I've been meaning to post this for awhile. This problem I have has been on my mind a lot lately, and oh well... here goes nothing. I've been having mixed feelings for a few boys I know: #1: My current boyfriend, whom I'll call "H". I met H over the summer, and we started dating a few weeks later. He lives in a nearby state (not the one I live in), and I still have contact with him. But lately it seems that he is growing distant from me, and he has not replied to my latest text to him (which was about a week and a half ago). #2: The guy I thought I liked, I'll call him "R". I met R about the same time as H, but I didn't start to get feelings for R until about a week after H and I started dating. I think R knows I like him from they way I acted around him, but I'm not so sure. Now, I'm not sure if I actually still like him or not. #3: The guy I think I'm starting to like, Let's call him "C". I've known C for about a year, but I didn't know him that well until a few months ago. I think I've been starting to grow feelings for him, but I'm not sure if these feelings are true or not. I don't even know if he likes me. So yeah, I've been getting mixed feelings for these three boys (H, R, and C). Should I trust my feelings or...? I'm just very confused with my own situation. =(
Let's start off by saying I know this was from the beginning of December, but it had no replies, and you asked for help, so since it wasn't that long ago, here is my input. H - You say you are growing distant from him, well, that is the whole thing and feeling when it comes to dating someone in another state. It is rough at first, not knowing what is going on down there and such, but if it really bothers you knowing that you two are becoming distant, then talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and that it bothers you. And if it takes him a week or so to reply to a message, it must means that he is busy, knowing that it is around the holiday time. R - If you just started to like this guy after H left, then to me it sounds as if you only like R because you find qualities in him that you can match up with H. That is the only explanation I have for this. But if you are not sure whether you like him or not, just give it time and see if you feel the same way you did now in a couple weeks. C - It is still a bit soon for the feelings to grow with C. You are getting over the fact that the distance is breaking you inside with H and that this R guy could be the second version of H so you think you like him. C is just another one of those people that will walk into your life and soon will not be as important as you thought he was. You are still unsure as to if you like C or not, so chances are this "fling" will end.
