Child Discipline

I think that children do need to learn some respect; however, physical punishment is not always the answer. I do believe that at times it may be necessary, but only for serious misbehaving. In a lot of cases, talking and timeout just doesn't do the job that needs to be done. I don't believe that spankings should be used as the only form of punishment used. I didn't vote, becuase neither of the choices fit my beliefs. They are too black and white and this issue, like so many others is not a black and white issue.

 

kids these days don't have any mannors!......<.<

 

I voted yes. I believe spanking/corporal punishment is good with limited use. It can emphasize the severity of a transgression in a way that timeout just can't. The parent just has to be careful not to do it too often for too minor things, and also not to hurt the child seriously.

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timeout? lol. are u joking? i have seen so many parents try that, and seen how the kids don't care and then they're bad again rite away. i even suggested, "Why don't u just hit him?" and they say "We don't believe in hitting our kids." and i tried so hard not to laugh (their kids are still out of control, lol)

EDIT: wow, i'm so surprised that so many people said no. but i also agree with BigC. u can't do it too much and u can't do it if they didn't do anything THAT bad. but u DO need to do it when ur kid is like hitting YOU (yes, i have seen kids do this and i have suggested hitting them, but they still say no).

 

XDDDD Agreed. Mah mom spanked me enough so that I knew that she was boss and NOT to be messed with. I don't see it as physical abuse, that's too strong. But I also don't see it as the only way to punish a child.

For instance, once I dropped a plate ON ACCIDENT. Of course she came up and was all, "LEAH! Why'd you do that?! Blah blah blah! Yada yada yada!" Then she got over it, I got over it, and we both went on with our lives. But then, I decided at school that I was gonna run off with my friend at nap time, locked the bathroom, had a couple of wet paper towel fights, and washed my hair in the toilet. (Yes. In the toilet. =\ ) Would a time out would have worked then? I think not. I got it and I got it bad. >.>

And so far this system has worked well. I turned out great and I haven't had a spanking in.. what? 2 years? (Okay, I had one this summer, but that was a mistake, and I'll forgive her fore it. >.>)

 

then u threaten to cancel their cell phone, and then actually do it if they don't stop. if they don't have a cell phone, ground them, and if they go out anyway, they need their a sses kicked. and it feels so good to give a b itchy kid what's coming to them

 

I don't think so. Geez, they're kids. They can get time-outs or get grounded, but spanking's a little out of my league. Although time-outs really don't do much...

 

I didn't vote, because they are ridiculous choices. A child can be spanked for doing some things wrong. But the way you put your votes, it seems like they have to get smacked 100% of the time or not.

 

yea sry, i thot about having 4 choices, 2 for each but then i decided against it. i dint realize my choices were very extreme to each side. but which one do u prefer?

 

In this case, I'd probably prefer that children should recieve punishment in this way when they do something very bad,

 

Are you kidding me? Think about it like this...

If you come home, it's a stressful day at work, and your kid(s) come up to you and start whining and complaining and throwingn a fit, you wouldn't like it would you? So, being as what you said, (possibly in a diff. case) you would spank/hit/discipline. BUT! you must not realize that when you are in that state of mind, any amount of hurt means nothing, because when you start yelling and hitting, you can't stop. It's like an adrenaline rush of pure anger. The more you do, the more you want.

Spanking doesn't hurt seriously SURE, but if it's done repeatedly on end for 5 minutes straight...yeah...it's definetly gonna be more than "not to hurt the child."

 

Have you ever had a spanking before?
I honestly don't think it's possible to spank anyone for 5 minutes straight. >.>

 

i did. that damn coat hanger (she used a coat hanger), kept smacking my butt. but i deserved it becuz i threw rocks at the neighborhood kids as they were riding their bikes just to make them fall, i believe one of them needed stitches. yea, i deserved that. and after that, i NEVER did anything bad again (nothing serious like that anyway)

 

my brother was being really bad and my parents yelled at him what do you guys think of that?

 

Well, yes, as a matter of fact. My dad was fairly abusive when I was still an adolescent. Have YOU had a spanking? If you have, you would know how bad it hurts, and that like I said, in the state of mind the person is in (anger), there is no limits, and thus the person could go on for maybe longer.

 

You are misconstruing what I said. I wouldn't spank a kid for whining, and I certainly wouldn't spank 'em for 5 minutes solid. But disregarding that for the sake of addressing your scenario, the responsibility is on the parent not to lose control, and any normal adult should be able to handle that. When I was a small kid, I was spanked plenty of times for doing something very bad, but neither of my parents ever lost control with it, and it was more effective than what a timeout would have been.

Parents who have history of child abuse ought not to be spanking their children, but parents with history of child abuse are not the norm. Normal people are able to maintain control.

 

D= ahh no they shouldn't, i mean if they get like that imagine when they're older.... they'll start hitting you ^^;;

 

I think kids should be spanked if they do something particaularly outrageous(i.e when they're WAY out of control) and then in controlled bursts of 2 or 3 at a time. If u get a little spanking in early it sets a mindset of authority and spanking won't be required in their older years.

 

Oh yeah. I've definately been spanked. I was the baddest little two year old the world ever saw. But the most my mom ever ever got to was 20 hits. (And I did something REALLY bad, so I dun blame her. >.> ) And I'm sorry you got abused as a child, but personally, I don't see spanking and physical abuse as the same thing. For me that'll be like... someone saying being metrosexual and homosexual is the same thing. There's a huge gap in between. >.>

 

I voted no although kids who misbehave should get spanked if what they did was really serious. But Super Nanny's methods are way more effective.

(I would have loved to say more but I'm using a PSP and it's really starting to annoy me).