I haven't come here for awhile to talk about stuff like this but I needed to know if anyone else has had a problem like this. Now as I mentioned before back then there was this girl I had a crush on for 4 years, well it's been 9 months, well now it's been 10 months since I told her how I felt about her, BUT I didn't go all out when I told her how I felt, I only gave like 10% at the most because I wanted to be cautious. Now she said she didn't feel the same for me and I understood that, but in my mind I didn't understand what it is that she didn't like about me. Of course I didn't want to bring it up because she's not big on talking about personal stuff and I can understand that. But come on it's been 10 months I'd think I would of moved on by now. But I just I can't, something is still keeping me from moving on. I still act differently when I'm with her, and my friends say she acts differently when she's around me but clearly she said she doesn't feel the same way as me. So what could it be? That is my question.....and yes I see it as a simple question even though I make it into a bigger question lol
Tell her again. Or ask her how she feels like she used. It's won't necessarily help, but at least it may help you on the way. I've seen a couple of threads about unrequited love, you may wanna take a look at them as well, to get some pointers. And to the text that I put in bold: It isn't a simple question. Love is the most complex emotions in the world. You can't "understand" it, because it doesn't make sense. I still love someone I should've let go of. It's been near 3 years, and though I should've let go, I haven't. Ask her. If you may still be struggling to move on, don't let it keep you from at least trying to.
Do you think it's possible she's telling you that she doesn't like you because she's afraid of what may happen to the friendship if she DOES like you? Apparently that happens alot.
@Noroz I may try to tell her again, she is different than the other girls, she's innocent like I am and like I said she's not used to personal stuff, but I've done stuff like this before with her and she seems to become upset some times, but I told her that one day there will come a time when I'll have to go all out with her. But thanks for that advice though I'll look around and see what I can try, also.....when I told her how I felt and she rejected me, she started to cry so what would that mean? @Smurf Alot of people have told me that lol and she says that she loves being my friend, so maybe she wants friendship at the moment but at the same time it's like she's afraid to let out her feelings. She and I are so alike, yet she doesn't realize it, we both play musical instruments, multiple in fact, we're both like honor roll students though she's smarter than I am, we both play video games, we both have wisdom and see things different from others I mean there's SO much we have in common.
Oh. I know exactly what you mean then. Before my best friend moved away about a year back, i had a crush on her and all my friends thought she had one on me too. Sure as hell seemed like it, but she denied feelings for me too. Uh..well i guess it comes down in the end to what you choose to think. There's no way of knowing for sure if she likes you or not. Do you feel like taking a risk and asking her out or something anyway? I'm not saying it's the best course of action, and i'm not saying it's the worst, just throwing suggestions out there.
From the sound of things, I'd let her go. I know I know, it's been 10 months and you're still not over her. Still, you tried to tell her how you felt, she rejected you and she isn't being clear about things. To me, it sounds like a waste of time. This sounds cold, I know. But the best thing to do would be to just forget about her, as much as it would hurt you to do so. Eventually, you'll find somebody else. Hopefully. That's one of the things about life (I guess. Im 17 lol). Just...going through tough times, and getting back up again. Surviving. Oh, and I think what you would call this situation is "puppy love". Here's a wiki link since Im too ****ing lazy to type **** up and Im making a Toon Town character: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puppy_love Before doing all that, you could always do something nice.... I dunno, buy her some nice flowers, see how she reacts. But wait, just how close are you guys again? Sorry.
@Smurf I'd love to ask her again but there's just so much I know about her it's like when you ask her a question she gives you two assumptions lol never an answer so pretty much she just mind rapes you lol @Rat It's okay man I'm used to cold facts and all that jazz so I can handle that just fine. As for your question we are close friends but not that close, we're pretty much at the point where we talk about almost anything and she's starting to put like smiley faces and stuff now, plus she like makes typos now lol and it's funny she never used to do that, I mean that has to be the first time I've ever seen her make a typo and that's been what 2 years lol
Aww. Not to make you feel bad, but the fact that you pay attention to her typos makes you so adorable In saying that, this next bit is going to hurt, so brace yourself. As Rat said, I would try to move on. I know that that isn't exactly the easiest thing to do. I 'loved' this guy, he rejected me, and it took me almost 2 years to get over him, hell, I still don't think I'm completely over him, but the point is I'm trying. Try to stay friends for the moment. I know it doesn't seem good, but think of it this way: having her as a friend means a lot more comfortable time spent together. Having her as a girlfriend will eventually lead to having her as an ex, and that usually means a lot of awkwardness. At least that's how I try to justify rejection :) Bottom line: Stay friends. If she starts feeling different about you, great! If not, its not the end of the world. Moving on takes time, lots of it depending on your feelings. Good luck, hun. :D
I actually smiled throughout that whole post lol and I don't mind being friends with her it's just my feelings for her are messing it up because it's like I always want more when I know for a fact things would become worst possibly. My mind knows better but my heart won't let go. It's like it skips a beat whenever I see her and hear her voice, it makes me smile all the time lol
Ohoho I've been there. It sucks doesn't it? It'll go away with time. Trust me, just follow my advice and all will be good and well in time :D
I figured that lol :) as for the girl I like I can maintain the friendship because that's been going great, if not better than I thought lol. I think to get over her I just need to wait until another girl comes in and makes me forget about my feelings for her. But I won't rely on it though.
