I want to know this. This is mainly for the males. What's it like to be in a relationship with the girl you love or be in a relationship in general. I don't have any experience with this sort of thing since I never had a girlfriend before, or rather a real one since I get lead on all the time. But I just wanted to know what it was like, I don't have a father to tell me what it was like for him, and I wanted to know what all of you guys think about all of it. I will ask this to my friends but wanted to ask this here also since I want different inputs on this topic. If you are a female you can answer this question......"What's it like being in a relationship in general?"
I don't have a whole bunch of experience. I have only been in one relationship, but that was almost a 2 year one, but I will try to explain the best that I can. It's kinda hard to explain feelings, because everybody feels differently, and everybody will have different views on relationships, but I will give you mine. Being in a relationship, is a lot like being on a really long roller coaster. You will have your ups, and downs. Their will be some days where you want to spend all day with your girl, and others where you just want to strangle her, well that's how it was for me in mine, not sure about anybody else. I can't tell what love will be like for you, because we all feel different things, but you will know when you have fallen for a girl, trust me. And if you think all girls are different, they really aren't. Girls might say they like this kind of guy or this kind, but when it comes to being in a relationship, you better believe that they want that guy to be gentleman when together. If you don't have manners now, and you get into a relationship, you better find some manners quick. Try to be the most perfect guy you can be, that's helpful advice number one. There is a different level of trust between your gf, and your friends. If you have had a **** day, and your friend ask whats up, you can say "I don't wanna talk about it" or "Not now, tell you later." But if your gf ask you whats wrong, it's better to tell her rather than say not now or later. You need to have good communication between the two of you, oh and another tidbit, Try not to lie to your gf, they always find out. ALWAYS, because you don't want to end up in a fight over something stupid. Girls also like it, when you show affection. If your not into PDA, thats fine, that is something you and your girl can work, but you also got to show that you love her, rather than just saying it. Like taking time away from something that your doing, to do something that she wants to do. THIS DOES WORK BOTH WAYS! Don't think your the only that has to give up somethings for the other. That is why it's called a relationship. It goes both ways. I'm not sure if my rambling has helped you any, if not, I am sorry. And on my relationship, we had more downs than ups. Was pretty good at first, then started going downhill, went up a little, then right back down for a time, and so forth in that pattern. We say it was a mutual break-up, but it was more of me ending it due to reasons.
I understand this completely. It looks like having a relationship can be challenging, but I find that's very worthwhile in the end. This was good information so thanks Soap! I'm also interested to hear others' takes on relationships.
I for one have never been in a relationship. Ever. However, I can tell you what my cousin, who already got married, said about this a few months ago. Soap's right in saying that people feel differently, and unlike some relationships I've merely heard of, my cousin had a rather innocent relationship with his wife. In simple terms, it's basically like being with a friend only you feel more intensely for this friend. Someone you can talk with all the time, say stupid things with, laugh with, spend "special alone time" with and not get sick of it. And he never said anything about arguments, but I guess you'd have quite a few of those, too. Misunderstandings, etc. Think of friend problems only more emotionally taxing. However, when it comes to like, your feelings for the person, I can't really say. I guess it's just this feeling of wanting to spend more and more time with them. Whenever you get into an argument, if you really love the person, you'd forgive him/her at some point. You won't have the heart to stay mad for too long, all that. Sorry if I'm not that helpful, especially since this isn't coming from me but from someone else.
That's pretty much it on the dot. All relationships are different. You will never have a same relationship. People are different, and you will treat each of your relationships differently due to previous ones. I have learned from my past, I have changed my viewings on relationships due to my ex and from my friends views. I'm not saying, I'm doing what my friends do in there relationships, I merely took some advice, and have come up with something different. I have new perspectives on things now, but still do some of the other stuff that I use to. Some of your relationships will be more physical, while some may be more emotional. Some may be a smooth ride, some may be bumpy, or really long relastionships, or ones that last a week. If you love someone, don't let them get away, or you will regret it the rest of your life. I have done that way to many times in the past, and I have still yet to learn from it. Don't be like me, and wait till the worse possible time on telling somebody how you feel.
Well these are definitely some good viewpoints, I'm glad I made this thread because I definitely learned some interesting points about relationships. Guess I'll just have to wait for that right person and that right moment to ask her out. Thanks guys!
