"No Homo"

I don't really care either way (if people do that or not), but at the same time I don't really understand it.

Like, one of my friends, who lives in the same town as me, posted on Facebook how he really missed one of his male friends (because his friend is currently living elsewhere) and put no homo at the end. Then when his friend responded, he responded with something and then ended it with "I really do miss you" with a no homo at the end.

If anything, doesn't that stand out more than not having "no homo" in there? Like I said, I'm not criticizing him (or anyone that does it) or anything, I just don't understand. Does it have to do with people's stereotypical views and how some could perceive that as homosexual attraction because "OMG guy friends can't have brotherly love"!

 

sounds like he's a pretty insecure individual

 

Well, I'm talking about people in general, not just him. His post is just what made me make this topic. So is that the case with anyone that does that, then?

 

basically

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ill elaborate from my pov
missing a friend is a basic human emotion and telling your friend that in a sincere manner is a nice thing to do. i have nothing but disgust for a person who taints that exchange with their own insecurities as if expressing emotion to someone of the same sex, and a friend at that, is "homo"
glad i dont know anyone like that

 

god forbid males perceive affection and love as something that isn't "gay" and therefor negative from their point of view

 

On the other hand regarding my friend (can't speculate for everyone), it could be an inside joke. I dunno.

I don't know how old he is, but going by looks, I'm going to guess he's in his mid-teenage years.

I agree. I believe it's another stereotypical thing like I mentioned above.

 

i love you amaury
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no homo

 

Completely agreeing with this^

I feel no need whatsoever to end a statement, no matter what that statement may be, with such an atrocious remark as "no homo". To me it's just childish and quite frankly I'm going to think less of you as a person. Man up and tell your friends you love them. There's no reason to feel insecure about your masculinity, your sexual preference, or what other people think of both of them. I'm secure enough with myself to skip around town in a sailor moon outfit singing frozen songs and twirling those batons with the sparkly ribbons on the end. I'm not going to because I don't feel the need to do so but I would if I did.

And b4 anyone gives me flack about how it's hard to not feel insecure sometimes I'd like to say one thing ... *ahem* ... Bull. I know what it feels like to be insecure, I was insecure for the longest time growing up. I was insecure about my appearance, about my sexual preference, about my masculinity. I realized one day that it's a wasted effort to worry about what other people think of you and so in an effort to conserve my energy for more important endeavors I simply quit caring. There's always going to be someone who hates you or looks down on you but you know what ... that's their problem, not yours. There are individuals out there who are struggling with being homosexual, legitimately. It's minor insecurities like that, having to reinforce your own belief that you aren't homosexual (and really that's what it's about, it's not about making sure others know so much as it is yourself), that really grind my gears. Either you're homosexual or you're not, not getting into the many many variations of sexual preference at the moment. I don't want to constantly hear it all the time either way, just like I don't want to constantly hear what you're doing every morning on twitter.

Coupled with that avatar ... it's just so damn cute when you say it.

-Nights

 

Insecurity is unattractive on a very basic level. How can you take someone's expression of caring seriously if they make it about themselves like that?

 

If only it was manly to say "I love you" without people laughing at them, I guess that would break the status quo.

 

It's urban culture. I lived in New Orleans and this was very common. It wasn't anti-gay. It was just a way of pointing out sexual innuendo.

 

Bro, I want to **** your ass so hard right now. No homo of course.

 

One thing I forgot to mention, but I'm sure it was obvious, is that it seems to be only with heterosexual males. Yeah, males. For whatever reason, I've never seen females do the whole "no homo" thing when expressing their feelings to female a friend. I don't know why. Maybe it's because of the whole "girlfriends can call their female friends their girlfriends in a non-sexual way." There's, of course, nothing wrong with two heterosexual guys saying they love each other, and I personally see nothing wrong if they add "like a brother," but even if they don't say that, it's implied it's brotherly. Coming out of one my classes senior year, I walked by one of my male friends who's heterosexual, who I'll be talking about more in the paragraph below, and, jokingly, I said, "I love you, K," to which he responded with, "I love you, too, Amaury." Don't remember if the "too" was in there, but same thing. We're good friends.

Anyway, he said pretty much the same thing, but it was about hugs. He said males that are hesitant on hugging or don't want to hug other males are insecure about their sexuality and feel like they might become homosexual or something by hugging another. I agree with that, but I also think it's not always the case. Some people just aren't into hugging, and that's okay, and even if they're fine hugging the opposite sex, but not the same sex, that's still okay, personally.

To give you an idea of just how secure he and I are about our sexualities (heterosexual) and how open we are to sex and sexual discussion, on a couple occasions at school during lunch, we talked about our personal masturbation experiences, even very recent ones. I won't go any further than that, of course, due to the site rules, but yeah. And I see nothing wrong that. However, just like with hugs, I also see nothing wrong with not wanting to talk about that if it makes you uncomfortable in general (nothing to do with sexuality, just in general), because it is indeed a private thing. Not many people are that open, even with the opposite sex.

 

I was going to bring this up in a previous post, that sometimes it can be used for hummor and to good effect, but what was said here was nothing extreme indicating that it's really just a person afraid of emotion.

 

I wasn't going to say anything here, because I didn't really have anything to add, but Planned Parenthood just shared this article on my Facebook News Feed so I figured I might as just link it since It was relevant.

http://www.upworthy.com/some-words-...ntent=words-matter-0614&utm_campaign=healthfb

 

i love men

 

Wait what?? Since when????

 

I always say "no homo". Like, whenever I see a lass walking down the street I always say, 'Hey gurl, you're looking fine! ...No homo.' Then we brofist and everything's sweet.