Could you forgive a cheating lover?

I am a forgiving person, get into a biff with someone, they say something to me like nothing happened, and I'll do the same, but I can't see myself forgiving my lover (god knows what sex, coz I'm still unsure) for cheating on me, heck I had a boyfriend in like grade 7 who I dumped because he wouldn't let me do stuff he let his friends do.​

 

Having been cheated on before, I know its a horrible feeling and its a complete breaking of trust. If there is a problem with the relationship then I would want them to talk to me about it, not go off with some random person thinking that will solve everything.

 

Erm, I'm no champion at holding grudges. But there are some cases. It'd be hard for them to keep secrets, one way or another I'd find out before they know I know.

It’d be hard for me to forgive the person I thought I loved. It goes to show just how committed humans are to a relationship. How much they really care about you to not hurt you in that way, whether or not they can resist temptation & all that. Plus how much you can trust a person.

Like what was posted before, what made them cheat? Was I not good enough for them? Was I suffocating/imprisoning them in something they didn’t want to be a part of?

I’ve never been cheated on, I wouldn’t know the feeling. I’m sorry for all those that do, it must hurt a lot x_x I think being cheated on might lower my ability to trust people. I might block myself out from the world entirely and go cry in my emo corner. I hope it never happens to me or anyone I care about.

“Forgive and Forget.” Psht, sure… I’d be able to forgive, but I’d never, ever be able to forget.

 

I dont know, but I seriously doubt it. I definitely wouldnt be able to trust that person, let alone try to restrain myself from kicking the ass of the person shes cheating with. (If they knew, I mean.)

 

i would but not if she did it more than once ^_^

 

They would have to earn their forgiveness from me. When I get attached to someone, I show it. And I have anger problems. If my girlfriend ever cheated on me, I would probably go to the other guy and kick his ass. Like no joke. To tell someone you love them, and then lie behind their backs and to be with another person is cruel.

 

I would, I forgive people very easily, would I go out with her again, probably not, but I would totally wanna be friends again, I dont hold grudges against anyone

 

It depends on the person. I fancy myself a forgiving person, partly because I can never remember in the end why I'm mad at someone and partly because I hate being upset with people. If they did it more than once I don't think I would stay with them, but if they really did seem truly sorry I think I could forgive them.

 

Hmmm well if the person admits to seeing someone else i might forgive them after a while
but if they keep it a secret ill beat the crap out of them XD

 

Same as Kaxej, I'd probably want them to earn back forgiveness. To be honest, I'd be slightly more pissed than sad if somebody cheated on me, that's just the way I get.

 

Maybe

Give them a break at first, then later maybe give them a second chance.

 

forgiveness is one of the most important parts of a relationship, no matter how awful the other person may be. i think that no matter what my lover does wrong i will always forgive them, because ive been on both end of the cheating spectrum

 

He'd be out the door before he could say pezz monkeys (if I found out, that is).

If he told me honestly and showed some remorse, it'd still be over. Just not quite so harshly.

If he cheats once, the trust is broken. How am I supposed to trust him when he says "It'll never happen again"?

 

It would depend on how serious the relationship was, and if it was an on-going affair, or just a drunken one-night stand. I'd be hurt and offended no matter what, but I could maybe forgive my lover f it was only a one time thing, especially if the relationship hadn't gone that far yet.
An affair that had been going on for years, even before we were (hypothetically) married... Yeah, I don't think I would be able to forgive that.

 

I got back together with my cheating ex a couple times. He was a guy and now I just plain hate. Die Kody :roar:

 

Yes i would for forgive them if they promise not to cheat on me again