Well...I dont think I've been bullied since 9th grade but I've gotten in fights before while I was in middle and elementary school (lol, public school). Ever since I went to private school its annoying because all of the rich kids would rather talk behind your back instead of say/do something in front of you. To be honest, I dont know which form I tolerate less. Sure people can get into a fight and it might hurt but at least it lasts like 10-15 minutes. Talking behind someone's back lasts a lot longer and you dont mind it at first, but **** builds up.
I know exactly what you mean. When I was younger (3rd or 4th grade) I used to get bullied a lot, to the point where me and a few guys would end up in an all out brawl on the playground. I didn't always win, either, and they felt nothing against beating on a girl. Which, to be honest, I can't really blame them, because all the girls at that time were *****y, and I hung out with the guys much more often. Once I got in high school, I've gotten in a few fistfights, but pretty much everyone in my school is more bark than bite and after about five minutes they give up. Except that has led to people talking behind my back; from those outside my circle of friends it doesn't bother me too much, but I've heard some of my friends talking about me on a few occasions, and it really feels like a kick to the stomach. So at this point I'm a bit of a loner, though I'll still go to their parties or whatever if they invite me. Another common issue for me is that I get harassed for my vitiligo, by now it's spread so much that there's nothing I can do to cover it up, but I never really cared about it. Then people would stare/point/etc., and it finally evolved in to flat-out ridicule. Though to prove how ridiculous they really are I continue to do nothing about it, including letting my silver hair grow. I do have one best friend though, I confide almost everything with her and she's always there for me. She's also prevented me from getting into a lot of trouble because of the fights, so I do owe her big for that.
It was on another forum, another KH fansite even. There were twelve of us, named after combining our original nicknames with Org. names (Styx + Saïx = Staïyx). We were NU (Noob United) and were sly, vicious numerous, cutthroat and unfortunately pretty intelligent for our ages. There was one guy we disliked a lot because in our opinion he was dumb, painfully unfunny, a complete stranger to the outside world and incompetent in general. We were power-hungry teenagers and never really skipped an opportunity to show that we were and what we thought of him. We had the guy and anyone who'd defend him in a sort of monkey wrench grip since no one really had any ammo against us: we had a nasty habit of either carefully hiding our vulnerable spots or (like me) believing we didn't have any...plus one of us was admin. Things got set in motion, very bad things, and unfortunately I must confess I played a key role in it. Maybe I'll tell the rest soon. In a way that was the worst case of bullying I've ever came across. I just happened to be on the other side at the time. Bet you didn't see that coming.
The only time I've actually been bullied was in first grade. Two boys actually started picking on me by calling me names/insults/etc. It wasn't as bad as someone might have thought it was, but it had come to the point where I cried everyday and refused to go to school. My parents didn't know and my teacher didn't care. When my parents found out the reason why I always cried when they dropped me off at school, they had decided to talk with the teacher and the principal. That still didn't stop those boys. The bullying finally did stop when my dad said something to them and I finally stood up to them. I've had "friends" talk about me behind my back and even right next to me, but that was in middle school when I basically had no friends. Those "friends" even avoided me at one point so that really did hurt. I don't talk to them anymore and I'm glad I don't see them anymore either. I despise those people with a passion. Everything that happened after the bullying was pure betrayal. So now I just have trust issues and I can't really consider the friends I have now as the ones I would go to since I'm having trouble trusting them. They haven't done anything, but it's just because of paranoia and my trust issues that's eating away at me.
I'd been bullied ever since I moved from one town to another back in second grade, and never truly lost the moniker of "new kid". I was punched around, tripped, thrown down stairs, had things stolen from, been talked about behind my back, pretty much from elementary school until I graduated high school. The bullying finally stopped when I entered college, because there, everyone's the new kid. And you don't see each other as often as you do in high school. But god...all the bruises, scars, sprains, a broken ankle...it sucked.
I was never really bullied. In fifth grade I didn't really have many friends, and I would often get ridiculed for that, but otherwise, I haven't been bullied. I have seen some bad stuff though. There's this kid in my Chemistry and Gym class who has some mental issues. They're not really anything bad or serious, the only thing really wrong with him is that he has temper issues (from what I've heard, it's easy to get him mad and he will absolutely explode on you if you do), a bit of a speech problem, and he's kind of socially awkward (I don't know what he has). But the kids in my class like to get a rise out of him, and I'll admit, it's funny sometimes, but I do feel bad. :/
I got pinned for racial bullying at one point. And yes, I will openly admit that I did go so far as to severely hurting the other female involved. She was muslim, and wore a dark headscarf all the time she was in school. Her attitude was terrible, and at the time, she found a distinct humour in picking faults about me. I just let it slide for a while, and obviously, a lot built up. When I eventually snapped, I ended up calling her some horrid names, and engaging in some rather bad physical violence which resulted in her admittance to the local hospital. I got excluded from school for racial discrimination and excessive use of violence to another pupil. She never did come back, actually.
