Cowards,Gangs and Attempts of Acceptance.

Okay-Anyone who knows me knows that I have been ganged up on on more than one occasion and I try to put on hard skin or whatever,Okay,There is this guy-He is roughly my age-Maybe a little older-Who only seems so say anything to me when he is with a group of people,I walked past him the other day and he was trying to look away from me,I smiled Smugly because at that moment I knew he was just a cowardly little prick-Anyways,I Walked past the 'gang' he is in and the usual "Gay Emo" stuff is said and he was the main one saying the stuff,I just thought Wow-He is too afraid to say things when He is alone but in a gang he is the main one to try to insult in an attempt to be accepted...Now Im wondering what to do-Wait to see him alone and start a fight which I could totally win or Grin and Bare it and continueously be insulted by a stupid gang??

 

Okay once you know you are stronger than him walk over to him push him randomly or say this " me and you right now without your gay little gang and just out of interest were do you see him ???

 

I strongly advise against starting a fight with him, especially if he has a strong group of friends which could easily decide to take revenge against you. He is mentally abusing you, turning this into a physical issue would be a bad idea.

Is there any way you can avoid this group of people? You said the guy is a little older so I assume he's not in your grade/year at school. I'm familiar with the mentality of people like this boy and once they've found someone else to pick on, they generally leave you alone. The majority of bullying ends if you ignore it enough.

If you're going to confront the guy on his own, please don't turn to violence.

 

No, that's an absolutely horrible idea. Whether he is stronger than him or not, starting a confrontation like that will end badly. The safest thing that you can do is report it. If anything continues past that, seek help. If he hangs out with those people, they WILL jump in if you start a confrontation. Unless you feel like getting your ass kicked by 5 people, don't fight him. You've just got to ignore it until he gets bored.

 

Um,That has happened once or twice by seperate gangs-i know its a bit of a bad idea but believe it or not I can take them and seriously hurt most of them-Its just a matter of Do or Dont.

 

Just because it's happened in the past doesn't mean you'll get as lucky this time. One of those guys is stupid enough to be carrying a weapon, and the fact that you've seriously hurt people in the past isn't going to matter at all.

What I think you need to do in general is to simply shrug off these insults. It seems like you get this sort of thing a lot and I know it might sound difficult sometimes, but if you just don't let it get to you the aggressors will most likely go away, as Juicy said. They're only looking to get a rise out of you.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
There's some truth in that. In the end, words are just words. They can hurt you, or you can not let it get to you.

 

Knock him back when he's in a group. lose your weakness in the face of adversity and face him down while he's within a group. When he calls a gay emo then just say he's a cowardly idiot who can't even look you in the eye when he's not in a group. That if he was really as big as he thought he was that he wouldn't need a group to confront you, that if he was really what he thought he was then he'd look you in the eye when he insults you and that he would be big enough to come over to you without his group and say it directly to your face and when he starts to threaten you with his group just turn your back and leave and if he says anything after thast just say "whatever" and continue to leave. Even get some of your own friends and hang around with them more often after that, that way he won't confront you after that. If he catches you on your own with his gang just turn your back and walkaway and if he says stuff just say "whatever" or "I don't care".

People like that need to feel secure in there skin and the only way of doing that is by expressing dominance within a group. It makes them feel as if they are untouchable because they have so many people around them. When you compromise that, their security is gone. That does alot more damage than you'd think. It makes a sutile differance in them that only people very observant of close will recognize.

 

It has happened in the past and It didnt end well for me because those guys where quite literely 5 years older than me (and on both occasions there were 5 of then and I was 12) and these guys are still older than me but I could take them if it came to that

 

But it shouldn't have to come to that. I know for a fact that I could take my sister, but does that mean that I settle our disagreements with violence?
Sometimes you just have to be the bigger person. As long as you're secure with yourself, buck everyone else's opinion.

 

Okay-Settle our disagreement? Walking home and a gang spit abuse at me and thats a disagreement that can be settled through talking? HaHa! And being the bigger person would make me look and feel smaller dont ya think??

 

Uchiha you live in Dublin Ireland right? I know the kind of guys your dealing with. Just read my advice above and it will help. I've dealt with bullies this way before and it has worked for me.

 

Refusing to fight him might make you seem like a wimp in his eyes, but do you really care what he thinks of you? Or what anyone thinks of you, for that matter?
I truly believe that these problems can be diffused with patience and talking. Violence creates more problems than it's worth.

 

You obviously don't understand what being the bigger person means, do you? He's trying to make you feel small and insecure. Then he lures you in and has you under his hands and will make you feel like **** forever. And if you start a fight, even if you win against all of them, he's gonna get the cops involved because he's obviously a pussy. Just ignore him and it'll eventually piss him off that it's not bothering you. DO NOT START A FIGHT! Just from your description, he's just a scared child who's taking it out on others. When you ignore him, it'll piss him off and he'll stop.

 

I say fight 'em when he's alone. Then take polaroids of the aftermath and toss them at him when he cracks wise with his group. No but seriously, if you can try to be an adult about it just walk away.

 

I've had several moments like this. Just recently,I had a mental breakdown about things like this. I can't fight worth a damn(or can I, I've never been in a fight in my life), so I simply ignored them. Of course, It got to me after about a year or two of the same thing over and over again -_-. My parents noticed a huge drop in my grades and my inability to hold a long conversation(I still can't now), and they went straight to the principal after I told them my story(they thought I was following -_-), after that, I have no idea what happened between my classmates and the principal, but they just stopped. I'm fine with my grades now, but I'm still quiet and my self esteem is probably permanetly screwed, and I can't barely make a friend, but the ones I have are REAL friends. But I know know now that if I would have told someone, none of this would have happened.

The Point: Don't fight, be cool and tell someone.