Loveless

I have loved, but was never loved back (romantically) I have had times where people probably think I was annoying, but doesn't everybody? Everyone I know has a girlfriend, but I don't. I told the one I love that I like her, but doing that may have been a mistake, and she denied me. and then an even bigger mistake was to make her think I had gotten over her. by the time I wanted her to know again, she was deep in another relationship (with my old friend, who knew I liked her). I guess waiting doesn't always pay off. I want to move on, but no one has come that is better. What should I do?

 

Sounds rough... Try going outside and talking to other girls.

 

If it makes you feel better, I'm in the same boat. Every girl in my group's got a boyfriend but me. My last (supposed) boyfriend ditched me for a toothpick girl on the Cape and still likes showing me the pics, which hurts. I've pretty much decided no one's going to love a girl who knows that 1+1=10 and can fix your computer faster than any repair shop could, without losing precious files. To me, it feels like men just want a girl who knows the right moves in bed and can't think for herself.

So in your case, yeah, maybe it hurts a bit to be alone (or maybe a lot), but there are some bright points to being a singleton. For starters, you're not going broke every birthday or holiday trying to buy some over-the-top gift. You don't have to worry about changing plans with yours friends because your girl wants to go out RIGHT NOWZ. You don't have to worry about little anniversaries here and there for the most rediculous things. You do what you want, when you want, how you want. Enjoy the freedom while you have it, because if you try to rush headlong into a relationship, you're gonna look back at what you had and regret having a ball-and-chain 'round your ankle.

 

"It has better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all." I believe that's true. Love makes a person stronger if you let it, even in cases like yours. I wouldn't worry too much; just be yourself and someday you'll find your perfect match. I know that waiting stinks, but it's better than giving yourself away over and over again and breaking your heart.

 

You're only 13, so this is natural. I didn't get any girl friends until I was 15. Be patient and wait. It helps if you re a jock by the way.

 

My friend fixed computer after Geek Squad failed at it, and he's only 13. and has built a few gaming PC's (he's even trying to get a company started)

I guess you have a point with the whole "ball-and-chain" thing, and that happened to someone my friend knew: his girlfriend kept using him and he was always broke because he spent all his money on his girlfriend.

 

See, that's exactly what I'm talking about. Being in a relationship limits what you're actually able to do. You're stuck putting off something you've really wanted to buy because your girlfriend just HAS to have that necklace/ring/plishue/other schtuff.

Let me put it another way: A couple months ago there was a concert downtown and we all had planned on going. One friend had to drop out last minute because his girl yanked on his leash and said he had to stay and watch Disney movies at her place or she'd dump him. I swear he was only really seeing her for the sex, but he went back to her tail in between his legs anyway. So he missed out on the best concert (in my opinion) because he had "other responsibilities".

And the Geek Squad thing: I fixed a computer with software troubles not too long ago and ITS had wanted to reimage the whole thing. Turned out some program was firewalling it and needed to be turned off at startup.

 

My sister isn't in a relationship, but volleyball rules her life. she never has time for anything because she has to be at a volleyball tournament.

what I'll probably have to do is find someone who doesn't want to hang out 24/7, but since it's hard to find anyone in the first place, that will be even harder.

 

You could what it IS about your friend that she likes then you can act the same way and try to get her to like YOU more. That OR she's already into you and is dating your friend to make you jealous. Which is unlikely.

 

You're 13. In a few years, you're gonna look back at this and laugh at yourself.

 

Like others said, you're only 13. You don't really need to worry. There is always someone out there who is in a worse relationship predicament than you.

For example, I'm almost 21 and have been single most of my life. (Longest relationship was with someone I didn't like and it lasted 3 months). I've been "with" people, but never committed because I have high standards...perhaps too high. Coincidently, guys who I crush on are usually taken!

My roommate cannot be without a boyfriend, which is the other extreme because she dates anyone. Be patient and don't just go for anything. You have lots of time...wait for something special to come along.

 

Yeah, I'm in the exact same boat as you. I'm 18 and never had an actual relationship... as in one that happened in our world (reality); all I've had were online, long-distance relationships. :(

 

but I'm not a jock
(almost the opposite, actually)

 

I know how you feel, just keep going and hope someday you will find some who cares the same way about you. You probably will.

 

I remember a line from a Coldplay song:
"All you ever wanted was love, but you never looked hard enough. It's never gonna give itself up
I should look harder
(although there's also a line from a U2 song:
"And I still haven't found what I'm looking for.")

 

Try not being so overdramatic. This isn't the Count of Monte Cristo. You need to be practical. Try giving her your severed ear. I heard it worked for some painter.

Contrary to popular belief, actually meeting someone in person isn't completely necessary for a relationship. Some people just prefer it more than others. You don't need physical contact to have a meaningful, communicative relationship. Just patients.

 

It's best not to start dating now. Trust me. The people with the stongest relationships in middle school are the ones failing it. Plus if you start dating you're basically opening a can of worms. Once you open it you can't put them all back in.

In other words once you start dating there's a whole sting of problems that came with it that you're probably not ready to face.

 

hmp, believe me, you'll find someone kid...someone who can make you happy...like you said, you're only 13, so enjoy life, there's more too it than relationships...and believe me, I know how you felt.

 

thanks, all of you, you make me feel a lot better about my life :)

 

i've never had a boyfriend, but i've been asked out...
anyway, i wish you the best of luck in your quest to find love. truly and sincerely. ^_^