Growing apart or not....Just help me with this

How do you know if you actually have a true friend or not? Although, I know a friend is suppose to be trustworthy and liable, but when you actually start to express to them that you feel that they are your best friend. They seem to accept it and get excited that we became so close as friends.

Suddenly you start to go to different places with each other and meet each other's families, all of a sudden they start to act strange. Secondly, when you start to express certain feeling about certain things, they shy away. I find it kind of strange that they once I try to talk to them, they never answer back to your phone calls or they start to blow you off.

Then when you express your feelings about them blowing you off or asking them if we are still friends are not. They begin to get really upset, because I'm questioning our friendship. So just help me with this, are we growing apart or was she my real friend to begin with? (Sorry for ranting :() ​

 

First off, this should be in the Help With Life section.
Anyway, I have the same problem. I guess it depends on the situation.
If the person is not calling you back, that doesn't always mean that they aren't your friend.
My best friend does that to me and it pisses me off (I guess I have no right to be).
You can tell if they are your friend by them listening to what you say or what you do.
If they ignore you and don't bother with you at all, then that's not a friend even if they say they are.

I hope that helped in some way.

 

true friends are there with you through the worst times in your life and the best times, maybe at one point they were your best friend, but maybe not anymore...

 

Mike is right, it depends on the situation. But at the moment I'm going through something like this, unfortunately, you have to stick through and see what your outcome is, my outcome was that now the person I called my best friend hates me, but that's highly unlikely it's going to happen to you. Just tell them how you feel, and if they get upset, then you must try and calm them down before continueing.

 

lol this does need to be in another section, but i shall reply anyway! :D it seems to me that this girl isnt really someone that is TRUE friend. she's probably a good friend, and thats something you should treasure, but at the same time they would not become angry when you express your feelings if they really cared about you. it seems to me that you both see things differently and need to make sure that understanding is clear. if she cannot listen to you without getting upset, there isnt much you can do. what would be best is to give her time to be on her own and try speaking with her again after that. time apart does help. hope thats useful for you :)

 

best friends are like phases, they come and go. On rare occasions you stay best friends for life. but as life takes you different places, it does the same with your friend. you make new friends and suddenly have a new best friend. unless you get into a big argument with your best friend, chances are that they will always be your friends no matter what. you or your friend just may be in a transition phase.

 

Well, when I was like 11 I was in the same situation, only.. I was the one blowing her off. =\ What happened was. We became really close friends, and started to hangout more. And then for some reason I kind of started to get annoyed of her, even tho she did nothing wrong. So I started to blow her off more and more. And eventually March Break came. And I was going away.
But when I came back I wasn't annoyed of her anymore. And we are still best friends and it's been 7 years.

I think I was just because we became to close to fast, and maybe your friend just need a little time for themselves right now. Or maybe they just have something else going on right now.
Anyways I hope that helps. [=