This isn't really much of a big deal but it's been bothering me. This girl in my school who has been nasty to me since day one in my group isn't invited to my graduation party because I really just don't like her. She found out I was having a graduation party from one of my friends and she is giving me hell about it. And the thing is, my friends are actually suprised that she isn't invited, when I've had problems with her before. I want to ask if I'm wrong, since I really don't think I am but my friends think I am being mean by not inviting her,someone that has been giving me problems all year. Am I wrong? EDIT: She has an aggressive personality.She is mean and makes scenes in public places,embarassing my friends and I.
To be honest, I don't think you're wrong at all. If you've had problems with this girl all year, I don't see why you should invite her. It's idiotic, and if she was having a party, I'm sure she wouldn't invite you. You're friends aren't exactly thinking straight, I don't think. I think you're right.
You're not helping things get better to say the least. Not inviting her shows what little faith you have in her, and this might be misplaced. Maybe if she was invited she'd be at least civil at your graduation party. If anything you're widening the gap between you and her, and cleary you two aren't the only ones involved. You're not wrong per se but let's just say I think this wasn't the smartest move you could make.
You're not wrong at all for making that choice. First off: it's your party; you have the right to invite whoever you want. Secondly: She doesn't deserve to go to your party because of how she treated you. And what if she acts like that to you at your party? She'll ruin it for you, so just be safe and don't let her come. If your friends want to know why, just say, "Karma is a bitch."
I will agree with this, this is one of those situations where really I think you should have been the bigger person. From your help with life threads it seems that there are quite a number of girls who are nasty to you for no apparent reason, I think it might be worth looking at yourself and seeing if there is a reason for this re-occuring pattern. It seems odd that so many girls would be so mean towards you for no reason. Have you previously tried to talk to this girl and find out what the issue is? Whilst it is your party and your choice, I do think that not inviting her was not the best move.
I think it's not a big deal and if she has a problem then she just wants to make a fuss about nothing, so you should avoid her.
I agree with CtR and Styx, sometimes you do have to be the bigger person, but in this situation I think it's okay that you didn't invite her. Just because she's in the same 'group' as you doesn't mean you have to like her. And if you were having a low-key party, you don't want a girl you don't like being there. :/
Actually, only 2-3 girls. :v They do this all the time. You see, we are in a group. Most of the girls in my group dislike this girl. She is annoying,stupid and a total ***** to all of us. I am not usually the one to easily bend and be the better person because that's just who I am...But, I have been the better person more than once. Even when it wasn't at all my fault.I am usually the person who just wants to forget the drama. I openly admit when things are my fault CtR. I know why they are mean to me actually.And it might sound weird but...They always talk about themselves.Always.So I don't treat them like they are hot ****.And everyone else does.That's pretty much it.And, I'm mostly sarcastic and perverted all the time and they get offended way to easily, even when someone else says something,not only me. I can't talk for the other girls, but I assure you, I'm not the only one that is annoyed by her.I just get it worse because she is in most of my classes. I have talked to her she doesn't listen.I have tried to become friends and call a truce.But, she is a my way or the high way kind of person.
Hmm for some reason it seemed like a lot more than just 2-3. Anyways, deliberately choosing not to be the better person is a little immature to be honest. Whilst it can get annoying and irritating, if you don't show that you are the mature one then you bring yourself down to her level. Whereas if you are the one who pulls yourself above it you will come off looking a lot better and others will see her for how childish she is being. You do yourself no favours by putting yourself down to her level. Also, don't make the assumption that I am blaming you, because I wasn't, I was pointing out the fact it seems weird that they always go for you. Ok, well I agree with not giving into their attention whoring, but how do you go about dong this? If you just ignore them when they are going on about themselves then that is one thing, but your wording implies you make the effort to treat them different "So I don't treat them like they are hot ****" if this is the case, then be careful of your actions, because if you are doing something to deliberately treat them as something different then it could end up coming back at you. With people like this, as frustrating as it is, the best thing really is to ignore them and their desire for attention. Don't be rude to them. If it is down to your attitude (by that I mean the sarcasm and pervertedness) then they can't really just take that out on you, since as you said yourself, other girls are like that too so it is weird for them to make a thing of aiming that focus on you again. That being said even I get sick of people who are overly perverted and act like sexperts when you know damn well they have probably never been past over the clothes stroking. Being in most of her classes doesn't explain it either, are you the only person in most of her class? Does she make a point of targeting you specifically? In what ways? One last thing I have to ask, if this girl is such a mega *****, why the hell hasn't your social group dropped her already? Especially since you imply that everyonehas noticed it. disclaimer: this is all personal opinion and is in no way, shape or form meant to cause people to feel insulted.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Last year I had an end of the year party and invited this girl I didn't know very well. She ended up kind of ruining the party--she wouldn't stop insulting my friend because they'd had problems in the past, so that was definitely annoying. Since she was being so mean, I regretted inviting her. This year I'm having another party and decided not to invite her, and my friends were surprised like yours. I just didn't want to bring more trouble/drama to the party than there needed to be, and usually when someone isn't a gracious guest, you don't invite them back. That said, don't worry about your friends. Try to deal with the girl being angry with you because it will eventually blow over. She will probably realize that, hey, it's only a party, and move on.
