Could you forgive a cheating lover?

Question is obvious. Could you do it or in which cases? Why can or can't you forgive him/her?

I'm pretty forgiving so I probably wouldn't hold it against my lover.
I aim to please, not to possess. (I said that in another thread somewhere.)
So how about you?

 

Probably not. If she's cheating on me with another, it means she doesn't truely love me. It's not about possession, but it isn't fair to do such a thing to me. It's hurtful.

 

I would be annoyed at them for a while, but sadly im a forgiving person.
Or maybe I would start to think of what I did to make them cheat...
Who knows XD

 

Most likely no. I find it idiotic if someone were to cheat. If you're not sure about your feelings, it's best to take a break instead of cheating which hurts a lot more.

And basically what Rainshine said. If he he cheats on me, it just shows he doesn't love me the way he said he does.​

 

I'll most certainly forgive them, because I will never hold a grudge. Even if you shoot me in the leg. I'm not exaggerating. The person just cannot expect me to be with them ever again, under any circumstances. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

However, I've been told cheating is different with men and women. People claim men should sometimes be forgiven, depending on the situation, because they don't cheat with their minds, just the body. Whereas women cheat with their hearts, mind, and body. I don't think you can generalize things like that, but whatever.

Back to point, I'd forgive them. It wouldn't be right away, but it wouldn't be a year later either.

 

It would really depend on the mood i was in before i found out . i would ether rip their head out, break up with them, forgive a little, or i wouldn't care. but it would still hurt me a lot.

 

As Rainshine said it's hurtful to be cheated on, and the thought of someone I love saying that to another is just cruel to me.

 

No. I would never forgive someone if they cheated on me. You do it once you're gonna do it again. If they really loved me, then they would'nt have done it in the first place. If they cheat, it's adios, and goodbye.

 

I get what everyone is saying, but if you won't necessarily care in, say, 5 years then why not just forgive the loser? They don't deserve your love anyway, so you're better off afterward. I think that is the main reason to forgive them, because otherwise you haven't really moved on.

 

Yeah, I think I'd think that too.
Well, I'd contemplate my share of the blame in any case.

 

that's hard. I wouldn't forgive someone that cheated on me.
I know some people around my life that did it to people I care about.

 

I'm a forgiving person, however, I do not think there would be any way I would be able to forgive my lover if he was cheating on me. This is the only exception where I would not forgive. In my eyes, if he cared for me enough to cheat on me, then it would obviously mean that his feelings for me were not as strong as mine. Also, neither would I have any guarantee that he will not repeat his mistake again. The trust I have in people is very fragile, and I do not give second chances when it comes to trust. If he cannot control his urge to hold himself back from other women when he is supposed to be with me, then that relationship will not have a meaning to me anymore. The relationship would have broken the moment he took his step towards that woman's bed.

Besides, if you are on the verge of cheating on your partner, you might as well just end the relationship since it is apparently not strong enough to bind you to your partner.

 

no. if there is something I am going to ever refuse to do in my life its cheat on someone or have someone cheat on me. I think that is possitively ridiculous and having friends who have expirenced and having people do that its possitively ******ed. I dont get why you would do it and if you did, you obviously dont care enough about how I feel for me to even be with you.

 

that would be a big NO from me because i would be pissed beyond belief plus i dont forgive nor forget

 

Nah i would never forgive my lover cheating..
Is shows how much are love is if she gonna break it for money/sex and shows that are love means nothing at all. ​

 

short answer: No.
Long answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

seriously, thats just horrible. If you want to be with someone else, break up with me. If you made a committment to me and decide to break it, I don't want you.

So, now that I think about it, I probably would forgive someone for cheating on me, but after it happened I'd probably just find them too stupid and immature to be with.

 

I think cheating is such a cruel thing to do, really. I couldn't forgive someone for cheating on me. I'm not a forgiving person, and I'll only forgive people who are really close to me. But seriously, if I was with someone who cheated on me, it would totally show that that person just doesn't actually care about me. I'd never cheat on my lover if I was ever in a relationship, so why should they do that to me, anyways? I've been pushed around so much in my life, that forgiving people is hard for me. To me, getting cheated on would be like getting stabbed in the back. It's betrayal in my eyes. So, I just couldn't forgive a cheater and stay with them.

 

How can you forgive someone who basically thinking you dont exist and dates someone else it like her/him saying "He/She nothing to me" just breaks your heart..
If someone forgives a lover that cheated on you.
Then you must have a very very good reason why.​

 

Surely the circumstances make a difference? I'd say that there's a strong difference between being date-raped at a party and actively going out and seeking someone else. In the first case I think forgiveness and acceptance could be in order, but for the second then it's better just to end it.

Then again, I must ask what the problem is with cheating, having never been in a relationship myself.

 

Seeing as I know the pain of being cheated on more than once, no.