One Question A Day

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ONE QUESTION A DAY​

Every day, I will ask one thought-inducing ( hopefully discussion-invoking ) question. It could be about anything; personal, the world, philosophy, your thoughts on something, or it could be about something simple, like your favorite song, movie, book, etc, and why.

Feel free to message me if you have any suggestions for questions, I'm open to them.

Day One: What is something you find interesting about yourself, and why?​

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As long as the questions are discussable and not just branching off into 'What's your favourite song/TV show/etc?' which would be better placed in other sections, then I'm good with this! C :

I find it interesting how I think. I can't compare it to other people's thoughts but I kind of find my process of thought interesting. I think because it's so scatter brained yet seems to have some semblance of organisation about it, and the ability to go from carpet to the regime change of France, interesting.
It's probably not a great explanation, but I don't know how else to describe it.

 

This is actually a really cool idea!!

Anyway, I find my means of social interaction very interesting. My shrink (yes I have a shrink) tells me I have a minor case of Social Anxiety-basically meaning that in small group situations I will shut off my communication for the fear that I will say something horrible. When it comes to face-to-face communication I suck a lot worse than most people would. But see here, you wouldn't think I do. I guess that's the beauty of the internet: you can't see other people's reactions, and therefore you're not fussed with how people respond to you. I guess I find it very interesting that I can't always say what I really feel IRL for the fear of being judged...but that's not really an admirable trait at all, is it?

A part of all my 'interesting' social interactions is that I will usually imagine the social gathering scene over and over, and play it in my head, and even act it out, just to see what I would do next and how I think people will react. It's part of being part of the performing arts I guess-you're used to the rehearsals, but the real thing is no where near the same.

So yeah that's pretty much something I find really interesting-the difference between communicating online and offline.

 

Nice idea ^^

I like . . . generally my personality. Not in like an egotistical sense, but more of a "I love that I love the things I love" kind of sense. If not that, then I love how I don't care what other people think about me. For instance, going through school can be rough on some kids. A lot of kids worry what they look like, what they dress like, how they talk, and so on. I didn't care. I did what I wanted to do. I said what I wanted to say. I wore what I wanted to wear. And I never did anything because I thought it would make me look "cool." I did things if I wanted to do them. I really feel bad for people who care more about what others think than they themselves. It's really relaxing if you can just be yourself.

And that's what I like about myself ^^

 

I think it's interesting how absurdly two-faced I am. Of course everyone is made of conflicting thoughts, ideas, and behaviors all vying for attention in their heads, but I think I'm extraordinarily polarized in that way, especially when it comes to dealing with others. Sometimes I'm a hyper-empath who can tell exactly what someone's thinking; sometimes I am stupidly oblivious to it, or my guess is flat wrong. Sometimes I am in love with people as a general thing, love to be around them, love to hear about them, love to see their faces light up when they talk about their interests; sometimes people disgust me, everything they say irritates me, and I wish they'd go away. (Well, most of them. I usually want at least one or two around.) I go from warm and friendly to cold and distant, and occasionally the change is visible, as if someone's sucked all the hot air out of the room. And of course, the most obvious, my gender-fluidity: I want completely different things from myself or a romantic partner depending on my mood.

It's led to some interesting results in my friend circles. I serve totally different roles in different groups. If I've known someone for a long time, my behavior around them starts to stabilize, and I maintain one of my faces more often. But when I'm just meeting someone, no bet is safe; I'm still figuring out how I want to express myself around them, and I can switch masks quickly. I've been told more than once that I'm unpredictable, inscrutable, intimidating, even frightening. I find myself easy to read, but I guess it's because I'm with myself all the time; I know all of these moods, I know what they bring and what to expect. There are a few who can sift through the mess, but I've been known to catch people off guard who say they can read me like a book.

 

I find two things interesting about myself, one is that despite my quiet behavior irl, I find myself a leader online. Even when it comes to rp's and/or forums. I seem to manage to take control and have people follow me. I'm not trying to sound egotistical, I'm actually deeply surprised that when I find myself in a situation where I can help, it just naturally comes to me to take a leadership position. In real life, I'm pretty quiet and withdrawn, barely speaking up and even more rare, giving suggestions, but on the Internet, I'm a different person.

