*Sigh*

When I was little, I told my family I wanted to be a teacher when I grow up. I always enjoyed helping people. Whether it was teaching them something or giving them advice. But as I got older, I became interested in other things. My parents always thought that the idea of me being a teacher was good, especially my mom. My dad doesn't really care just as long as we have something we enjoy doing. When I entered Middle School, I became interested in Medicine, Astronomy, and Zoology. When I said I wanted to be a Doctor or an Astronomer to my mom, she was happy knowing if I became one of those, I would make a lot of money. But when I told her I wanted to be a Zoologist- I love animal, that's why I chose that- my mom said, "No! Why do you want to be that? You won't make any money out of it." I didn't care but it still bothered me that she didn't want me to be a Zoologist.

When I entered High School, I loved to draw. Then came the idea of being an Artist. I told my mom but then came the same question and comment, "No! Why do you want to be that? You won't make any money out of it." I was mad since I love drawing. But finally, in the middle of tenth grade, I started writing. I eventually started to love writing, and I started writing my own stories and all that. I told my mom that I loved writing but I didn't tell her I wanted to become a Writer. But finally one day, I decided to tell her. But then, came the exact same response, "No! Why do you want to be that? You won't make any money out of it." I finally ignored her opinion and continued what I enjoyed to do. Now when I go to college, I'm going to study Literature. Again, I told my mom, she disapproved.

Then yesterday, I was talking to my brothers and my mom about what my aunt is studying, psychology. Somehow we got into this conversation and I told my mom, "I want to be a writer. I'm going to study Literature when I go to college." Again came the same response, "Why do you want to be that? I don't get it." I didn't care for what my mom thought, just as long as I enjoy what I'm doing. My mom is very ignorant. She doesn't like anything I do. She doesn't like the way I dress, what I read, what I want to become, what I want to study, and the list goes on.

I'm sorry if I wasted anyone's time. I needed to get this off of my chest even if it was on the internet. You guys can give me advice if you want but I just needed to lift this weight off my shoulders.​

 

It happens to alot of people, keep to the choice you enjoy the most. If your mum disapproves then thats her choice. When she says you can't make money from being a writer just say J.K.Rowling, she's richer than the queen.

 

It seems that you have a lot of options open to you and most likely are very gifted :P

So.. even if your writing goes unsuccessful (where I hope it succeeds of course), you will have plenty to fall back on.

I think at the end of the day, your parents are there for you in your childhood years but when you get older, you are making your own decisions and stuff right? So you should be doing what you want without having to worry about what other people think or want, even if it is your mother :s

That is just my opinion anyway, I got a little pressure on me atm and I think i'll go into teaching too.. But only because i am lazy :P

 

Hon, you can be whatever you want to be. Your mom may just be trying to protect your future, which can seem like she doesn't want you to do what you want to do, but maybe she just wants to be sure that you are taken care of.

 

Thank you.

Thank you. I've actually been called a Child Prodigy before but I don't see myself as one.

I know that but it stills gets me mad knowing she doesn't like anything I do. Like I said, she doesn't like the way I dress, what I read, and so on.​

 

Your family's opinion can hurt if they are against what you want to do, but in the end it's not their choice, it's yours. If you want to be a writer, no one has the right to stop you.
If I were your mother, I would be proud of you. I don't know where she got this notion of "you won't get any money our of it", and money isn't even the real point.
Go for what you want. =)

 

I hate to say it, but hell, your moms completely wrong here. Its really good to hear that you are planning on not listening to her, because you have no idea how many people ruin their lives by listenening to their parents when they get like that. But its natural for parents to dissaprove. They are from one kind of generation, while we are from anouther. I mean, my dad HATES that I wear hoodies, that I have long hair, ect. Just the way that I even handle things. Either way though, I can only say that you should keep things going on, and if you ever have to answer that question of your moms, you should explain to her that its because its what you want to do with your life. Not for nothing, but if you cant do what you want with your life, then whats the point of it? Your mom thinks outside of the box and goes with the classical "Work isnt supposed to be fun", but it is because of that that she does not understand just what it is that you want to do with your life.

Good luck though with your mom, and as lame as this sounds, good for you for sticking with what you want to do. Your doin what a lot of teens never do these days (wow, i'm one to talk, I AM a teen, but either way :P)

 

Heck, my dad hates when I eat dry cereal from coffee mugs (usually Apple Cinnamon Cheerios ;D (but I do it anyways)).
Sometimes parents think they know what's best for you when they really don't. You have to figure out when those times are.

 

Yeah, your mom will just have to deal with your choices, the only reason I think she's saying that is beacuse she wants you to be okay with your future, and money might be one of those problems...And she doesnt want you to go through the woes of debt, etc.


Thats what I think...: D

 

I'm like you--my decisions on my career path always change. When I was little, I wanted to be a Veterinarian, and then I wanted to become a Marine Biologist in Middle School. But now that I'm in High School and am taking a course in Creative Writing, becoming a writer is what I want to do now, because it's fun and I enjoy doing it.

If that's what you feel when you write or enjoy doing anything else, like drawing, you should do it. If your parents aren't there to back you up, then they'll just have to grow used to the fact that you want to take your own path, and not take the one your parents want you to.

Do what you want, and enjoy it. Your parents should support you no matter what.

 

Your mom is a 'realist' and wants you to do an occupation that will make you money and let you live well economically. These are hard times and she does not want to see you living poorly and barely eeking out an existence. She's not trying to totally squash your dreams. She just does not see them as viable with the way things are.

People can bring up J.K. Rowling, but before she made Harry Potter, she was living in a trailer. She was fortunate she was able to do so well with the books. Many authors do not do even a quarter so well, if that. Some authors never even get recognized though they've been published. Artists are some of the worst paid people around unless you get lucky to be recognized in any real fashion.

This is not to say 'she's right' with what she's telling you. It is to say though that what you should do is prepare yourself with two goals in mind while at college. If you are taking literature, why not also take the education certification classes and such? That way if you want to write, you can work on your novel ideas, but when you get done with college, you have a job meanwhile to do that will put food on the table? If you present a plan to her such as this, it may help her see that you aren't just a 'dreamer' but that you also are planning your 'job' and then the dream occupation you want. Of course, there are other jobs you can also train for at college, so don't just think I'm saying that teaching would be your only option. Just well, if your heart is set on writing, go ahead and do it, but also have a plan to fall back on so that if it takes a while or you happen to fail, you have something else to go with. That'd be my advice anyway to dealing with the problem of her attitude being so extreme, but also it will help you so if things pan out, you are set, and if they don't, you won't get sunk and hear your mom going 'I told you so'. Good luck with things!