For many times I have been having this dream and people telling me that I'm to old for this kind of stuff, to be talking to other younger people on this forum who are under 21 and that I need to act my age and be around others that are my age or older but the truth is I'm a kid at heart and I'm facinated with anime, the cosplays, and over all just loving certain characters especially rpging. I'm wondering if anyone who is in over 21 has ever felt like this or been told that you need to move on from all of this and take on the life of the mudane adult life filled with burdens and responiabilites?
I'm not over 21, but I just wanted to say something about this. I don't think there's anything wrong with you being interested in these things at your age. Just because you're older doesn't mean you can't like it. Hell, I have friends who's parents are into Anime and games. My dad is a gamer. My friend Christine's father collects more anime box sets than she does. xD I think it's fine, unless you're letting all of this consume you and keep you from your responsibilities. As long as you know how to juggle your interests and your business, than there shouldn't be anything wrong with it. :/ Also, in my opinion, anime and games aren't kiddish. I see Anime as more of a branch of the Japanese culture (and other cultures). And as for games, games are fun. o o; And many people make a living out of playing, rating and creating them. I hope you get this all sorted out, best of luck!
That's really good to know that you feel this way, but that is how I feel inside too and choose not to show it, for I'm afraid of how others may judge me. It shouldn't matter how old I am and I shouldn't care about what others think, but it would be nice to meet people of my age who have the same kind of interests as I do in anime/games etc. That way I would have more in common with them. I thought I had to give it up in order in order to move on. Silly question, but most people that I know consider it to be more of a teen thing. Thanks for telling me otherwise. Now I'm more confident of just being myself when I go to Anime Expo in LA this July and yes I will be in cosplay as Demyx and High Priest Seto from Yu-gi-oh ^_^ I do balance very well might I add seeing as I'm not working as of now because of being disabled from an unforunate inncident that happened two years ago during the fire storm, my life has not been the same which explains why I'm on here a lot, but it's good to know that no matter how old you get you can still love the same interest that you loved when you were a kid and a teen.
I'll be 21 in two weeks, but I've never thought of myself getting "too old" for any of this stuff. I don't think it's a big problem for me; I've known many adults much older than myself that do things you'd see younger folks do (ever seen your dad play Rock Band? Your mom Zelda?) I'll never forget one of the first anime cons I had cosplayed at, someone came up to get my picture and I told they could, so long as I got one of them. Their cosplay of Jenova was amazing. The funny thing? The woman in the cosplay just had her second kid, and she was in her mid 30s. I think staying young at heart is actually pretty good for you, so long as you don't shirk your responsibilities as you age or forget to prioritize. Don't be the guy I know who sometimes chooses between buying gas for the car or buying more Fruits Basket.
Ask yourself this... What makes someone an adult? Playing video games vs Going out to a bar and getting wasted Watching anime and old cartoons vs Watching a ton of porn Cosplaying vs Dressing up for a football game and painting your face up Collecting toys vs Collecting beer mugs To me, all of these things and many more can be viewed as 'childish' in their ways but they are what people enjoy doing around me and I'm above 21 as are most of my friends. I can't see the 'adult' things people do around me as so much more mature than the things I enjoy doing. Some have even asked me why I have so much junk like comics, toys, etc. Why? Because they help me to be happy and it's a simple joy of life. In the end, being an adult to me is about being 'mature'. Mature means to me that you can handle things thrown at you and you are prepared for life out there alone or working as a team member, to get things done. It's about knowing that this week you cannot go buy a new video game or go out to the bar because you have a commitment to pay the electric bill so that you aren't living in the dark. It means that if you say you are going to do something for a friend or family member, you don't go do something else because it's more fun. It means tackling misplaced emotions such as selfishness and greed, as well as caring how others will judge you, so that you can be content with life, working and making life work for yourself and others who you may come to support. There are things I have outgrown, of course, but I would say that's because I grew bored of them, rather than I gave them up due to age. Do what helps to keep you happy but doesn't cause harm to others. There are many adults who enjoy video games and other stuff or they would not make so many things geared towards adults as well as kids. I've met a lot of adults who are well older than me that find contentment doing things such as video games, old hobbies of collecting toys, enjoying anime or cartoons etc. Sometimes it's been a surprise as to who does those things. As long as you aren't obsessive with it, I can see no harm in any of it and there are some 'adult' vices that can be far worse. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being young at heart. If anything, it keeps you more pure of mind and you are weighed down by things you are going to regret in the morning.
Did you know that I grew out of barbies when I was like 8... the age here is 6 so it took me two years later than everyone else, and yet I've been considered one of the most mature people in my grade. Thing is, it doesn't matter what you like, it's how you deal with it. Most people think it's cool to drink and smoke and go to party's, I don't care as long as I don't hear the teacher scream at them for not having their work done. You can like anime and talk to us if you want, (me being 16) the age gap isn't big at all and I will still be watching anime when I'm about your age because I can't follow dramas. As long as you can keep your life balanced and not have worries, than nobody else's opinion matters, it's what entertains you. Don't change if you don't want to
Even if your hobbies could be labeled as "childish", killing off your inner child is a critical step in embracing dullness and boredom. Besides, what's it to them? Watching anime and playing video games doesn't harm anyone, as long as you do it on a healthy scale. Most mature is (s)he who is at least open to another's interests, even though (s)he doesn't share them. That's how I see it.
Just because other people think you are childish or you are getting the feeling that you might be childish doesn't mean you shouldn't stop doing what you love. I think you should just keep collecting and cosplaying. Even if I'm not 21, I still have problems with this sort of stuff too. Like, my friends don't think video games are cool and that I am just a big nerd in their eyes. I don't care.You shouldn't care either. I am telling you, just because you rather watch anime then porn, it's okay. Slightly better for you anyway.
Honestly, whatever floats your boat. What's wrong with it? There are far worse hobbies. It just so happens that sport is more marketable than tabletop games or anime. Also, why does everyone consider porn to be the arch-nemesis of anime? Try combining them and everyone can be happy.
I don't consider it an arch-nemesis of anime. I was just saying that some 'adult' things that people say are so mature are really not in the end. We all have things we enjoy yet some people try to declare some hobbies and interests are meant for 'children' while others are meant for 'adults'. As an adult, I think we should be fine doing what we want to do so long as it is not hurting anyone else. There are people out there who will always try to say what is 'cool' to do and what is 'not cool' and really, their opinions should not matter so much. Styx summed it up with this really: If you are happy doing something, why give it up if it's not doing anything bad to you or to others? There are many adults out there in many professions that enjoy video games, anime, cosplaying, role-playing, collecting toys, etc. The only definition to 'mature' I think that needs be said whether you do those things or drink, watch porn, spend money on sports, etc, is that you do so responsibly and it doesn't impede an adult's life such as paying the bills on time, taking care of yourself health-wise, and others if you should be, and doing work etc to get by decently. Free time is free time.
What's the problem? There is nothing wrong with liking those stuff. Everyone at my school calls me wierd for liking that stuff. I'm proud of it. You should too if you love it.
