Ok..there's this one girl who constantly tries to call me and it's getting to the point to being annoying. We first met her at my girls scout meeting cause she joined the troop. I could see that she was really shy, normal for someone new. I talked to her, trying to welcome her to the troop. I was being the nice person saying "don't be afraid to talk to us." and all that really nice stuff. At school, whenever I saw her, I said just a nice hello cause she was so quiet and shy at school. I even said to just come over and talk with me and my friends after school (cause we're really welcoming people). The thing is...she really has social problems that can't just be fixed by being welcoming. She can't seem to speak in complete sentences w/o stuttering or pausing. It's like she can faint any minute cause she seems to work TOO hard to just talk. After a while, even my friends were starting to feel awkward when she came over to us afterschool. And that's saying alot. She considers me one of her best friends... even though I feel so awkward around her. Finally the school year is over. I didn't need to see her anymore cause I'm going to a university 45 mins away. She's never gonna bother me again. Though I still think she needs some professional help or something. Anyways, she asked my friend for my phone number!!!! Now the girl keeps calling me! On the phone, she's not any better. She still can't talk with out stuttering, pausing, or taking a deep breath. And then if I don't pick up the phone, she'll call again. What's weird is that sometimes she'll only let my phone ring once before hanging up and calling me again. =.= I'm not a mean person...so I can't just tell her to stay away from me or at least to not call me as much. I'm afraid that if I say anything bad, she'll breakdown. =.= She did breakdown on me once before... What's even worse....I think I'm the only "friend" she ever had... What should I do??? Note: just to tell ya, I'm a female. xD
This is a tough one...I recommend you tell her to not call you as much, however tell her to stay calm and remind her it's ok to call you a little, but not to the extend where it's every 10 minutes.
it actually sounds like she has some sort of speech impediment. That's nothing to condemn her for. As for the calling you, she seems to have developed a bond with you because you're her first new friend. Telling her she's calling too much might seem a little offensive to her. If you don't want to be her friend anymore, tell her. but if you just want to cut your contact with her a little bit, aviod SOME of her calls. It may seem rude, but she'll get the point that you can't always talk, as long as you still take some of them.
try to distance your self away from her, but just don't "rip" her away, if you understand what im saying.
She does seem like someone with a health issue. I wouldn't go all mad at her for that, it's not her fault. She may have been born with the problem. I see that she's extremely clingy, & I know how much that can annoy someone. Try not to be all get away from me & OMG, can you leave me alone?! 'cause that'll only bring her self-esteem down even further. Ask her if she can reduce the amount of times she rings you everyday & that you can't answer her phone calls all the time. If she goes AWOL on you, calm her down. I wouldn't completely ignore her, because she's a human being as well y'know & deserves some respect. Goodluck~
If it were me, I'd tell her not to call me as much. Something like, "You don't need to call me all the time. I mean, I have tons of school work," and etc etc for other things. the problem seems to be her social skills. You can't just say "go out and meet new people" because she has problems communicating and people condemn flaws like that, or even make fun of it. I'm sure if she had more confidence it would be okay.
This. Clearly she's a socially awkward, and it doesn't seem to be her fault. She probably feels a strong bond with you because you were kind enough to welcome her. Like Bueno said, just try avoiding her calls if you're really deadset on breaking contact with her.
Speech Impediments are a little hard to get through, I have a friend who can't say 'S's too well. And my name starts with an S. I would say just try to gently tell her that you have been busy, and you can't really talk all that much. It would be better to be gentle with her, since you think she'll break down if you tell her straight forward. If you're still in Girl Scouts, you can tell her that you'll see her there, and you don't have to talk to her all that much. It shouldn't be a burden to have friends. But it's hard to just simle-n'-bear it.
