on your own.

Give your sister space. Don't do anything that might annoy her. Sometimes you just have to give in and go the extra mile so that she won't give you hell later. This might be a phase that she's going through. My sister was the same way when she was 14, she made things miserable for me all through my childhood until I developed strategies for dealing with her.

Let her have her way. You're going to have to be the bigger person. Find out when she's at her absolute worst during the day (for my sister it's the morning times), and stay away from her at those times. If you know that you have to use the computer and she's going to be on it, see if you can stay after school and use their computers, go to a friend's house, the library, etc. Avoid a conflict. Don't react to her if she bullies you, either. That'll make her angrier.

If you reach your limits with this, talk to someone about your problems. Venting is an amazing catharsis. I used to sit in the bathroom and just let it all out when I got upset. She won't know if you're crying in there, and you'll come out completely refreshed.

Maybe mention this to your mother when she's in a good mood, too. There's only so much you can do.

If you need to talk or vent, I'm always here. <3

 

oh thank goodness i can b!tch a bit.....
ur too right....
*hugs*

 

I thought you were older wow I learned something
anyway try talking to people on this forum that you can trust. Misty for example is very trustworthy. Ctr is too. She maybe the oldest girl on this forum so she might know what you're going through.

 

Some ideas.. your sister, when she's sarcastic, maybe try laughing a bit at her comments because they are jokes.

When she's mean to you or yelling, try to just move away from her and do something else. Maybe try making some friends and such so you can do things away from her. She may be in her way telling you she needs her space. She's being rather selfish and inconsiderate and maybe some time that's what you need to say to her and just move off and get out of her hair for a while. If you can try to stay calm around her and act like this stuff doesn't bug you, you'll do better than if you react emotionally to her crappy attitude. She may be partially annoyed she has to be around you so much because she considers you over-emotional or the tag-a-long and she can't do much herself. You never know really for sure what the other person's problems are with you until you ask. Maybe that's another thing to consider is to just ask her how to fix things with her and that what is her problem with you so you can work on things because this is hard on you.

If she's on the computer, maybe try getting the phone then for a bit to talk to your dad. If your mom is tired and all that, she probably doesn't want to come home and hear sibling rivalry situations so this may be just something you have to deal with between you and your sister and learn to find some ways to get out of her way until she sees things differently. Maybe sometime when your mom is calm and your sister isn't around you could approach her calmly with the situation and not just go 'my sister does blah blah' etc. Mind your approach and ask her what you might be doing wrong that sets your sister off and is there anything she can think of to try to help patch things up between you. Parents will listen to more if it does not just sound like whining, when of course, they are in the right mood for it.

I wish you luck and can tell you are pretty stressed out. Hope things get better for you and hang in there. Siblings just do these kinds of things to each other sometimes and don't really appreciate each other until they grow up or something bad or great happens that brings them together. Siblings notice the good and the bad of each other. They sometimes are competitive too. They've also always got the know how on your successes and your failures and those annoying habits we all have. Living in close proximity of each other, it's kind of normal to rub each other the wrong way. Try to not let it get you too down and hopefully something will turn out better for you.

 

dude its your sister
fight her off like all brother and sisters always fight each other

 

just kick her ass you are her sister like krayzie said sisters tend to do that if she tels her parent tell them she started it or frame her / black mail her

 

Wow guys. Nice advice.

Try talking with your sister, like scheduling times for the computer. Also, if you can, try to ignore her at lunch. However, if she does keep it up, tell a teacher. When you're walking home, just walk and relax your thoughts. In fact, don't listen to her at all. Just walk, clear your mind of any thoughts, relax your body.

 

For a start, don't use Violence. It could go the wrong way.
But my Brother does that all the time. Like, if he tells me to do something when I'm busy, he'll go in and say "You never do anything, bla bla bla"
I would go to a trustworthy friend, and just rant for a while. That's what best friends are for, right?
I think telling your mom when she;s in a good mood should work too

You know, just listen to what Snake Eyes said :P
(The Graceful Assassin also has some good advice too xD)

 

dude its his sister
wats he supposed to tell a teacher
just block her out and if she messed with you do it back and ignore her
still its your sister so fighting her is best because you'll forget about it the next day and thats how you guys grow closer and respect each other more
by the way i dont mean fighting like a first fight but like play fighting and not so hard
you are family after all

 

Not all siblings fight. I know some people who's sibling actually get along.

 

... wtf, That doesn't always happen. I never fight with my siblings, I know that it'll do worse than good. And not all brothers and sisters fight.

 

read the rest of my post
i added stuff
and they do at one point

 

It always starts as play then ends up being rough. It just happens. xD

 

Fighting, play fighting, it's still violence. And violence won't solve ****.

 

Never have, never will

 

thats how my bestfriends (brothers) solve their anger isiues toward each other lol

tust me violence solves plenty but you wouldnt know that since you cast it away
but between family brother and sister fights actually help them resolve their problems a it
still im not sayin that they should always fight each other but if they dont have good times together thats a way of pushin each other aside and getting some respect

yes it has
yes it will

 

First of all, it's not respect. The more they fight, the more violence there is. Second, good times isn't beating each other up for respect.

 

hold up
you misunderstood it
i didnt say but beating each other is is good times
i said that since they dont seem to have good times fighting and getting respect will make his sister back off
and you know its true
but you know im not saying that he should just fight her wenever but bothers and sisters do it and it sometimes helps
im not talking about a street fight since they are family

 

No it doesn't. It just leads to more violence.