We've been together for about 9 months and we only live 30-40 minutes away, so it's not exactly long distance. Anyways, so my boyfriend works during the day and comes back home on to skype at about 9pm. It's kinda hard to get in to any conversation with him online (it's always been like this), especially when he watches anime or reads manga. The only real times I can get in any real conversation with him is when we're physically in the same place. Then THIS weekend he went to do things with his friends and didn't even really mention about it before. I was hoping to at least to get into some convos with him this weekend, but yeah, didn't happen. I sound like a needy girlfriend but I miss him so much. Should I be worried about our relationship? am I just crazy? (just say so) I just miss him so much T_T
You should talk with him about your feelings, but I can advance you this: We (guys) like our freedom, and our friends! Of course we love girls, but if you keep pressuring him for his time, he might come, but isn't likely to enjoy it.. not as he would if he had gone from free will. A thing is strange for me.. as You don't see each other very much, and the relationship being so "new" I would expect you guys to be in that Honeymoon phase here you are passionate about each other almost everytime. I don't know how old you're, and WHAT is the nature of your relationship, nor I wish you to share over the internet (A.K.A It is just teen love with cuddling kisses, or a more grown up relation with frequent sex), If your case is the later It would seam to me strange for hiw to miss an opportunity to be with you (sad but true) , In the first case (teen love) some distance makes the feelings stronger to miss someone makes you love them more. And Yet... this event of leaving you for his friends occurs many times? Or it was something that barely happens? And does he have time to spend with his friends on the week? There are many things to consider...
Well, normally he just invites me to hangout with his friends. Like we all went to Karaoke together before. So I kinda thought he would've mentioned it at least. I really do try my best to give him his own space, I really do. >< I just get really lonely...and my head tends to go off saying "maybe he wants to break up with you"
This is great! If you hang out with his friends this should mean that in some level you're part of the gang... just try not to be a Yoko, for his beatles... I Know it can be hard to be away from those you love... yet I've found that is important that you acknowledge your own value! You now, before loving someone you must love yourself, don't be so dependent that you could not imagine yourself without him.. if you do that, you may find a balance between ripping his life with his friends, and not being together. But even if you're part of his group of friends, you should give him time with them (from time to time)... being with your girlfriend implies that you will not do all the jokes and japes that a group of male friends would do and that would suck. You should talk with him anyhow... if he knows you want him around (and your only real time is at weekends) he'll probably go himself after you ps.: You SHOULD NOT TELL HIM COME HERE NOW, or NEXT WEEKEND, just say that you miss him, and being apart hurts you that if he really loves you he will come.
