Okay, so here's the deal, some of you may know how many people have hurt me in the past. I'm going through this thing right now where I am finally starting to open up to more people, and get some friends. My problem is, I am afraid to, like, walk up to them and start a conversation. Almost to the point where I exclude myself from talking to people. It's like I am afraid to just walk up and reach out. I guess what I am looking for here is just some words of encouragement or even ways to help overcome this new found, shyness. I guess you can call it that. Another thing is, I really don't feel like I have anyone in real life I can open to, I used to, and now I'm not really sure how to find that again. There is also this guy, (lol always a guy), I have liked him for a long time and I am actually going to prom with him, I feel scared to talk to him too, I just want to know how I can get some confidence when speaking to him, I guess. I dunno, I just really feel like I need relationship advice in general.
Well, you can captivate them with your eyes xD Jokes aside. It can be hard talking to people. But you're so pretty, don't feel intimidated. Flaunt your features. you have wonderful eyes and a beautiful smile. People like it when you smile. I mean, if it's during class you could try answering questions during discussions and be active. You can try looking for common subjects and ideas.
Thank you. <3 The only problem with that is I homeschool these days, so I have no classes. The closest thing I have to that is church, which I do normally try to speak up then. How exactly would I bring that up? Just be like, "Hey what kind of stuff are you into?"
Chev is right! /trend I was actually thinking about this earlier today. YOU PSYCHIC CHILD. All you need to do really is put yourself out there. It does sound pretty terrifying (anditis) but it does work. And smile that pretty smile, yo! For me, it worked wonders. I made a new friend in this afterschool Jeopardy thing and now they call me "Smiley". xD But all you need to remember is be yourself and let the heads roll: the people that do want to continue to talk will. It just takes time, a little of this :D and your loosy-goosey pants. As for the guy: in the mirror before prom, tell yourself something along the lines of "I am Spunkeh. My hair's amazing, my smile awesome. If this guy is worth it, then he'll be in the palm of my hand. CONFIDENCE IS MY NAME AND GAME. CONFIDENCE, **** YEAH". Yes, it's silly, but it works. Good luck Alli Palli! B|
Well, don't Youths have special activities together? Like a youth thing, in church? Then try to go on said activities. You're bound to get noticed somehow. Try getting involved in stuff. I know it's hard getting yourself out there, but there will come a time when you'll be noticed and make lots of good friends. As for the guy...well, just try being confident. There's no magical way to talk to a person without confidence.
Ah... the question of confidence... First of all... I have to concur with the beautiful eyes and smile thing. As a guy I can tell you, if you smiled at me and looked into my eyes with those eyes of yours. I'd find it pretty hard to ignore you lol Have some faith in yourself and take the leap. He's going to prom with you right? Well if he didn't like you, he wouldn't be going with you. So take that as a sign lol, You have a chance! XD Just talk and joke and stuff :) but most importantly, be yourself. The quote goes 'Be yourself, and you will be everything' From what I've seen of you around the forum, you seem like a nice girl. So... you know lol Just give it your all! :)
So, last night was church, and I had confidence but, right now, I just, I am really down. My dad and I had a massive argument tonight and I keep crying and I just...I dunno. I don't want this to sound like a sob story, I just need advice.
Jump in. Like I do. Take a deep breath, close your eyes(Make sure to know when to stop though) and say "HI! Thought I'd jsut drop in!" I always do this, and I end getting weird looks or words like 'Ok...Sure...WEird'. But I'm accepted in. Everyone is weird and freaky in the inside and don't let it out. But if someone else does the weird thing, they'll accept with ease, though they'll pretend to act weirded out. And as I said on your front page.
You want friends. You want to talk to them. So walk up and talk to them. They're only human, like you. They could completely bite your head off, just like you could theirs, but they won't, because they're normal people, like you are. It's like stroking a cat: it won't scratch you unless you irritate it. If you feel confident enough to call them friends, then you should be confident enough to strike up a conversation with them. If they are friends, then they'll respond, and all will be well. If not, then they won't, and you can stop pretending that they are friends when they're not. What it comes down to is acting, and wanting to talk to them enough so that you actually do talk to them. If you want motivation help, you could try punishing/rewarding yourself for not talking/talking to them. For example, if you chicken out, then you don't get to eat what you want for dinner. If you talk, then you get a treat for dessert. Carrot and stick system. Old, yes, but possibly useful to you. HEY. He's going with you to the prom, right? That means he's giving the possibility of liking you a chance, if he doesn't like you already. You've known him for a while, so your natural personality clearly isn't a turn-off for him. In that case, just strike up a conversation and (here it comes...) be yourself. You wouldn't want to give the appearance of avoiding him, would you? Worry less; speak more.