Another thing that's interesting is my ideas. When I watch a series, I can usually think of a few ideas for a rp, or a story within a few episodes or hours in a game if it's good. If it's bad, that's another story. Sometimes I can think of ways something can be improved while just typing about it. I get stuck in some real life stuff, but my mind is always working towards a creative idea to fix it or make it better.

 

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Day Two: Do you think it is okay to sterilize minors with developmental disabilities?​

Ethics of such a decision before the child can make up his or her own mind, etc. Consider the parents' life and how it would lessen the 'burden' of caring for such an individual. Discuss.

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I honestly don't believe that this is can actually be a thing. It might lessen the parents' "burdens" but that's their child, they shouldn't do something so cruel. Especially when that child can't make decisions for themselves. I don't care how tough you might have it, there's no way this is a justifiable act. To me, it's selfish on your part. I could go on for ages about this topic, but I'll just end it with a, "This is a horribly immoral act on the parents', who commit it, part."

 

Having worked with people with disabilities and having a few myself, I know some people would hate me for saying it:

But it depends on the case.

When I was born, they thought I was going to be a vegetable with no interaction with the world. It took YEARS of therapy to get as far as I am today. It took YEARS of tutoring all the way to my junior year of high school to get me to where I am today and I STILL worked hard to get the grades I got and still needed tutors.

Why am I bringing this up with this question?

Simple: When a child is born with a disability, they shouldn't be judged until they at the least reach puberty or around there. I know kids who have low-functioning autism, I know kids with severe asbergers which is what I have but a low grade of it, I know kids who have learning disabilities like my bro. Can they get to the point where I am? It depends on each case.

Some people can and some can't. I would say if around puberty and they can't take care of themselves they should be sterilized. Why? Because things happen. I myself had had this happen to me. Things happen where someone gets pregnant. It could happen to any women, and it's very traumatic to lose a child in the first place, a person with a disability where they can't communicate or understand what's going on it would be a thousand times worse.

I know kids with at least autism are very bright sometimes, but they live in a world that's their own. When they reach a level where they can't take care of themselves or understand what's going on, it's hard for them to know what happened.

If the parent is willing to take care of their grandchild, yes, let them not be sterile. But that's a high risk in itself if the parents die before the child is fully grown. It's a very hard fine line to walk about this. I can only imagine what the parents go through making these decisions.

If it's based on whether or not the kid will carry on the gene maybe, again, it depends on the case. My family has severe cases of mental illness, disabilities, and god-knows what in our gene pool. My brother has a son who luckily never seemed to get the trait yet. I know and I've been warned if I ever had a child, it would be extremely high that my disability would be passed on to my kid. Hence one of the reasons I decided not to have a child. It is my choice and I'm fine with it.

But again, the kids who have severe disabilities and cannot communicate with the outside world, it is very hard for the parents to make a choice for the child. Like I said before, things happen where a woman can get pregnant. I think honestly it's better when they reach puberty and they cannot communicate to the outside world or understand what's going on around them, they should sterilize.

 

"I think therefore I am" and a few mathematical axioms aside, absolute certainty is a red herring, We can come closer and closer to the truth, using science and logic, but our conclusions usually remain imperfect approximations. However, as imperfect as our theories on electricity might be, they' re close enough to the truth to allow me to type this on a computer, which is good enough for me.

I think of truth in practical terms, I mostly care about what is demonstrably reliable and useful.

 

What family means to me is someone who you can confide in and they can confide in you.

You can tell them anything without fear of being judged or know that they will never hold it against you for the rest of your life even if you screw up. For instance: I have a father who I have barely spoken to in the last five years and get pissed when talking about him. I grew up with him and over the years our relationship has reached this level. At the same time, I have someone who was my boss for about a year and during that time I considered him like a father because of how kindly he treated me, when I did something wrong, he let me know and let it go afterwards. He always made me feel welcome despite everything going around me since I was having a hard time with my mom at the time.

