Are you in love?

You're going to hate this but I couldn't resist.

Your name is now Mak n'...

Spoiler

Cheese!

 

Kamakaze .

 

You do a better one >:C

 

That is barely recognizable.

... But it would stick.

Fine, have a nickel.

How is that even a pun? It does not change my name, it combines it with something else to be ironic. "You + Cheese". Punny, right?

/greatly dislikes it

We have a winner.

I didn't mean it as a bad thing. It was more that it was so bad I laughed at it.

I am patently bad at making puns, trust me.

 

Good ol' Mahkeys

 

Mmkay, well sorry if you were offended by my statement, but I don't think there's anything wrong with voicing my opinion on the matter just as those who feel differently are able to express themselves. I didn't tell anyone that they were wrong to feel the way that they do, nor did I say anything about either side of it being better. I'm also not forcing anyone to feel a certain way, and I'm pretty sure my post in this thread is the only time I've ever voiced my thoughts on the subject to anyone.

I've already elaborated here; ​

Everyone wants to be loved, and experience it. But in my opinion, there are still more important things in life, especially when you're younger and have so much to experience and so much to do. The type of 'whining' I'm referring to is on a more intense scale than the just the natural desire that most people have and that I'm assuming you're talking about, and I personally don't think the loneliness of being single is worth killing yourself over. My opinion.



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What do you mean joke, lover boy?

 

I'm not one to ***** but you can't really say anything if you've never experienced living in a world where you're either ignored or treated like **** by everyone including your parents. You can be fine with it like some people are. You can be fine with it like some people are but it's like you said, it's a natural desire and some people get fed up when they're being denied something against their will.

 

Understood, and I do understand where people in this thread are coming from. In my experiences, the times I've been ridiculously ... erm ... Sad, lonely or denied of love, being single isn't the exact source of the problem. It's a variety of other things that come together to form that sadness, or depression. Feeling ignored or unloved, etc, in addition to being lonely because you're single is different (to me) than the only source of sadness being the fact that you're single.

I honestly understand feeling lonely, and wanting to be loved. There's nothing wrong with that and I'm not arguing against it.

For clarification, I have a cousin. She's fifteen-years-old. She's also constantly threatening suicide, the reason = because she can't go live with her (15-year-old) boyfriend. She has a large, loving family. But she feels like this boy is the entire world. There's no abuse in her household, no neglect. She's taken care of. I've reached out to her, my grandparents have, my mom, her mom, she has loving friends, but she feels like if she's not dating this boy, nothing in life is worth it. She's also actively attempting to get pregnant by this boy so she can be with him forever, linked together via child. I sat down with her privately and she vented to me about how she was feeling, and the conclusion is that she wants a boyfriend. That all of her friends have one, and those on TV have one, and in movies, and she needs a boyfriend, so she's going to kill herself if my aunt doesn't let her have sex with said boy, and have a baby with him, and move in with him.

The only thing she stands by is that she needs a boyfriend, and some of her friends (and some of those she's surrounded by in school) apparently feel the same way. I don't know, I just don't think that's entirely normal or healthy.

Regarding this bit;

I respect that, but I also don't think it's exactly fair to make a point like that without actually knowing what I've experienced in my life. Same from me to you. ​

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Is it just me or do most topics on emotions and love in the SpamZone usually turn into war zones?

No, it's probably just me.​

 

I'm totally not against what you're saying Jayn. I totally agree with what you've said actually. But your cousin sounds like a severe rarity as far as I'm concerned...

 

She is, not a lot of people I know are ... that intense, haha. But I thought it would be more ... um. Helpful to give a clearer example so people understand the intensity I'm referring to, and the difference I've been trying to make clear.

"I wish I had someone in my life.../sadness."

is different than, "I NEED someone. I MUST HAVE. I cannot live on this planet without someone. Being in a relationship is my destiny and only purpose."

And that's what I've been trying to point out this entire time. I'm not trying to shoot down the lonely hearts, but I just. I honestly don't think it's healthy for anyone to be that obsessive over dating. Still my opinion, but yeah. asfhioahowh. I am sorry if I'm offending people, but it was honestly just refreshing to see someone actually content with being single after all of this dating drama going on in my family.

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Yeah, I totally agree with that. I hate, hate hearing people ***** that "My life sucks I want to die!" just because they're not dating someone. Its like...you really want to compare your life to the lives of millions of people suffering in the third-world? I've been there, and seen what they go through....relationships are the last thing they need.

But off that tangent, I deal with this predicament of people thinking a relationship will fix their lives quite a few (a lot) of times. I've been there myself too, comes from being single for my entire life. But I realize that, hey, wait a sec, I can live being single for a while! Because I haven't found a girl that I really want to be with yet (well, none that are single...that's another story I'll not be sharing so publicly). I may get sad sometimes when I see a lot of my friends being happy with boyfriends and girlfriends, but I know how hard they work at it, so I'm like, they deserve that, and hell, maybe I'll get that someday too.

Gotta live the single life with a glass-half-full perspective, cause people don't want to date guys/girls that have the mentality that the world is against them.

 

/kills mood forever and returns to the topic at hand.

I believe in love, I'm not in love right now but I was before. As of for the past few years now after my last break up of the person i really loved, you learn a lot of things. I was young then, I still am now but everyone has a different way of understanding what love is. I'm glad to have experienced this for my own. When you hear people say that they are in love, you don't understand unless you experience it yourself. I'm pretty sure I like the idea of love than being in love itself, unless for sure it's the person I am in love with. Though, right now... I believe that relationships are too much for me to handle right now and I don't mind waiting. *shrugs*

I'm not really searching for a boyfriend, you expect the unexpected or something right? If something happens it happens. I'm not looking, I'm just looking to be satisfied with my own life with my friends and family.

Right now, I'm just looking to be more loved by my dad. I want to spend more time with him so he can understand what kind of person i am. ​

 

You know what? I'm just tired of being a virgin. Sooner or later, I'm just going to lose it (since I don't use it)

 

Agreed. Right now I'm in a state where I'm okay with not being loved but afraid that once I'm over her she'll start to love me back. Wisconsin, in other words. I don't feel like I simply MUST be with her, but at the same time I wish I could be​

 

Here's the difference though
People in Africa usually AREN'T lonely. They tend to have families and friends that they spend day to day enjoying life with even when they lack basic life necessities. You know how even the shitties of films can be awesome if you watch it with friends? It's like that.
People alone don't have anybody. There's nothing worse then feeling unwanted until of course you learn to cope with being undesirable.

But what if your life circumstances has built you up to see the world that way?
Is it really healthy to delude yourself into thinking a way that goes against your entire life experience simply for the sake of appeasing to basic attractive standards?

 

I fully agree with the second half of this. Or rather, the position implied. To make this more applicable, what if the world really is against you? What if more than ninety percent of the people you meet away from the keyboard will reject you? I think that being convinced you are well-liked while everyone hates you is also unattractive. One should be able to read the mood. You could also argue that someone will not want to date someone who is hated by society, though.

 

I've noticed that a lot of people apparently think that you aren't allowed to have problems if you aren't a starving child living in a third-world country.

Edit: Don't take me totally literally because it's half joking, but I don't think people being sad for not being a relationship needs to be compared to people that live in a totally different environment to make a point.

 

This frustrates me as well. I mean, obviously there are people out there that have problems a lot more grave than yours, but that doesn't make yours any less real or painful. I suppose it can to remind yourself that you've got a lot going for you and are pretty well-off, but when you say "I'm upset because _______" and someone replies "well there are kids starving in Africa :L," it just seems silly to me. It's apples to oranges.