I never thought I'd be doing this on a KH forum, but I need to vent. About this time last year I met a really nice girl and we became fast friends. We both liked the same movies, music, etc., and I really wanted to date her but I could never pluck up the courage. A lot of her friends told me that she was interested but I was still too shy, but we met up by ourselves a lot more and I'd often take her out to a movie or we'd visit each others place. There was kissing but there was a lot of hugging and handholding and I think we an unspoken agreement that we were dating. So the other day I finally sorted myself out and went to her house to ask her to be my girlfriend...only to find her kissing some random guy I didn't know in the living room. Was she leading me on the whole time? Were her friends in on it? How am I going to face her again? ...I don't know what to do...
well i think that wat happened was that you took too long but if u two made out and held hands then i guess you were kinda datin so basically she cheated on you
Like Krayzie said. You waited a bit long. But I would atleast gather up the courage to ask what happened. Learning the truth of the situation might fix things.
I know that I waited a bit long, but that means she must of lost interest in me for quite a while if she had already moved onto someone else. The issue isn't that she was with someone else since we weren't technically dating, its the fact that she didn't tell me and continued to meet up with me.
Well,It could have been her brother or her dad.She also probably didnt think you were interested because you didnt ask her out.maybe you should ask her about the guy.if it was her brother/dad then ask her out and shes your girlfriend!:)
I think it's you waiting to long. There are other fish in the sea. She must have thought you didn't like her enough to ask her out. I wouldn't dwell on it,just move on. After all,she has already.
...? And why would she be making out with her brother or father? Thats even worse...when I said 'kissing' I meant kissing, not a peck on the cheek. I guess, but its still a bit too soon. I mean, if she had just said to me 'I'm already dating someone, sorry' I would have fine if with it, I mean I want her to be happy, but... I can accept being rejected. I can't accept being betrayed.
You assume she's dating this new guy. It could have just been one kiss and nothing more. You don't know how she considered the relationship between you guys, because you never asked her. It was kind of all based on assumptions of mutual love intrest. Next time, be faster. Either chase her up now or forget about it.
You waited too long. I asked out a guy, and he said no, but if i did it this time last year, we would've been dating by now... anyways, you saw her cheat on you, yes? Well then, she's cheap. she's one of those girls that guys can nevr trust. When they get bored, they move on... But, you have two options: 1. You can ask her about this guy 2. you can move on, find a new girl, and start again.
If you never asked the girl out officially, as in to be your girlfriend, she is not cheating on you. Dates do not mean anything unless you actually declare you are both going out with one another, whether you are kissing, hugging etc or make out. When the date is over, so is anything else unless you both make it official. That's the way it works. There is no betrayal. From the girl's perspective, because you never did ask her out and you two on dates kissed but mostly hugged etc, she may even have thought you were just being experimental with her and not serious or ready to commit to a relationship so well, that's all she would do with you. Some people here are seeing her as some betrayer and scamp but in the end, both of the two people involved did not make motions to have a relationship. Therefore, she may even have her own view on it that he's just not serious about things and moved on. In the end, what I would do is maybe try to talk to her and say you do care about her and would like to go out with her. The worst you can be told is 'no' because it's too late and she's actually going out with that other guy. I'd accept it with grace because sadly, this is what can happen if you take too long to ask. Shyness sucks because it can make you wait too long. If I actually -kissed- a girl, yeah, I'd assume we had something going on too, but the one mistake you made here is that you didn't say what you assumed. It's a sad lesson to learn that you have to be clear. That way if she had gone and done this, then you really could say that she deceived you. I understand the feelings you have though and hope you will feel better. If you can't get with her, there are other girls out there and I'm sure sometime you'll meet someone and know exactly what to do next time. Sorry this isn't much of a help but I do hope things go better for you. Hang in there.
well still she shouldnt have been that cheap or told him about the other guy shes not worth it be her friend but look for a new girl
you waited too long. if i were you, id try to clear everything up with her, ask her about the guy, and if they werent going out, and if shed accept, then there is a relationship. and i know.....being shy for anything is horrible.
Once again, Repliku is right. She may have led you on, but in her eyes, it's possible you led her on. Girls expect the guy to make the first move or to confirm their attraction. I was in a similar situation my senior year, but it wasn't that bad. This girl and I were always all over each other, but I never asked her out directly. I had some feelings for her, but I pretty much led her on. Soon she started hanging out with other guys and mirroring our relationship, because nothing official was declared, she wasn't cheating on me. You led each other on, the only difference between you and her is she didn't reserve her attraction solely for you. But you should still talk to her, after all, in case that was just a one time thing. You never know, the guy could have surprised her and she went along with it.
Thanks...I guess I was being a bit too assumptious. This makes it a lot clearer and easier for me, thank you.
No problem. I hope you get to feeling better soon and it is a sucky situation. It's sadly a situation though that happens to a lot of guys and girls and all we can do is really just learn from it and hope in the future other things go better. Hang in there and keep your head up.
