which one truly matters Physical features or personality

Which one do you think truly matters physical features or personality and emotional traits such as romantic. I personally believe that personality and emotional traits truly matter because emotional and personality will keep a longer relationship because people change personality slower and they make better memories resulting in a happier life. Physical features shouldnt matter because they can change very fast. weight gain, aging, accident, or mid-life crisis

 

I don't believe what you said is actually that true, because some people change their personality quickly, depending on how their life is, so you could meet someone who is the friendliest person in the world, and hour later, personality switch, they hate your guts. It's called two-faced, so it really depends.

But in any case, I believe that personality is actually better, as people, depending if they want to be around someone, or if they don't want to, it shows who they really are. Also, I think personality is better, because 1. you should never judge a book by it's cover, and 2. looks can be decieving. I mean a guy could meet the prettiest girl in the world, but she might not fit her stereotype of: sl*t, b*tch and shop. She could be friendly, caring and very pleasant to be around. So personality I think is better because people judge you by the way you dress and look.

 

so true. but most guys will never realize this unfortunately

 

Not true, most guys actually like girls with good personalities, but those are the ones they're more afraid to be with, which is generally why they go for good looking girls and are stuck up. Fear. The fear of rejection.

 

personality will conquer physicality every time.
who you are is more important than what you are.

 

I'd say personality is more important than physical features. It shouldn't matter how one looks, all that should matter is how you feel about the person and how that person treats you. If that person is very good to you, how they look shouldn't matter at all.

Besides, who would want to be with someone, even though they're good looking, treats you horribly?

 

They're both important. I guess you could argue, that, ultimately, personality is more important, but to be honest, I don't think I'd ever date a really ugly girl even if she was the nicest person I ever met.

Call me shallow if you want, but it's how I feel.

 

Heh, for me, personality is the highest piority. Looks come last. I mean, I hate it when I get angry, or that I'm being a jerk to everyone. It's just not in my nature. I watch myself constantly to make sure I'm being the kind person I want to be.

 

I agree completely.

Her looks would be what draws me to her, but her personality is whatll keep me.

I couldn't date the nicest girl in teh world if she was really ugly or the most beautiful if she was a total b!tch

 

There definitely needs to be SOME good lucks there. i could never date a pretty b1tch or a nice ugly girl. However, looks do dwindle with time, so i guess personality is more important.

But if i ever do have a girlfriend, i think it would be important for me to try and look good for her, and i would like it if she did the same for me.

 

Physical features never really mattered to me.

Personally, all I needed was someone with a good personality, able to relate to me, doesn't freak out every time I have an emotional issue, slightly preverted with limits, doesn't yell at me, likes hugs, adores me tons...

Gawd I'm picky. o_O

But I don't really care what he looks like! 8D​

 

Really, everyone is saying that personality is most important, which I agree with, but it's undeniable that physical features play a huge role too. Not to sound shallow, but it's just basic human nature.

 

Was wondering when someone would point that out.

Is it petty? Shallow? Undesirable on an ideal point of view? I suppose you could say that, but yes, it's in our nature. When it all comes down to it, we do judge books by their covers.

 

yup, agreed, but i do think it IS a shallow trait of people, but it's only natural.

 

I believe looks are the lure and bait. After that the personality keeps the person there. In a way they are both important, but any average looking person can get something if their personality is good.

 

oh and there's a problem with asking people this question: if you say Physical features, you look like some shallow jerk! which makes people more inclined to say personality.

 

Anyone who has said they dont care about physical appearence at all is lying- I don't care how much you say personality is all that matters, deep down you know you're shallow like the rest of the human race and wouldnt date the fugliest guy/girl on earth just because (s)he was "nice", "romantic" and "sweet".

Stop trying to look like a wonderful person and admit it.

Everyone likes a good personality but come on, its not like you're not gonna care what your partner looks like.

And lol, I think the OP was just a bit bitter after a rejection or something. I hate the whole "why are guys jerks and always go for pretty girls, waaa" they go for pretty girls because they want to bang them. Duh. Obviously you're looking for the wrong kind of guy.

 

well yea, but i don't there are many people who don't care about physical appearance AT ALL, it's more of a mix of the 2.

 

This is a kinda random fun fact from physiology class, but as it turns out, for really deep relationships (like things close to marriage) people will feel closer to others who they feel are close to their same attractiveness. Or, as House put it so well 5's marry 5's, 7's marry 7's and 3's marry 3's.

And I kinda agree with Obsessed, in that, very few people would date the ugliest guy/girl just because (s)he was nice or smart or romantic. I also think that very few people would date the stupidest guy/girl just because they were hot or sexy or cute (at least, not for very long and not for a serious relationship)

 

actually i dont care. back when i was in jr. high a lot of girls and guys liked because i was a cool guy but i somehow got dragged into a conversation with one of the so- called most ugly and scary girls in school but years went by and she eventually became my wife and im proud of that. i didnt care that people hated me. i was in love. so people think before you say im wrong