I've had a few problems lately. My sister, somebody at school, school itself, my mom, my dad......Everything. I'll start with my sister. My sister is of 24 years old, doesn't work, doesn't go to school, stays at home, on computer, complains about me, makes me feel bad about myself, and sometimes even attacks me when she doesn't get what she wants. Recently her headphones broke and needed more. So she came into the living room and asked me for them. I just came home and point blankly told her no. She started yelling and telling me they were "hers" and she only let me "borrow" them. Well when she gave them to me she never said anything about that. So it became a huge argument which led to her losing her internet for only a few hours. During the fight she nitpicked me about things such as school and chores. I soon nitpicked her and she got really mad. I told her she's useless, doesn't shower, doesn't do the dishes (she's supposed to), and always tells everyone their bad qualities while neglecting her own. That mad her real mad. She lunged at me, got her face close to mine and screamed "I hate yooooouuuuuuu" over and over. After that she kept calling me a b!tch and fat ass over and over. That got me a little sad but worst of all my mom didn't care and gave her internet back within two hours. What's with that? Next I'll talk about a girl at school. Every day she comes in happy and soon starts acting as if she's the big boss around the class. Mind you, it's a business type class. And whenever I try and joke with her she acts as if she shouldn't care and that I'm a piece of sh!t. One day she even said to me about my argumentive behaviour and said "That's why nobody likes to talk with you" well from what I could tell, I knew....2 people in the room from other classes. So she isn't acting like a responsible adult. What bugs me is the fact that she wanted to tell my teacher about it and make it seem like she was the victim and I was the attacker. That depressed me that day. I felt like total crap for the rest of the day. I couldn't even do work in class because I kept thinking of her words. Now I'm too scared to do anything. I'm even afraid to tell a certain boy I like him. I always think that I'm the annoying girl who nobody likes. Even on these forums I've been called annoying....It hurts but...It's the internet right? And besides, the girl is 18, shouldn't she start acting that way? Next is school. Every day I don't want to go to school. But I have to. Not to have fun or let kids bully me, but to actually get through so I can get a job that pays good wages after college. In school, I'm more worried about my drawing that I am about my work. I can usually draw 7 pages, or more, a day for a manga that is still in mediocrity. And whenever teachers confront me I assure them I understand. Apparently they don't believe me. A teacher even took a book I was reading for another class from me because it was a test....She though I would be cheating or something...I dunno. I want to know why at school people can't just leave me alone, understand that I'm good, and actually give me a chance to prove it to them. I'm always thought of that one girl who draws and doesn't do her work....Why do people always think of me as that? They even make fun of my weight, pimples, things I did in ELEMENTARY school, and even middle school. Nobody wants to give me a chance..... My mom. She always tells me I should be doing this and that but she doesn't know that I do do good in school. I also want to go to college....It's just that she always tells me to worry about myself. But how can I when people at school make fun of me and even my own sisters! She never punishes them, but if I do something wrong I get my whole computer taken away for days, weeks, or even rarely months. I don't get why she doesn't punish my older sister as much as she does me. The longest she's been without the computer is 2 days. And that was when my mom left for the weekend. And she even lets her have it or doesn't take it, even if she doesn't do the dishes or she yells at me. Do you think she should try harder? My dad. He is never home, but when he is all he can do is complain and tell us we need to do chores, chores, and more chores! Thing is, I do enough chores. Why doesn't he allow us to have a break on the weekends? I always never get to do anything, like go out, walk around outside, watch TV. I just don't see why he never lets us do anything! Should he? Mind you, my mother never allowed us to go outside when we were children. So I'm a very pale child. I'm also at 315 pounds of weight with acne. Thought I'd mention that. I'm just a fat white girl who gets on computer to try and get away from her real life problems with the computer. So if you' rather picture me as that and then decide to flame me or whatever term you use then go ahead. Make me feel worse.
First of all, you have to remember that the only person you can change is yourself. No matter how much someone bothers, harasses you, you can't make them stop unless they want to. So if you want to change something in your life, you have to start at yourself. The family problems... Trust me, even relatively functional families have problems like that. Someone will always feel like their not being treated right by the parents, someone will always feel like they're the one who always gets punished more... You just have to learn to deal with them, and if the situation gets unbearable, talk with someone, your mother, a school counselor, something. Your dad is probably trying to compensate in a weird way for the time he's absent, by enforcing rules, etc. Try putting your foot down sometimes, tell him that you've done enough, that you need some time for yourself. It's a long-shot, and he'll probably nag at you most of the day even if he won't force you to do anything, but it's always worth a shot ^^'' The problem with your sister... Again, the only thing to do is live with it. Siblings are like that, and things can get very unfair between you, but at the end of the day, she's still your sister, and that's that. (Also, consider yourself lucky that you don't have two slacker sisters D8) As for the girl at the school... Honestly, there's always gonna be some kind a personal 'tormentor' like that, whether it's at school/work, the best thing to do is just shrug it off. Even if it seems hard to do, you have to toughen up, and not let something like that ruin your day. Stand up for yourself, once you do it the first time, it just gets easier and easier. Everyone gets those days, I couldn't be bothered less about school if I didn't know how much it'll affect the rest of my life. The number one thing you should do is make it seem like your concentrating on the lessons, teachers really hate it when students don't listen, even if they get good grades. Be occasionally active in class, hide the drawings, NEVER LET THEM CATCH YOU READING SOMETHING NOT RELATED TO THE CLASS YOU'RE IN. Especially in a test. They don't care if it's for another class, they want you to (at least seemingly) concentrate on THEIR teachings. First impressions are incredibly hard to shake off, so don't be surprised if you'll be seen in the same light for the entirety of high-school. But still, try to show (especially the teachers) some effort, if it doesn't pay off in the near future, it will probably come in handy eventually.
