I hope you guys will take the time to read all of this...I could really use the help right now... I've been depressed lately for some odd reason... I've refused to go to school for 3 days cause I've just been so depressed that I don't even want to be around people. All I've been doing for the past week is just lying around doing nothing, I won't even eat anything! My stomach says that I'm starving but I'm saying that I'm not hungry. I've been this way all week too...I've also been unmotivated to do almost anything. My mom called a theripist and she came over to my house to talk to me. I liked her, she was pritty nice, but she kept saying the same thing that my mom was saying... "If you don't go to school you'll fail the grade and have to retake it, and you'll be sent to court for truency!" and other crap like that. Sigh... can no one say something different? It's not that I don't want to go to school, I've just been really depressed... I don't know why, but at the same time I also have somewhat of an idea of why I'm depressed. I think most of it is because I've held in alot of my emotions in sence I was a kid, and I never really had someone to talk to. I felt awkward talking to my parents about my feelings. Also my parents are devorced so I feel a little abandoned... and not only that, my great grandfather just passed away in September, so I've also been thinking about that alot too... My whole family was crushed to hear that he died, he was like our role model, (he was in the army once too) and now my family's been up and down with their feelings. My grandfather was his son and I've noticed him being more angry than usual after my great grandfather died. Anyway, after my parents devorced, I remember asking my mom everyday whre my dad was. She just said, "He's not here anymore." Then I asked, "But why?" and I wouldn't get an answer... My mom knew that I would't understand, and I agree that I wouldn't... I was also right in front of them when they caled for a devorce. Of corse I didn't know what the hell that ment but when I was young I felt that, that was a bad thing... and was right. So I guess I've just got alot on my mind lately about my past and everything else. My depression started when my other great grandfather died when I was 10. Now that, was the worst thing ever... I was sevearly depressed for days and days. (He was also in the army) I remember fighting with my mom alot after that too. But like I said, I just got done talking to a therapist and she kind of cheered me up... not much though... So does anyone have any suggestions for getting rid of stress related depression (I guess that's what it is cause I don't know what else it is that's causeing this...)?
Moving this to Help With Life, first of all. And actually... you sound a lot like me a few years ago. I too had my parents go through a really difficult divorce, we lost a family member (my uncle) who was pretty much the best person I have ever met quite suddenly and unexpectedly, and I would hold in my emotions. It would get to the point where I would hit these depressive stages--usually about a week or two, once or twice a year--that everything just boiled over and I couldn't motivate myself to do anything. I would go to school but it was like I wasn't there, I wouldn't talk to anyone, I was just constantly on the brink of crying. I couldn't do anything I enjoyed, I would just come home and go to sleep or just lay in bed and do nothing. What's helped me is finding a way to release your emotions healthily. Bottling everything up might seem like a good option at times, but trust me, it isn't. Your case sounds a bit more severe than mine, though, and if talking to the therapist helped you at all, I think you should continue doing it. I get that sometimes it's awkward or uncomfortable talking to your parents, if you feel more comfortable doing it with the therapist it's better than nothing. You may actually have depression, and it is possible your therapist will suggest you going on anti-depressants. If you chose to not continue seeing her though, I would at the very least recommend seeing a doctor. As for school, if you really don't feel up to going, have your parent (or a doctor, depending on what the school requires) write you a note asking your teachers to just send you the work. That way you won't fall behind or anything. Also know that I'm here if you need to talk. <3 Sometimes venting is all you need.
I actually was on anti-depressants for a while but we thought it wasn't doing anything so I stopped taking them. Apperently it was doing something, cause about 3 weeks later I just shut down. I actually did that yesterday, I got a huge pile of papers stacked up in my binder. .__. I've only been to school for half the day for 2 days and my mom is freaking out at me about truency and stuff like that. My reaction would just be complete anger and shouting at her back and just start crying... That's actually how I've been feeling all week long.
I know how you feel....my mum and dad broke up,got back together,broke up again and then fought with each other for custodey of me and my brother.....and in the middle of it all my uncle got schizophenria and my grandad died... And I know how youre feeling,because I went through the same. But I guess it was my friends who helped,because they came over and actually dragged me out of my bed,and ever since have always been there for me,and supported me through school. So...well I guess what Im trying to say is that,well,everyones here for you,if you need someone to talk to etc And keep smiling,laughters all we really have
Yeah I know....but I honestly just looked at myself,and how I was acting,and relised I had to get back up,for my brother,as we really only had each other
Eh... me and my brother have major sibling rivalery, so that'll be hard to do if I did it for my brother. xD
This quote kind of really helped me at a point, I hope it will for you: This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about. -- Marilyn Monroe
I will admit it that I wasn't in the same situtation as you, but I've been through depression before. I kind of think that your therapist is not a good therapist, she should not be telling you of the consequences of not going to school, but instead help with your current emotions. Trying to help turn this to a more positive light, is it possible to not look at your great grandfather's death, but instead at what he did while he was alive? You said he was in the army, maybe you can strive to go in to the army too and become the man your great grandfather was. Just remember that your Great Grandfather is looking after you in the afterlife. Make him proud to watch one of his great grandchildren grow in to a strong person.
