Do you want children?

Children are daemons.

. . .

Another useless poll. This time, votes are public.

 

Where did this question come from? lol

But yes, I do want to produce a mini-me. I like the idea of having a son/daughter with my blood (and wife's I guess). I'd like a girl more than a boy, but any would be fine. I'd actually take care of them and teach them manners, something I don't think parents are drilling deep enough into their childrens' brains in this age. Show them Pokemon season 1 every Saturday morning, I will.

 

I was curious as to who would want a child and their reasons involved therewith. Adopting I can understand to an extent, but I do not understand why anyone would conceive a child by choice. Do they think it through? Their friends are trying for children, their parents entertain the thought of grandkiddies. They live in a society where childless adults are oft pitied, and it is assumed that such persons were unable to 'get it on' in bed. But a child is a sentient being, a responsibility of gigantic proportions. I very much doubt that if a person really, truly thought it over -- they would still want a child.

Once the child moves past that blind, malleable, developmental stage...

What if s/he doesn't like you?​

What if you don't like the child?​

-- Beat around the bush all you want, sometimes children​

are genuinely unlikable notwithstanding proper upbringing​

on the part of their parental figures​

How can you be sure your child will be of value to the world?​

How can you be so sure of your parenting capabilities?​

-- What if you mess up?​

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And so on, so forth. Just a few of the many possibilities most people don't mull over. Children are too much responsibility for me, maternal feelings come and go (and if I wanted to entertain such things I could adopt a domesticated animal, or adopt a child if they stay and fester; least then I would not be doing harm unto the world's already exceeding carrying capacity).[DOUBLEPOST=1379857221][/DOUBLEPOST]Hah. I don't know why I didn't post this in the discussions subforum.

 

I'd vote but, eh... visible.

 

Where lies the deterrent?

 

The lack of anonymity.

Sometimes you just don't want to explain your opinion.

 

You don't have to explain a thing, this is the spam zone after all.

 

It's alright if you pick the "I have children" option, Jack. We won't judge. We're here for you. We're all friends here.

It's ok.

 

You're all my children, this should go unstartling.

 

There's a lot of reasons that my family is going to be hounding me about kids sometime in the next ten years. This may come as a surprise to none of you, but I hate children. They're mostly just gross little nuisances that can't be reasoned with and when they're not, they're just tiring to look after. So that's one reason against making more. After that, there's the constant worry that you're doing it wrong. Children are an error log for their parents. In their habits, you can see all of the poor parenting decisions and mistakes and quirks and habits. I don't think I could handle that. If we keep on going, I don't think I'd be a good parent. I'd probably raise someone much like me. Indecisive, lazy, socially inept, etcetera.

Well, if you haven't got it already, I could go one for longer, but I don't think I have to. I don't want to be a parent because I'd hate it and be bad at it. End of story.

 

Chapter 2 ?

 

Literally this. Like, word for word this.

 

Five for kids, and none for adopting? *grumbles*

 

I'll probably have 2 kids if possible, sure it is not always good, but I like the idea of leaving something behind when I am dead a way to achieve "imortality?", not only my genes, but my teaching and way of thinking and values, sure they can rebel , but I will have make the best I could with what I had.. also I think is one kind of experience I would regret not living it when I was old (a good thing to have when you are old, is kids to take care of you).

 

You didn't enable multiple choice for the poll :b

Anyway, I've always wanted to have kids when I got older (and well off enough to be able to comfortably raise some). My mom's always been telling me stories from when she was younger and her time through school & spending time with her friends and all that, and how having me and my brothers brought something different to her life. When you have kids, you can't exactly live for yourself anymore; you have to live for both you and for the purpose of raising said kids (whether they're produced by you or adopted*). The bond between a child and the one it considers its parental figure, whether genetic or not, is something that you can't build with anyone else, it's a unique and deeply rooted connection.

I want to be able to have that parental connection with someone, to be able to raise & support them, and see them grow and change into something they strive to be. Even if its at odds with how I might want them to be, I know its their choice and it's something that, after a certain point, I won't have much of a say in anymore. But I know that I will be there for them when/if they do need me, and want to make sure that they know they have someone to count on at any point in time.

