Could you date someone who your family/friends didn't approve of?

Sorry if this has been done already... I don't remember seeing this earlier, though...

Anyways, as the title says, could you date someone not liked by your family/friends?

Personally, it depends on how serious the relationship is. If I've just been casually seeing someone, and wasn't too serious about it, I probably would stop dating him. But if someone expressed their dislike when I'd been seeing him for a longer time, and was serious about it, I'd say 'tough luck, I'm the one dating him, not you," and continue the relationship.

 

Fun fact: Romeo and Juliet were never actually told "No, you two may not see each other". The closest they got was a suggestion from Juliet's maid that it wasn't wise. The problems arose from miscommunication and Romeo revenge-killing Juliet's cousin and getting himself exiled.

 

You know, I really hate it when people use Romeo and Juliet as an example of a romantic story, because they committed suicide because of their crush.
Yes, a crush, not love, and no, definitely not for love.
They were practically still kids, and they rushed to marriage way too quickly. If they had survived the play, I think their relationship would've been rather strained, not full of love and happiness and fluff.

Quoted for truth.

And now, at the risk of sounding hypocritical, let's get back on-topic 8D

 

Of course I could. Who's the one dating her, anyways: me, or my family? Besides, I don't like my family enough to bow to their every whim anyways

 

Well, it'd be kind of hard to please my family. My mum's pretty racist and would probably throw out anyone who wasn't white. She actually said to me before "it's okay if you bring guys home, as long as they're not black." .__.

I'd probably still stay with someone my family didn't like but talk to whoever had the problem and tell them if it's their issue they can stay out of our way~

 

I probably wouldn't date someone my family didn't approve of in the first place. But if I did, and my family demanded that I break up with them...
Well I probably would :V

Yay for obedience.

 

Well it'd be hard for my mom to stop me considering I live an hour away. But I would honestly tell her that if she doesn't like who I'm dating, sucks for her. Same for my friends. I'd date a girl because I like her, not because anyone else does or doesn't.

 

i really wouldnt care
if i want to do it i'll do it
i dont let anyone affect my life because of their opinion because its my life
not theirs

 

I'd continue dating the person. It's not my family's choice of who I should date and who I shouldn't. I chose to date that person. Whether the relationship is serious or not, I will continue to date that person. I'm actually friends with someone my brother hates, but I just tell him to shut up and mind his own business. I see it as my family has no right to come in and tell me who I should date, who I should be friends with, and so on.​

 

My mom has said the same thing, lol.

It depends really. My mom has always told me this story that her father warned her not to marry my father, and he turned out to be right about that. I take that to heart.
I do however think I should run my own life.

 

I couldn't care a less if my family didn't approve of my boyfriend. I am the one who is dating and I am not stupid, I know choose between right and wrong. I will never date a guy who smokes,drinks excessive amounts of alcohol or do drugs duh..but I'll have one problem: religion. My mom is VERY religious and she wants me to date a christian guy, sure I don't have problem with that but what if the guy I want to marry is not a christian? My mother will rage.

 

Yes and no. I mean, I have before. But every time my parents have told me not to date someone or not to be friends with a certain person, and I've ignored them and been friends or dated that persona anyways...It's turned out horribly wrong. XD I honestly think my parents have been through enough to advise things like that, so when they tell me "Oh, please reconsider dating this boy he really seems like the type who'd break your heart." Since I've been hurt so many times not listening to them, I now use their words of warning to actually think before I act. Ultimately, I make my own decisions. But I respect my parents advice and experience enough to consider what they say now.
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If the reasons I'm being given are legitimate, then I will listen to them. If they aren't, I won't.

 

I don't think my mother has ever really approved of a relationship to be honest, the one guy she does approve of for me to date is the one guy I'll never date.

That being said, she respects me enough to allow me to live for myself and make my own decisions.

I have dated people before that were not approved of by my friends/family, and my friends have dated people that I haven't always approved of either. I personally think that you should take all the chances you are faced with, unless you want to get old and realise you wasted your entire life living for everyone else.

I'll of course listen and pay attention as to why they disaprove of the person, but I would also hope that they respect me enough to allow me to make my own decisions.

 

I don't think my mom would ever accept any partner I arrive home with. I've learned to live with that fact, and to be honest, she can politely walk away if she thinks I will drop someone I have fallen for just for her C:

As for my friends, the same stands for them. If they have their reasons, I'll listen, but doubt I will take action.

 

Well, my parents never seem to approve of anyone I have brought home so in the end, I don't really tend to listen to them and just do my thing. My tastes are also different than theirs so I don't expect us to see eye to eye on it.

However, my close friends are a bit different as we are all in the same age group roughly. The gf I would date would be also around my friends and such and if they don't get along with her due to certain reasons, I would probably take that as a hint that we have little future together because I don't really believe that having a gf means tossing your friends out on their ears. I certainly don't expect a gf to do that for me. I think the ideal scenario lets you have your friends and your significant other and if they can't get along, I've had my friends for a longer period of time.. some since 8th grade. I will probably choose them over some girl I have known for less than a year, as the close friends I do have are not the type to get jealous and any time my friends have had an issue with a gf of mine, it's because she -is- the jealous sort that tries to push them out of my life, whether they are male or female.

My family is also racist.. despite the fact that I am half Native American and white. Go figure. However, they don't say much as one sister of mine married a Japanese man and the other sister had two kids from a black father and though they cannot stand him (because he really is an asshat), the kids are freaking adorable. They've become a lot more tolerant since that, though some things linger. In the end, unless the gf does something to affront my parents, I will probably not put too much stock into what they say about her as I know how demanding they can be on me, let alone anyone else I'd hang around.

 

I know how that feels. My guardian thinks I should date one of the guys on this site. i couldn't care anymore because that guy is a grammar nazi and post Epic failo or Fail too much in the spam zone

 

Your guardian wants you to date someone from THIS site? They seriously want you to choose someone from the internet, and of all places KH-Vids?

Well, I'm sure they have their reasons, but unless you want to date said member then don't, you shouldn't feel like you are forced into a relationship for someone else's sake.

 

"Could" meaning "be allowed to"? If so, then probably not if my parents disapprove, unless I keep it on the down-low. The guy would have to be pretty bad for my parents to disapprove of him, though. Probably if they didn't like him, I wouldn't like him in the first place. They're not particularly prejudiced, thank gawsh.

If my friends didn't like the guy I was dating, I would definitely consider their what they think. My friends opinions mean a lot to me, and I know they wouldn't tell me if they didn't think they were trying to help me. It wouldn't be the deciding factor for me, though.

 

I can't.. It's againts the "laws" lol