Okay... He´s shouting at me all the time... Todays an example. Yesterday he bought a new SD card 4 my camera. God knows where he put the old one(BTW he did everything, changed the cards, put my photos in my pc, etc.) And today he wamted the old card. Let´s adress me as Machazo "Machazo, do you know where the SD card is, the old one?" "Nope" "You should know, its yours after all, and I need it 4 a party(my father´s a DJ)" "But you did everything related to it yesterday" And we started to disscuss over a 10 dollar SD card, and he blamed ME of losing it. ... ... ... I´m so angry!!!
The argument seems very 'last minuet' I think you should put it down to stress he needed it for work he didn't know where it was ect ect. If you guys continue then I think you should think about it more otherwise don't sweat it lol
I must ask. How often does this happen? And are they all similar to that one? From the case you mentioned it is hard to tell who was at fault with the start of the fight. Yes he's a scatter brain and thought you lost it when it was really him, but how did you tell him that? There is a big difference between "You were the one messing with it. How should I know where you lost it?" and "I haven't seen it since you gave me the new one, since you were nice enough to also do all the transfering for me."
He does it all the time! And not just with me, my brothers too. He just can't admit he made a mistake, that's what starts most disscussions, because me and my brothers (our ages are 17,my sis, 13 me 10 my other sis and 8 my bro) think it's unfair. Since he "can't" make mistakes he blames us for everything. He told me today he also needed it because it had the photos of his trip to USA and I told him why he had them in my SD card. He told me that they were there because he didn't have any other place. I didn't believe him, since he has a 128Gb pen drive, but I guess he uses it for work and doesn't want to mix up stuff, but my SD ain't a trash can where you can dump anything! He can be so annoying at times!!!
Well a lot of this is what you tell yourself about it. Right now it seems like you've decided that a lot of this will become a fight, and therefore it will. I would first try playing along with it. When he asks you where the old SD card that he lost is, remind him that he's the last one to have it (note: Don't make this into a fight. In fact if you don't leave him room to comment and just move on it might work best), but then look through your room and around the computer to look for it. He may have left it somewhere he assumed you would find it, and if not you've indirectly forced him to see that he could be at fault. Don't go telling him he did something wrong, let him realize this on his own. And all the while you can feel good about yourself because you are trying to teach your dad a life skill for a change, instead of him always teaching you. And be patient, you won't notice anything at first but that doesn't mean it isn't working.
I actually try to avoid fights as much as possible, but he just has an agressive nature and HE starts all the fights. And in one of these fights I told him the mistake was his and all he did was shut up... The next day he was like nothing had happened
Isn't that a good thing? It's a passive method of him accepting the blame. If he really thought it was your fault and you said that he would have called you a liar or something along those lines. I mean obviously be respectful about it, but if he's doing something wrong let him know. Heck if you get the guts on a day that this isn't happening then I would tell him about this. You can't hope for him to fix something that he doesn't realize is wrong.
I get stuff like this from my mum every day , i fet 1 thing wrong she shouts , but i could not ask for a better mum , when your dad shouts at you , just let him , parents are like that.
