Okay, Here's the Deal.

Here's what my life has been like (outside life). I got a girlfriend by asking her out , but she dumped me for unknown reasons and refuses to tell me why. Next week, a chick asked ME out and we hooked up. A few weeks later, she doesn't talk to me, so I give her a call, but she dumps me (again, reasons unknown) then there was "Girl A" (if you read the "Girl A" thread, you kinda know her) but she recently threw me away. Now, I just got home from spending time with my new girlfriend who seems to feel uncomfortable with me. So...what's wrong with me. I'm nice, buy anything for them, don't "rush things," and I'm not bad looking. What's up?

 

Sometimes girls are weird like that... As a girl I know all about it. I don't know why they would dump you... I'm sure one day you'll find the right girl for you who won't dump you and not tell you why.

 

I forgot to mention, the last two were crying when they broke up with me. Any thoughts?

 

Maybe they were upset that they dumped you... I'm not sure why, but girls are just unpredictable sometimes... we can be happy and cheerful one minute and then angry and pissed for no reason the next.

 

It's possible they just don't understand you, and you're not right to them in some aspect (it could be one of the aspects you listed, or it could not).

Don't fret too much over it. A lot of people have those kinds of problems.

I don't want to sound rude and debunking in any way, but that is hardly notable as a reason. Guys are the same way. When we are in a relationship, or just coming out of it, we got through those mood swings too.

In fact it happens even outside of relationships. It's something that everyone does, so I can't say it could be a thesable(sp?) explanation.

 

They're probably having problems that they don't wanna tell you?
Or it's not working out somehow, idk.

 

Its one of either two things ~


Either you're simply choosing the wrong type of girl that just doesnt suit you and have weird personalities O.o

Or you have a serious flaw in your personality which you aren't aware of but which puts girls off you after a while.

 

Quoted for thruth.

Maybe they just don't want to be too serious, or maybe they don't consider you serious, and maybe they think youre not the "right" one.

 

I'm not a girl, but from my experience, I can tell you that girls don't like nice guys, cause no offense, nice guys can be boring. Girls like to have fun, and sometimes nice guys can be fun, but guys who treat them like crap keep things interesting, like drama. Don't call me out and try to prove me wrong, but that's just what I've sort of thought.

 

Dont give advice like that please |:
Thats pratically encouraging guys to treat girls like **** >_>

Besides, nice guys > *******s lol

 

Yeah thats happened to me... 1...2...3.... Three times girls can just be weird like that sometimes. i found out that its because they like someone else

 

Your right, I'm just mumbling about my failures. lol
But it is somewhat true though in some/most cases...

 

Well, not exactly treat them like crap, but don't be thier *****. Be a man, don't suck up to her, don't buy every little thing they ask for, joke around and don't try to be the sweetest thing ever.

I've been the nice guy and I've been a man. Man always wins. Every girl says she wants a nice guy but the nice guy is never given a chance. I've talked to girls who say they want a nice guy, tried to be the nice guy, and got no where.

 

That's more along the lines of what I meant, I just worded it wrong, girls like confidence.

I should just shut up though...this isn't exactly my are of expertise. lol

 

That is completely true, the less desperate you sound, the more interesting you do.

So to sum things up, girls want a nice guy that acts like a man, one who is very decisive and accertive.

One that thinks about them on the inside, but acts normal around them on the outside.

Pretty demanding if you ask me XD.

 

True, I was just a bit outraged when JD said to treat them like ****. >_>

 

That might be it. I'm not nice. I look nice, but I'm an evil, heartless, and cruel ******* who has no respect for people's feelings. Then again, I never act like that around them. I can't see what the problem is. Maybe it's not the way I act.

 

Well I think it might also have to do with what girls are being talked about. So that's why I should have never given my advice cause Sho's girls may not be the same kinds as the ones that live around here, all girls are different. But I guess my best advice is to keep looking for more girls Sho, cause you just may not be with the right ones for you.

 

You might just be doing something that you may not be aware of as being a turn off. Past behaviour is the best possible predictor of future behaviour and so far you're staying true to your pattern. You need to retrace your steps and find out what you do when you're out with them. You say you don't rush things, so the first place to start might be that you're too reluctant and come off as unreceptive. Another possibility would be that all of these girls know each other in some way and word is going around that you did something wrong with the first girl (girl A I assume), so try to retrace your steps from there and see if people are spilling the beans about a blunder on your part. How you go about asking them out and the way you follow through from there might also be the issue. It could be all flash at first, but there's no substance that follows.

 

I think that either they want to get back together with there ex's and they're sad to disappoint you.

Or they saw you "cruel and heartless side"

Or they just wanted to test you (this one is the most unprobable)

Basically be yourself. Even if your acting nice around them now. It'll come out sooner or later when your head is flaming and your girlfriend wants to go out.