I also have a brother who I barely speak to, I haven't spoken to him formally in years and we don't hate each other, but we don't like each other either. At the same time, I have an online brother who I tell everything to and him me when he wants to. We're very close and look to each other for support.

I also have a mom who I love dearly and she does me. We have our moments where we hate each other, but we get over it as time goes on.

Family for me is not blood, it's not adoption, it's someone who you really care about and can share everything with without hate lasting a long time.

 

Family is the close connection between people who grow, both individually and as a group over time, usually co existing in the same living environment as one anther.

I have seen myself in a family not of my own. My friends, at times, feel like family, people, who just accept my presence without worrying about it a great deal. I have felt such love that i'd want to start my own family with said person, because that's how close we are. True concepts of family is something fundamental for healthy and happy living.

 

To me, family is not a genetic bond-it's earned and it involves great levels of respect and loyalty to each other. In my opinion, love in the form of family love is the strongest bond you can have, purely because it's based on a great level of trust, respect and loyalty. It's not based on blood, but blood helps.

Example: I love my mother, my mother loves me. we respect each other, trust each other and are loyal to each other. I call that a family bond. My father on the other hand I could pretty much do without. My entire childhood I despised the way he treated the rest of us. He wasn't abusive or anything, just very controlling and demanding. I find it very hard to connect with my dad because of the fear of judgement he has put on me. I don't like opening up to my dad at all, but my mum I'm fine with. I would say my dad is genetically my family, and even though I technically should love him like that, I really don't.

I am the youngest of four kids by 5 years. My siblings are 26, 24, 21, and I'm 18. Growing up there was always a distance between me and them, and even though we are much older now and I feel more comfortable, I still can't open up to them. My sister regularly comes up to me and says "If you have a problem, talk to me." Well now she has moved out so I don't see her, same with my oldest brother. My other brother works all the time so I barely see him either. You could say my family is kinda skewed, as the only person I actually feel a true family bond with is my mum, and maybe my brother too.

I find it very hard to trust people who are outside my family, so I can't call any of my friends that way. Hell, with how little I talk these days, i'm more or less just someone to fill the void. My ex, however, is somebody I trust. Now I wouldn't call him family, because let's face it that's kinda weird, but if we stayed as close as we are without any weirdness, that's what I call true. We respect each other, we trust each other, and we are loyal to each other. I do love him, but not in a boyfriend way, more like an "I never want to lose you because you are my best friend and I would hate that" kinda way.

So yeah, family does not necessarily mean genetic, it's just having someone you respect, trust, and are loyal to unconditionally.

/ridiculous paragraphs

 

Family is anyone you can turn to in a greater time of need. It doesn't have to be blood relation, or any relation at all.

I got family closer to me than most, and they aren't even blood. My best friends family is more of a family to me than my blood relation. Family is the people you love and hold dearest to your heart. If home is where the heart is, then family is your home.

 

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Day Five: Show the cover of a music album you like. Why this album cover?​

Why do you like this cover? What -- from the knowledge you have of the album -- do you think the album art symbolizes, if anything? Sometimes, they don't make much sense, but people try to riddle them anyway.

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ROAR ~ I'M NOT HERE TO MAKE FRIENDS

When people enter this world, they are tender; they wear their hearts on their sleeves. Eventually they grow up. As they grow older, they are exposed to society's general ills. Loss of innocence inevitably follows. Tired sheep. Docility is a defense mechanism.

I'm too tired for this

 

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NeverShoutNever - The Yippie EP

I don't know what to really say to this cover. It just puts a smile on my face every time I see this art and I don't really know why. Maybe because of the songs it holds? Maybe just because how silly this art looks? Or maybe it reminds me of how great an artist Chris was before he went down a path no one wanted him to go down on? Whatever the case, one of my favorite album covers.

 

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Day Six: Online friends as opposed to offline friends, which do you prefer and why?​

Do you like the thought of splitting your friends into these two categories? What do you think are the advantages to making friends online/advantages to making friends offline?

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