Stress...

What are some good ways to deal with stress? Some people go into cutting, but I'm definately not doing that. Lots of people get stressed a lot, but how do they keep themselves from accidently blowing up in someone's face?

 

find an outlet. which is like a hobby or something you can do when you have time. and ALWAYS make sure you set aside time for yourself. if you have no time to do what you want to do every now and then, you WILL be stressed. many people swear by painting or working on a LONG project that you know you will eventually finish.

 

Hmm...well, finding a hobby to keep you busy is always wise. Such as writing (stories/poems), reading, playing video games, watching TV, talking with friends (on the phone and/or over the internet), cooking, playing a sport, etc. If that doesn't work, just lay back and let your mind drift, almost close to just daydreaming. Clearing your mind, thinking of nothing, just lying back, it helps to relax your body so you won't be so stressful or worried or anything. So basically, just find something fun to take your mind off of it. If you're stuck with a group of people and you're stressed, try to think of something comforting and happy, to cheer youself instantly. Hopefully one of these will work for you! :)

 

Well I try to do that sort of stuff, but my mom keeps interupting me in the middle of it, which just adds to the stress.

 

Right before you go to bed, or right when you wake up ( so nobody will interupt) keep a journal of your thoughts and how you are feeling. Getting rid of those feelings should help.

Heck, just scribble if that's all you wan't to do, that may make you feel better also.

I get stressed alot, and i just have to take deep breaths and talk to myself (as bad as that sounds XD).

 

Stress tension relievers tend to for me vary on what is bothering me in particular but some ideas I do are the following.

1. Listen to, try to play some music. Sing to it and such. Sometimes laying down and putting on some soft music like Enya or Enigma helps to take a nap and feel refreshed.

2. Do some exercise or go to the gym with friends to hang out and play racket ball or something like that. Play some sport or go for a run, skate or something that takes focus off it but gets me doing something energetic. Especially something somewhat competitive but not 'serious' helps where you have to have a goal in mind like doing some stunts, hitting a ball, whatever that takes coordination.

3. Try to hang out with friends if I can and if it really eats at me, talk to them about it. Even just sitting around with a friend and doing not much is relaxing.

4. Study something, read a book, do something else other than what is stressing me out.

5. Take a good shower or bath just thinking of as the water pours over me, the stress runs away from me down the drain. It's a mind game but it is relaxing and works.

6. Try taking some daily vitamins if you aren't. I've found that my mood is better if I take a daily vitamin because I don't get so tired and get a proper balance of nutrition. It actually does matter. So does getting 8 hours of sleep a night if you can. At least push for 7 hours of sleep. Proper sleep and diet really do play more of an important role in relieving stress and letting you not feel cranky, grumpy, and easily irked, than people assume.

7. Try to sit down and meditate. A simple meditation works like this. Close your eyes...or leave them open if you want and aren't easily distracted. Breathe in through your nose for 5 seconds and breathe out through your mouth for 5 seconds. Draw in longer breaths bit by bit counting to yourself and go to you feel you are 'relaxed' and not 'straining' so you don't lose focus. When you breathe in the air through your nose, think of it as white, pure, clean air. When you breathe out through your mouth, think of the air as smoky, containing negative energy, stress and such. Keep doing it for a while for say 5 to 10 minutes and if you can sit there longer, go for it. After, try to think on what exactly is making you stressed, just ONE thing at a time. Then try to think of a solution to that stressful situation and follow through on it.

8. Try to write down on a piece of paper what is all bothering you and number each thing. Then try to think only on one thing at a time to try to come up with a solution by pretending that you are talking to a friend and giving that person some advice. Often, the advice we give to others we know is 'good' but tend to not follow through on it ourselves because of emotions. By stepping back out of the picture and assuming this list is 'from a friend' you may be able to help yourself more.

