Do you want children?

/raises hand

I can't help but wonder if he just enjoys being argumentative.

 

Welcome weary traveller, to the internet of all places. Where everyone has a rather loud and shouting opinion.

 

We need a poll within this poll to gauge if Below hates things.

...No, he doesnt. He's just condescending. Read everything he says like a hipster with a rich dark roast starbucks coffee in one hand, and an iPad folded up under his other arm.

The reply button is their megaphone.

 

I'm open to the idea of having kids, eventually. Like, not till my 30's or so. But I wouldn't be heartbroken if my partner was completely against the idea, and I could live with being childless.
Whether they'd be biological or adopted would probably depend on the sex and fertility of my future partner. And me for that matter, I'm finding out that I may have some issues in my uterus that need to be taken care of before conception is even possible...

But yeah, everything's a big maybe for me at the moment.

 

Okay, I had to stop everything I was doing. I haven't read the newer replies to this thread yet.

Care to explain? I don't understand that frame of mind, at all. Nonexistent lifeforms do not grieve over lost potential. They do not exist. There's no 'crime' in not having children. That makes no sense whatsoever. I honestly don't understand... I'm lost here. *flails*

 

I love kids, I have a friend who is a midwife and she tells me many things about the birthing process.... that makes me never want to have kids D: but I suppose I will have to go through it at some point.

 

I'd rather be the cool uncle.

 

There is no crime for not having kids, but the debate of worryig over 'nonexistent' beings potentially not appreciating their existent seems to be more an excuse than a reason for not havig kids if you want them. If you don't want them, fine, but saying it's because you fear they may not appreciate life's gift is... wrong to consider. I was making the point of not deciding not to have kids on that sort of idea, and instead on more probable and realistic possibilities.

Now to be more argumentative... Why do these unborn, unconceived beings not exist, exactly?

Theories on time itself say that time happens all at once but we can't mentally understand it all at once and we see it in its current form. Or that it is a sort of fate, that time is already written and the future has already decided on the children to be born. To say something is non existent is to say it is something we are simply unaware of, and the future definitely falls into that category. Bit abstract, perhaps, but that argument felt like it was going a bit that way.

 

It' s ... complicated. I' m not financially stable right now and have never been in a long lasting relationship. Too much of a lone wolf. My sister had a kid two years ago, my whole familly noticed how happy I am when I' m with him. It is indeed a 24/7 thing though, and I don' t think I could pull that off. I can totally understand the blood link thing, he' s "just" my nephew but one look at him and I knew, if I had to give my life to save his I' d do it no questions asked.

In short my emotions say yes, reason says no. My aunt pointed out to me that fleeing responsibilities because of my lack of stability might be backwards thinking, maybe having responsibilities is the one thing that would stabilise me. Ha, maybe she' s got a point. Who knows where life will take me, for now I' m happy just being the cool weird uncle.

 

Not right now because I don't think I'm ready, but maybe in the future I'll adopt a little girl (so my mum can have a granddaughter since she has 3 grandsons from my older sister). But that'll be a while before that happens.

 

I would like to be a father.
I rarely see kids that are truly well-mannered and genuinely nice.
I think that when I am ready to be a father, which would be in my mid-20s at least, that I would be a pretty decent one.
My parents did a pretty good job raising me and I love them both very much, so if I treat my kid(s) like they treated me, hopefully they will turn out alright.
Sadly though there is a chance I could be sterile due to hormone difficulties, but I guess adoption is always a choice.

 

I never tough you were such a sound person, Wow, I kinda respect you really hard right now, but you said what I was thinking in a better way than I could have.