*Sighs* Ok...so the thing yes I have a long distance boyfriend....but I'm also bi. Problem? My mom supports equal rights for gays....but is majorly homophobic. For those of you unaware yes I am a Yaoi fangirl. Well, it's too the point I hide both my Yaoi mangas from her and the fanfic I'm writing...I have to be on my guard to make sure she doesn't read even the two guys kissing! I want to come out in case I meet a great girl but I'm scared. She's really uncomfortable with the idea. Even my older sister doesn't help telling me the fact we're both bi needs to stay a secret between the two of us. I'm at my wits end on this! I just want her to understand without freaking out on me that I realized I'm also attracted to girls. I hate being in the closet on being bi from my own mother because she supports things but is so...closed minded at the same time she doesn't trust me around even a black guy who's a straight 'A' student and wrote a paper about refusing to become a baby daddy (as in he wants to be a father). I just want her to understand this is what I'm attracted to and not everyone is as shown in those darn crime and trail shows she watches!
Well, the courage will come in time but my advice would be to first convince your sister that you need to tell your parents, if you both do it together then the impact will be shared. If your mum is mad at you, it'll be both of you but then she'll have to understand or lose two children. Don't feel weird about it, it is completely natural so try to get your Mum to understand this. If she supposrts equal rights then maybe she'll offer support to you both, you may be surprised but I don't know (you obviously know her a lot more than me).
I agree with Enzy. The best approach would be for you both to tell her. This is the sort of situation... where you can't be sure what will happen, unless you try it. Of course, yeah... you can hide it, but that's not fair on you or your sister. And in the end, if you want to make any progress here. You will have to tell your mother. Now, I can't be sure how she's gonna react (as Enzy said, we don't know your mum like you do) But... she might support you. I mean, it's always a different case when it comes to your own children. So you may just be surprised. And if she doesn't support you... well... it's not very nice. But... then, at least she would know, and she'd have to get use to the fact that both of her daughters are bi. After all, you can't help how you feel, and she'll have to realise that. This is all just speculation on my part, but yes. My thoughts are you should tell her, (preferably both you and your sister) Keeping it secret just isn't fair to either of you. And if she doesn't understand or support you straight away, odds are she will in a little bit of time. You're both her daughters after all, and no matter who you like, she should still love you no matter what. :/ Good luck with whatever you do decide.
You should come out and tell her, I mean that's just my opinion but does it really matter what she thinks and says? You know what you want and what you're attracted to so why hide it? No one should judge you if they care about you, especially your family.
Thanks guys. I'll talk to my sister and hopefully she'll be willing to finally come out. I think she's less willing to talk since her boyfriend finally is about to be her husband so she has less need to come out but hopefully she'll listen to me and work with me as her little sister. I just hope my mom doesn't blow up but...I suppose you all are right; me and my sister are the only children she has and I doubt she'd be the type to kick me out or ignore us over sexuality. Thank you. I'll try and hope for the best.