Those are some things that I know of and have tried at various points. Hope they help. Cutting really is not an answer. Yes, it releases endorphins to let someone temporarily think of other things and elevate the mood in a way but it is fake and also scars you. It's not something you want to look at years down the road and go 'why'. I suppose I am most against it since I have scars already from stupid things such as some fights I got into and such and well doing it to myself...I couldn't imagine wanting that. These other techniques can do the same thing without hurting you physically or risking life and therapy. If 'cutting' is the route that someone really considers, I'd say the last thing I'd suggest is some kind of counseling because in all seriousness, when you want to hurt yourself, it means something is really wrong there and rather than doing something inward and hiding it like that, talking about it and getting some help from someone else is much better. You might not like what a counselor has to say but that's why there are certainly more than one out there. I understand the fear of talking to others about those inner most secrets because hell, I hate doing it, but if it came to me hurting myself physically, I know I need someone else and if it can't be a friend, it may as well be someone who's paid for their time. Anything is better than hurting you because look at it this way...you already ARE hurting one way. Don't make it two ways.

 

I was not actually considering cutting, I was saying that other people do it, and I know it's not for me. Thank you for all the help so far!

 

A) GOOD FOR YOU. Cutting is stupid, and what a waste of life.

B) No problemo, if i helped at all. :)

 

I'm glad to hear that. I just commented on the cutting thing for anyone in general as well because it is such a serious thing to me. I've known people who have done it and well also had friends hurt a lot by it (or died) and other things such as drugs. There are other outlets and I'm glad to see you ask about them and hopefully some others who are going through stress can get anything out of any of the methods described above or find some new ideas too with inspiration. Stress does suck and brings anyone down.

 

Ugh.

I heard about the medical side to cutting. They say it releases this chemical that is supposed to make you happy.

But why would you give yourself scars, and make yourself bleed, for a minute of fake happiness?

......

Anyway, I really like all of Repliku's ideas (he's a genius XD)

nice job, repliku. *hi-five*

 

DONT CUT YOURSELF!! ITS BAD! D:
anyway, i draw when im stressed and go on my laptop. i have exams coming up soon and instead of getting worried, i sit there drawing Demyx, Axel and Marly having tea parties.

 

Nice :D

I wanna see some :D

Anyway, I also listen to some heavy metal band. Well, not heavy metal. But heavy enough. Usually it's linkin park. Makes me feel better, iunno why. lol.

 

well if your pissed at someone - punch a pillow and pretend its them, thats how i used to bowl XD

well hobbies are good ideas also

 

Bowling is another good idea. It can be 'destructive' as you go hitting the pins and is a good stress reliever. Or baseball/softball or golf (even though I loathe golf) can be good for that too. Punching a pillow is another good suggestion and hurts no one. Maybe even just jumping around and going "AaaaaaaaaaaaH!!" can help too if the stress is that bad. Great suggestions!

 

Dunno if it has been said or not, but eating a banana is apparantly a way to get rid of stress

It sounds stupid but some professors made a list of 50 uses for banana's in a newspaper and online somewhere and the magnesium or nitrates in it help stop stress..


I tried :P

 

*reads though Repliku's posts* just do that, those things work well for me, hopefully the will work for you. :)

Yea, acctually there is a enzyme in bannanas that makes you happy for some reason.

 

Stress, is a growing problem in today's society. It can destroy a person when not handled responsibly, it effects both the mind and body. :/

The best is to find outlets for your stress, as stated before. Or even a simple time management of your life... some people just over work themselves; practically digging a hole. If you feel you have no time in your life for yourself then you must simply make time. Drop certain activies you don't need; they may be important to you, even, but the most important thing is your health. If you really believe your mother interupts your different outlets, then simply talk to her about - you could feel better just by talking to her.

So don't let your stress get the best of you; you'll, practically, 'crash and burn.'

 

I'd ask for help. Parents, friends counselors, etc.

 

JellyBeing and Repliku said it all.

Just find an outlet that doesn't cause any lasting damage or physical harm to anyone.

If you're stress is really bothering you, try to find the source and eliminate that if possible. (Maybe taking a difficult class that you may be able to drop or an extra activity that is not mandatory is causing some of it?)
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repliku has got this nialed