Family help

Ok I don't really know how to start a thread like this but my Mom and Grandmother have been arguing and in a fight for 36 years and it's gotten to the point where she's banned from our lives. I don't want to see her but another side of me misses her. How would I convince my Mom to let me see her though she's hated my grandmother and my grandmother has hated her for 36 years

 

tell your dad and try to get access through your dad and tell her that even thought they hate each other shes your grandma and you want to see her
also if you can drive that would help a lot

 

I can't drive and my parents are divorced.

 

well tell your mom that shes you grandma and you really miss her and want to see her
to at least drop you off outside of her house
and thats shes important to you and keep insisting on it

 

I've tried that and my Mom says it's up to her who I see. I've been thinking I should trick her.

 

dam how are you planning on tricking her?
does your dad live far?
maybe he can drop you off there every once in a while
btw is she your moms mom or your dads?

 

My mom's mom. My dad lives in a different region of the country and I might trick by saying I'm going to my boyfriend's house. I'm sure his mom cab vouch for me saying I'm there.

 

thats good especially if you can walk over to your grandmas
but dam its still messed up
you have to pressure her and cry too
telling her that if she doesnt let you shes a bad mom and stuff
even if its not true it brings pressure but still becarefull with wat you say cuz i dont want to get you in trouble with her

 

Tricking your mum might seem like the only option here, but you there are others I'm sure. It’s the fact that your mum has to come to terms that she is your grandmother and that you have every right to see her and she has every right to see you. I would never stop seeing my grandmothers because they mean a lot to me. And since your grandmother means a lot to you, you shouldn’t have to trick your parents into letting them go see someone your blood-related to. It’s unfair that your mum decides who you see and who you don’t see. Me personally, I hate it when my mum tries to control me and I hardly speak to her for two days.

I think you should confront your mum again and tell her that she should accept the fact that your grandmother is a part of your life and that you want to see her.