Nope,it isn't.It seems like more sometimes to me too. I understand what you are saying by this.But, while that is said...I think I am actually being a bit more mature than you think. Since you don't know this girl personally it is easier for you to say that me sinking down to her level is better than just inviting her. It's not your fault that you think that though. This girl makes scenes.She will embarass me.She will start a fight. And I'm not assuming because she always does this.ALWAYS. It is actually less of a hassle to not invite her because of her attitude. She wasn't meant to find out anyway.I was keeping it on the way DL. I don't even know how she found out. I know I might come off mean and immature but I am actually trying to not fight with her.She is a total drama queen. I don't really feel that you are blaming me.Just stating your opinion of this matter.Why do you think I posted this?To get both opinions.I appreciate you telling me another opinion. I am not being rude to them at all actually. I am being totally normal. Just not giving in and giving them my undivided attection. Eh..I'm a normal perverted. I am not perverted or sarcastic in a way that I'm out to get someone or make them feel uncomfortable. I am actually trying to make people laugh. Most people do, she just doesn't get it. Being in classes...It means that she is practically up my arse all day. My other friends aren't in her classes so they see less of her during the day and therefore don't get as bothered by her and see her stupid questions. I am wondering that myself.It's probably because they are afraid of her. They don't want to do anything drastic because they are afraid of what other people might think.
Ok, if she is that aggressive then it might have been an idea to put that in your original post, an aggressive nature and a tendency to start fights is completely different, and if that is indeed the case then I agree with your decision to keep her away. It is definitely a good idea not to be the person to start the fights, I wonder if maybe the reason she is so pissed about it is because you made it into a secret. I imagine in her mind she sees it as you being cruel towards her. Sadly there will always be drama whores and drama queens in school and indeed the rest of life. It is good that you aren’t being rude to the girls,, so the only thing I can add with them is to let them be pissy over it, they have to learn sooner or later that the world doesn’t revolve around them. With regards to the humour, well, different people have different senses of humour so that isn’t that weird that she might not find it funny. May I ask what her stupid questions are? Have you spoken to your teachers about the issue? Maybe they could get you moved to a different class if she is that much of an issue for you. Hmmm idk, personally if it was my group of friends and they didn’t have my back then I would question just how loyal they are to the friendship. Anyways flower, I take back my earlier statement that inviting her might have been a good idea, if she is prone to aggression and causing fights then yeah, it really is a good idea to keep her away.
Yes,I understand...But I mean she doesn't get them.She doesn't like that she doesn't get them. We are reading The Diary of Anne Frank in english and the scene were Peter and Anne are getting dressed up to see each other she asks my teacher. "Anne and Peter are going on a date...?Where?" The whole class was literally speechless. In science she asked my teacher what brain cancer was. My teachers,yeah I have gotten a seat change. Ehh I only have like 7 more days of school left.It's not worth it to change classes. They actually do have my back with her most times. There was this one time that she invited everyone else over her house but me and my friend stood up for me and said she wasn't going to go if I didn't go. EDIT: I try not to fight with people actually.
Either way. The fact that it is your party beats all that. Like her or not. No one has to be forcing you to take her to the party, because in the end being the better person in this case is not about inviting her or not, if you feel that you were forced into it. If she asks why you didn't invite her, then that's your chance to talk to her. Tell her that you want to enjoy a good party, and if she's willing to be cool with that, and abide, then it would be okay.
