Long Distance Help...(Voices of a distant Star)

Have you ever loved somebody with a fire so bright it burned you from inside out? Has that person ever lived...say down the street? No? well how bout across town? Still no? Well...how bout ten hours away in the only place that truly feels like home to you? Yes? Well its hard isn't it? ever feel like no one truly understands how you can love somebody with out ever getting the chance to interract on a regular basis? I have...and let me say, its hard to live in a world that is so shallow...thats why i open this to you...to all of you in long distance relationships with a special person that your heart longs for, that your soul needs, and feels at peace with...This is a safe haven, no one can judge you here...here you will find aceeptance and guidence if nessasary...i would like to help those of you that are new to a long distance relationship...i'd like to help any one that i can really....so i leave it up to you...


The Balck Winged Angel.

 

I'd say 20% of this belongs in the "Help with life" thread and 80% belongs in the "Boyfriend Girlfriend Help" thread. Other than that this just seems to be a drum circle for the relationship-immature to talk about how they've all put their "love" and "soul-mate" eggs into one basket.

 

Well White Rook that is your personal Opinion, and if you feel this thread should be moved, contact an admin. I did not know there was a ceritan place for this...

Now Further more, the very point of this is to allow those who have be braded by ppl like you ro feel comfortable talking about thir feelings here, with out pressure or negitive comments. So in the future, please keep your negitivity towards long distance relationships to a minimum here.

 

No, no. You've misconstrued my point. I have no qualms with long distance relationships because like any other relationship they can work-- the only difference being that more effort is required because you can't have contact with each other on a regular basis. Power to you if you make it work.

No, my beef is with the immaturity of this website and most people that the average age of this forum comprises of. To them they only have a one and only soul-mate that they continue to whine about despite realizing that they have the rest of the lives to first grow up, and then seek out a real meaningful relationship where actual criteria are brought to the table (regardless of its form). Oh yes there are plenty of exceptions to this, because I admit to meeting young people who are very mature for their age. Sadly they don't make up the majority of this forum's population. I'm just being realistic here.

 

Ah, i see your point,and i apologize for my past remarks. Next time i'll look more carefully before retorting. Once again i apologize

 

That ended much more maturely than most of the misconceptions on the site. But as this is only forum try not to retaliate too harshly to other people, it can be very hard to show your actual feelings and thoughts only in text. And then there's the fact that people our age like be sarcastic wich is even harder to put into text.


Anyway, on the main subject. Yes I have an idea of that. I was really good friends with a girl but we hadn't actually dated (that weird grey stage where no one is entirely sure if you bf/gf or not) and then she moved halfway across the country. We managed to keep a good relationship for a little bit but it slowly crumbled apart and now its been a couple of months since I last had contact, seeing as she hasn't responded to my last few emails.

 

hm, well the odd thing is...that seems to be a common occurance with moving...you keep in touch but slowly lose it...I never did quite understand why such a thing happend, even though like you said you had been in that gray area of an undefinable relationship...and it is odd how one could want the contact..but the other never responds. Please do not feel as if all is lost, b/c there is always hope...the best thing to do is to leave a casual "Hey there, how are you. just wanted to let you know i was thinking about you" kind of e-mail/message/Im what have you. and if they reply great, if not...just wait a little while and try again, or if you know their adress, write them a hand written letter...they cant really miss it if it's in an envlope...and i'll bet they'd be very touched by it...

hope that helps..