Okay, I would really like some help with my problem. Well, about two years or so ago I met this boy. And he smiled at me. I smiled back. He's nearly my perfect kind of guy, cute, considerate, and kind. Although we're not in the same classes, wherever we see each other while going to class, we'll walk each other if we're not with other friends and whenever both my close friends are off sick, he'll hang out with me during lunch. He's the only boy I've ever been able to talk to, comfortably. During the two years I've gotten to know him, I've slowly been falling in love with him. First it was just a harmless crush but now it's more than that. My first love. But here's the catch. He's gay. He's not into girls. When I first met him, I accidently catch him in the act of kissing his boyfriend. After promising that I wouldn't tell anyone that he was gay, that's when he smiled at me. I still remember that smile, but now it's breaking my heart. Please, can you give me some advice to help me get other him? This unrequited love hurts too much for it to continue like this. I can't tell him, and I don't want to because that'd make him feel guilty. All I want now to get over him.
Hmm your best shot is to tell him (he will likely not be too deeply affected by this seeing as you're close friends). If he realizes the implications of your feelings for him, he will gently let you know it isn't possible. I know it sounds odd, but once you find out for sure it can't ever happen, you will jump from in love to "friends." That's why if you confront him it will be healthier than finding out secretly. This is a pretty sticky situation isn't it? lol
I'm sorry )': Just keep an open mind. If you aren't looking for him, you'll find him. I know it makes no sense but it's so true. You need to become more social and talk to more boys and maybe get to know them better. The perfect guy is out there for you, don't sweat it (:
Hmm, maybe that would work although I'm not sure if I what to tell him. But I guess I'll have to at some point so that we'll stay friends. I'll try and build up the confident! Well, that what always happens in romances right? So if must have some truth then. Okay, so I try and have more of an open mind. Haha, it's not that I'm afraid to talk to boys, the thing is they useally only talk about sex and girls in such a way that's a bit uncomfortable. :/ I guess though there must be another boy somewhere who isn't like that and isn't into boys. I'll try to find him. ___________________________________________________________ Thank you both for helping me. :) You've both open my mind a little bit more and I'm grateful to you both. All that's left now is for me to take your advice.
Does he actually have a boyfriend? If he does, then it's the same as if he had a girlfriend, which would make him unavailable anyway. I would say that there is your biggest clue that he's not going to go out with you. However, if he's not actually dating someone, get him alone and ask him if he's at all interested in you so he can answer it. Be prepared that he may likely say no, but if that's all you need to hear to confirm things and move on, it is the right thing to do. Perhaps he will surprise you and say he is interested in going out with you but the chances are pretty slim. After all, he's gay and so he may just think of you as a really close friend. If you ask him and he says no, or if you don't and feel he'd more than likely say no because he has someone else he's interested in or with, you may want to, as Famous said, go around and meet some other people too so that you can find a boy that you would like. You have a strong two year friendship with this guy so that's cool. It's iffy if things will work out or not in your favor but if not, there are other guys out there that are good and someone will come along eventually. Whatever you do, don't be resentful of the guy or yourself. Feelings like this happen and I'd hate to see you hurt badly over something that just is the way it is. You can change your own feelings but not someone else's.
Well, this is a problem. You don't have to love each other. Just be friends. If he's gay, you have no chance of him loving you back unless he cuts that. So stay being friends until something changes.