Put your reading glasses on loves, I've got an essay for you. Spoiler Bullying is a pretty big problem in the schools in my area, of course it is an issue to some extent in all schools, but the schools here I've never seen anything like it. I was bullied pretty much the entire way through school from year 4 upwards, before then everything was fine and dandy, nothing major, but when I was in year 4 we moved to a new area, new schools all that jazz. There was a lot of name calling, pushing, hitting, the usual kind of kiddie crap, I remember hearing a rumous that I was ****ing some kid from the senior school (I was 9, I didn't even fully understand sex, let alone understand it enough to go and bang someone). I also remember being bullied really badly because I hit puberty really early, so I'd get made fun of for being the only girl in my year to be wearing a bra (how ******ed I know). Anyway, at that school it was never anything past basic, I could deal with it. Outside of school however, I got beat up a hell of a lot, my older sister caused a lot of trouble, and the people she pissed off usually took it out on me instead of her, I had to learn to defend myself very fast, but more often than not it wasn't enough. I got in a lot of fights. Roll on the next school, I was bullied so bad by this one gang of girls that the teachers almost had to step in to drive me home on some nights. They would wait for me outside of school with sticks and bricks, sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me, that rhyme rings a lot with those memories, they never broke anything, but I got a lot of bruises and lot of cuts. I actually still have a small scar from one of them on my arm. So we moved again, and for a short while there was no bullying, but then I started the High School, and it all started from scratch all over again, I'd get pushed around and hit, I had kids spit at me and on me, I got knocked down some stairs, that was a lot of fun. I had things thrown at me, had my things taken off of me, I got threatened once in science class by some kids who tried to set me on fire. My school was a specialist sports school so had something of a blind eye to sports stars doing bad things, lucky for me that a lot of the people who bullied me were said sports stars. Again a lot of things were happening outside of school too. It carried on for along time until the day I fought back. This girl started on me, she knocked my glasses on the floor and screamed at me that I was a *****, then after school she and her friends followed me, her friends held my friends back and she punched me. I remember her holding my arms so I couldnt hit her back, and she was kicking me, and I just lost it, and so I head butted her, full on, she let go then and ran off crying. I never got bullied as badly after that, I still had small occurences, but never that badly again. My younger sister however got bullied so badly at that school that she used to cut her arms. When she was at school she would be thrown around and beat up badly, though if I ever caught anyone messing with her, I'd make sure they wouldn't do it again. In both mine and my sisters case, the teachers didn't give a ****. I remember there were a few kids who tried to commit suicide because of how they were treated. So thats a summary of school, lets move on to University o: At University, take in mind this is where mature adults are meant to be, when we have outgrown all the childishness of our younger teenage years. There was a girl I was really good friends with,but one day she flipped, and because she lead the group I was a part of, she banned everyone from talking to me, she also spread rumours that I was pregnant with one of our tutor's babies, which if the university had heard, would have been a really ****ing huge deal. University for me was a really ****** time, because of this one girl disliking me I lost an entire friendship group, even now I don't know why. Oh I also used to get forced into writing other peoples essays and assignments for them, or else I'd regret it if I didn't o: Outside of education, I was bullied in the majority of my relationships. I've dated guys who were physically abusive, emotionally and mentally abusive. I remember one boyfriend who used to hit me to prove that guys were stronger than girls. I won't go into details on others, but thats just a summary. Then of course there is the internet. Heck when I first joined here I was treated like **** because a lot of the popular members at that time couldn't stand a member who was polite and/or nice. There are still some memories that hurt now, surprisingly some of the things that have happened online have had more of an impact on me than those that occured offline. I remember I made a friend online, who I really trusted, but it turned out they became my friend so that they could collect gossip and my secrets to give to other people so they could use it against me and taunt me with it. It is one of the reasons I find it quite hard to talk to people as much now, I also find it a lot harder to trust people. I remember there was a girl on this site, some of the popular members at that time didn't like her, one of them said she sent him a virus so she got banned, he was lying though. Oh and lets not forget how a certain bunch of people went for Ginta, and how some go for others even now. I'm really rambling and I do apologise, this post is seriously just a summary of the bullying I've experienced or seen. I cannot stand bullies, there is no excuse for victimising and attacking another human being to the extent that some people do. p.s No I am not saying I am perfect, because I am far from perfect, but seriously, the way some people treat others is disgusting.
Really any form of bullying is just sad. Public and private schools alike have it... it's just the manifest form is different. Of course we do treat the core causes of bullying as latent, they really aren't that latent at all when you have movies made by Disney and Hollywood portraying "popular" and "nerd/geek" kids. I'd say the worst case of bullying I've ever seen was when I was in 7th grade, when a fellow classmate was basically shoved up against railing and beaten on just for being a bit of a nerd. It was strange. I was friends with the guys that did it, but I wasn't really aware of the problem until later (high school probably). There have been cases just as worse, just in the manifestation of words, not actions. You get kids passing rumors and assumptions of a boy or girl in high school, then the next thing you know, everyone is saying things about that student that aren't true and make him pretty upset. And you can't do anything on the authoritative level, because it could either embarrass him more or make the students have another reason to mess with the falsities. I felt the effects of bullying on multiple levels, but I still had plenty of friends... plus, by the end of high school, the "bullying" turned into "immature nonsense." I never was picked on, but rather, students just didn't like me for some reason because of something. One person stood out in particular... and he actually attends my college now, but he's really just a product of his environment. I would love to see where some of these "bullies" and etc end up.
I never was bullied badly in school because people knew my "big-shot"brother (that was always a big bruise to my pride, btw >_>). I'd always get picked on for butting in on other fights, though. Bullying is just how arrogant pricks try to impose on others. There's really no other way to look at it. The thing that really pisses me off, though, is when those arrogant pricks get together decide to gang up on one defenseless kid just to make the group "look good". Pfft. Truth is, they don't know jack about "pride" or "honor". Sure, those are big nerdy words to some people, but they mean something, you know that?
