girls

i don't understand girls, they are confusing. I need advice to help me get a girlfriend besides "just ask her"

 

be yourself, if you do that, they will come to you. The harder you TRY to impress people, the more they will see through you and not like you, so if you just be yourself and dont try to impress people, your respect will go up, and when the time comes, you'll get yourself a girlfriend, no advice needed.


on the side of not understanding girls, most girls say the same thing about guys. We're just wired differently, so the sexes will NEVER understand one another, its not just you.

 

Just be yourself start talking to her and while you are, slip in hints that you like her by saying why you like her, then if she asked if you like her, say yes, or just nod.

 

yeah, Just be yourself:D

 

Start as friends and chat to her. She will be able to find out what you are like and what sort of things you are into. Don't lie as you will get found out and trying to impress doesn't work. Just be yourself and I'm sure you will be fine. You talk to girls here so just transfer that to the real world.

 

i've heard daat a lot of times but I am myself and still no real girlfriend. Well I did have one about a month ago but she cheated on me so I don't consider that a real relationship. And its easier when you don't see them face to face

 

Stop trying to rush to get a girlfriend. Always become someones friend first, and hang out with them. If you want a good relationship, start it off like that, and everything will most likely pick up.

 

thats not always best though, most of the times in my case with that strategy, the girls end up seeing me as a "brother" and nothing more than a really close friend.


friendship first is great, but you have to find the balance, so you can keep that field open if needed ^^

 

Sadly being cheated on is part of life and it happens to most people. Don't be discouraged. She obviously wasn't good enough for you. You will project how you feel unconsciously as a lot of communication is no verbal. Relax and don't try to look too hard as you may come across as desperate. Enjoy life and someone will turn up.

True Arc. A lot of guys see me as just another 'guy'. I don't think there is a magic formula and it is mostly luck.

 

Here's another topic about a gender you'll never understand. 8D

Just be cool, be down-to-earth and be rich. My advice. n_n

 

lol, nice to see you being as helpful as evahr mish ;)

 

ok i'll just let things happen

 

I fail to see why this was posted in the Debate Corner.

Could we somehow merge this with the 'Relationship Help' thread in Anything Else?

 

agree with him. Just be cool, and be yourself. Like someone said before, don't rush. Its like a curse........
Plus, if your a nerd, change your out word appearance a bit until a girl will go out with you. Then you can change back to yourself, you know.

 

Girls aren't so different really. People make divides amongst the genders and I see it more anymore having to do with instead how males and females are brought up for how they will act.

Best thing to do as others have mentioned is to try to get to know the girl above 'she's pretty' and 'I like the way she laughs' etc. Find if you have common interests and such. Next, don't put on a front and decorate yourself up too much. Be yourself and if you are depressed or already discouraged you are going to lose out. Girls who are nice tend to like a guy with self-confidence but isn't a pompous jerk and is amiable enough with others. Be you and if you find you still like the girl for more than 'she's so freaking hot', even though you don't want to hear it exactly... go ask her out by just saying 'I think you are cool and would like to know if you want to go out on a date' or something to that effect. Do it at a time when you two aren't surrounded by others too as she may feel pressured to go out with you then or run off. Also, avoid cheap pick up lines! (not that most of us don't know this.) Being straight up, real and self-confident can win over a girl. It won't work in every situation of course, but it seems to work out better than any other method I've seen people employ. Also, if you get denied, don't take it to heart. There are other girls and attraction and interest just aren't always aligned and mutual. If you are too mopey, you might miss out on another girl that has interest in you.

Good luck~

 

That is so true. If it makes you feel any better things are no easier for the girls. Being female doesn't make life easy and a lot of the time we are as nervous as you. Good luck!

 

Question -- how old are you?

 

From what I've gathered about girls, they tend to like guys who are happy, and at the same time, might not need a girlfriend, like they're just as comfortable with friends or when they're by themselves. What other people have said so far is true, especially Repliku, but at the same time trying too hard to find someone can actually push people away. So for now, just keep your eyes open and at the same time don't fret about not having a girlfriend. I know how frustrating it is; I've never had a girlfriend either, so I know it's tough seeing other people in relationships.

 

Don't act like you need someone to complete you, either -- You're a complete person, not half a person waiting to be whole.

 

Yeah, good points. If you act too much like you are 'desperate' it makes people shun away, regardless of gender. Some people might be into very clingy or desperate people, but really, most don't seem to be. This is where that self-confidence comes in. If you can survive being single and having friends, you'll survive having a girlfriend. Also, this attitude helps in case the girl is someone who would cheat around on you so you can get rid of her and move on to find someone better.