Relationship advice

Discussion in 'Help with Life' started by Fayt-Harkwind, Feb 8, 2009.

  1. Fayt-Harkwind Where yo curly mustache at?

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    Okay, heres the deal. I'm trying to get a girlfriend and I sort of have this friend who I like but I need advice on wether i'm in the right situation to ask her out. So anyway I live like 20 minutes from her house and we're friends at college but I don't know if it would be right to ask her out since if the relationship fell apart and we stopped being friends afterwards then I don't know if I could survive how awkward it would be for the next year and a half since I would have to stop talking to like half the people I know there. Help?
     
  2. TheMuffinMan Banned

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    The only solution is to put a mask on and rape her.
     
  3. Fayt-Harkwind Where yo curly mustache at?

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    How the hell are you still here with the kinda crap you post?
     
  4. TheMuffinMan Banned

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    How the hell am I not un-here with the kinda crap I don't not un-post? on opposite day?
     
  5. KaiXIII Traverse Town Homebody

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    If you really like her ask her out.
     
  6. The Twin My, what a strange duet

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    I wouldn't, just because you guys are really good friends right now and it would bite if the relationship went down in a flop and you lost your friendship with her.

    I'd wait this one out unless she says something to you about liking you. Then I'd go with it.
     
  7. Keyblade_Smokey Traverse Town Homebody

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    wow this sounds familier. I'm actually dating a good friend of mine and I think it's easier dating friends.
    ~You already know eachother
    ~You know you enjoy spending time together
    ~You seem to have similer friends.

    See in my situation a group of five of us hang out almost everyday so my boyfriend and I hung out a lot even before we started dating. Even if we break up we could still be friends becasue we were friends before.

    I think you should ask her out and if she says no then let that be it and stay friends.
     
  8. daxma Hei Long: Unrivalled under the Heavens

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    fayt i have your back! I've just reported him to the admins.
    My advice, don't do it because i was put in that position myself and i made things worse.It'll ruin your friendship.The only good thing is that through this situation i got to know a dream girl and we're thinking about going to the movies.I was lucky and the chances of it happening to anyone else is small.

    Maybe tell her how you feel and if she wants to take it further do it, otherwise don't.Be direct, otherwise it gets messy, i know from personal experiance.
     
  9. Tana_Panda Traverse Town Homebody

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    First off if you do go out with her and then break up...you dont have to stop talking to anyone. The only reason you would stop talking to people is if you didnt have the self-esteem to continue to do so. and if you have that kind of a problem then you probably shouldnt ask her out. so i suggest you suck it up and go out with her if you want to. you wont know what happens unless you try right? and if it doesnt work out then oh well atleast you tried and you shouldnt feel weird talking to all your friends. :)
     
  10. Juicy Chaser

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    If you don't take risks you'll never get anywhere.


    You have to balance things up, Fayt. Has she shown any signs of liking you too? Is it worth the risk? If it doesn't seem that she returns your feelings then don't go for it. You can hint a little and see if she responds, but otherwise its not worth losing your friendship if its obvious she'll say no.

    On the other hand, if she is showing signs of liking you, go for it. You gotta take a risk every now and then.

    Plus, if you guys really are that good friends, even if she says no it shouldnt be a reason for you guys not to talk anymore. I've dated friends before, and when we split we've stayed friends, it was fine.

    Oh, and good luck if you ask her ~
     
  11. gintasthebest Traverse Town Homebody

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    Try and find out if she likes you too. If she doesn't then it might not be worth asking her out. Sometimes it's better to stay friends than get into a relationship and then break up later on and not even be friends. You'd have a gf for a few weeks but then you risk losing a friend if you break up. Ask her out if you want to, it's really up to you. You're the only one who can make the decision of whether to ask her out or not.
     
  12. Fayt-Harkwind Where yo curly mustache at?

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    Thanks for necrobumping something of no more importance.
     
  13. Magick ~Meaner then my demons~

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    Eh, since this is already bumped, I'll just say what I was gonna say. I would ask her out, but before you do tell her that the reason you ask is because you like her, and you don't want things to be awkward between you if she says no. Sometimes dating friends is easier, because you already know what the other person is like. If you feel comfortable, then ask. If the relationship is already awkward, I would try to get closer to her first as a friend, and then ask her.
     
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    just ask her out man.
     
  15. blue_neon Traverse Town Homebody

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    Sorry if this has been said to you before. But i've seen this situation before... if u like her thats gr8 but be sure she does like u bak first. Take a risk only if it is necessary