*I'd be fine with adopting at some point, but as selfish as it might be, I do definitely want my own child conceived by me/my (eventual) partner. I also want at least one of the children to be a girl because daughters are where its at.


Also

1. There's definitely the possibility of this happening when they're closer to/in their teens and near ~independence~, but to be quite honest I don't think my child would flat out not like me. Might be because I generally think of myself as pretty likeable, but I cannot imagine doing anything that'd push them away to that extent.
2. I may not like who or what they turn out to be. But I do say the same of one of my brothers every now and then, but I still love the little booger loads, so I doubt I'd hold animosity towards my child.
3. Not gonna lie, this makes me mad lol. :L Everyone has value to the world. It might not be impactful of many people at all (e.g. I will not have the impact Walt Disney or Hayao Miyazaki had on people), but there will still be some people, even if it is only just one single person, who you do impact just by being you -- whether you're a total dick or the absolute sweetest, that'll impact someone in some way, shape or form.
4. You've got the experience that your parents/guardians have had. If they were bad, you know what not to do, and if they were good, you know what works and what might not. If you've also babysat or had siblings, that also helps since you're taking charge of their care for some period of time and can watch and even help them develop.

4a. Parenting's never without mistakes. People do mess up in awful ways, but that usually also correlates with them either not putting enough effort in or just being really messed up themselves. If you take stride to make sure to keep communication open with people who can help you and make sure that you yourself are on the right path, things should turn out fine. You're always bound to make mistakes, parenting is never perfect. But as long as you are willing to try and to put in that effort, it'll show.​

 

I most definitely want kids someday, but definitely not right now. I'd want to wait until I was both financially and emotionally stable, and I am neither of those things right now. Not to mention I don't even have a partner.
I have a job in childcare, three to four hours a day, and I'm good with that right now.

I also want to try to be a better parent than my parents were. Not to say that my parents were awful or anything, but my mother has some issues that I can't help but wonder if I'll inherit, and I talk to my father a handful of times a year. I want to do better.

I may or may not have baby names picked out.

 

I like children. Sure, they may be bratty or completely spoiled. Or they may be extremely well behaved and pretty aware of their surroundings. It's not something simple to think about when you have children, especially in times where society has progressed technology that creates pro-life or pro-choice, as well as more and more complicated financial situations and issues. I think it's one of the bravest things in the world to go into parenthood. And it just takes a lot of strength and perseverance to make a family work out.

However, just being aware of the consequences and responsibilities isn't enough to be ready for it. You just have to be a parent in order to understand what being a parent is like. Not saying everyone should be a parent, but I guess we are either meant for it or not.

 

i have one already and its really annoying

 

I do want kids, I'll name them after my favorite cartoons. :3

No, but seriously.

I've always wanted kids. I'm really great with them, my sister and my cousin love me, and I'm always the "cool brother" that spends time with the young kids and teaches them about the beauty of video games. Never been able to just pick out which sex of child I'd rather have, so I'll go ahead and say twins.

Then again, daughters are where it's at so I'd actually like one of those.

Don't want kids now at all, because I'm a really irresponsible little **** and I'm pretty ****ing immature (see? Two curse words already). Plus I'm still in High school. I may be in a relationship with someone I love, but it's way too soon for me to have kids.

Also, not afraid to admit I already have names picked out.

 

Yes I do want a child.

There's nothing really wrong with a child, just depends on how you raise them, as well as certain traits they'll inherit from you.

Though I'll admit that I'm afraid as to what this child would result in the future. Before that , I'll show what's good and bad, right or wrong, just, injust, I'll tech them the fundamentals of life as well as nurture and care for this child. Something that not even my father could do for me. I'm hoping one of them could be a girl as well because daughters are the shiznits and I'm hoping in the future I could find a partner that's willing to be with me till the end. Oh and I'll be showing them every episode of Yu yu hakusho once and while.