I've been acting unusually angry and aggressive lately...

...and I don't know why or how I became so mad. I don't know why, but at some points I feel like just breaking something in half, or throwing something, maybe both, I dunno...

It has come to me slugging someone in the face on school already for no good reason. He was bullying me, but I wouldn't have slugged him to the ground normally... I'm just in a pissed-off mood lately, and that isn't normal seeing as the enormous amount of patience I usually have.

There's no warning to it, it just pops into my head to just hit something. If anyone knows how to deal with these kinda situations, that would be highly appreciated.

 

You might want to consider counting to ten or some other calming exercise. Are you in a sport? Maybe you just need a way to release all of the energy you have.

 

Instead of getting angry try to think of things that make you happy. Sometimes it helps calm down the urge to break or hit something or someone. Once in awhile I get those urges to yell at someone, but what usually helps me is to think happy thoughts. :lol:

 

i used to have the same issue but then i started exercising it really helps try it. But i dont mean just alittle if your not sore the next day you didnt do enough

 

I don't do sports anymore, and we only have gym class once in a week. That could be part of the problem.

I think I need a little help with that...

I already do that, and now that I think of it, the adrenaline you get from exercising could only make it worse. What kind of exercise do you actually mean?

 

i do alot of pushups situps i also run alot try doing fun things like riding a bike. I heard one of my teachers say that exercising releases somethin called endorphins that make happy

 

You could always try carrying around a stress ball or something, that way when you get the urge to attack something you can squeeze the daylights out of a piece of foam and not someone's skull. Simple exercise like running will usually help; you don't need to kill yourself, just work off some steam. (Also, chocolate as well as a number of sweet foods stimulate the release of endorphins, so if you have chocolate, nom)
And like Allison said, counting to ten or deep breathing almost always helps. It's good that you're aware of when you're doing it, so when you notice yourself getting angry, take a minute to cool down and think things over.

 

In through the nose, out through the mouth; deep breaths my friend.

Altruism is a good alternative too. For example, working in a kitchen at a restaurant (which I do, really takes some of the edge off as well).

 

I agree with the exercise comment. It releases endorphins to your body which makes you feel happier. Plus, if you learn to focus your anger on the workout, you end up pushing harder than you thought. That's why I do, anyway. But, just try and think of something that calms you down and think SOLELY on that person/object. The mind is a wonderful thing. It can do more than you give it credit for.

 

It's probably your testostaron levels (being the male hormone) that can make you more quick tempered but it also makes you grow and build in muscle so enjoy this period of your life

 

Exercising releases endorphins which make you feel happy. Also, you're a teenager, which means you're bound to have fits of angryness because of hormone production. It'll quiet down eventually.

 

Sorry for making this late reply,

I think that at the age of 16 you're bound to start getting over things, stop being childish, and in my example, let the aggression die down.

 

As other people suggested, exercise is a great way to get rid of some tension and anger. A healthy body helps to have a healthy mind. Teenagers all do go through hormonal periods where sometimes it just is going to seem like there's a lot of rage or depression or even over happiness etc.

Try also taking a multivitamin. You may be low in iron or something and just taking a vitamin each morning or night can help you get lost minerals and such you may need and it can assist with the mood swings some.

Try playing a video game where you can test yourself but not 'too much' so you don't just get frustrated at the game. This can get out some anger that is within and help you feel some relief and happiness when you succeed on levels and such.

Try listening to some music and singing along to it at home. Or doing something like a hobby you can sink some time into. Maybe even try some task like going online for a recipe and bake something up. Get your parents to let you buy some kit you need to build something from like of a car or space ship or something like that. These kinds of things can relieve some tension while giving you something to think on and do that you have not tried before.

Punch a pillow. It doesn't hurt the pillow and won't hurt you. That's for when you are really frustrated. xD

Try meditating or just relaxing and thinking on what is bothering you. Try thinking after on some solutions for your dilemmas. Maybe even try writing out some of your issues so that you can deal with each thing one by one and make peace with things inside yourself. If you can break down things that frustrate you, it may help you to get over them easier.

I hope any of our suggestions help you out and you get over this problem soon. It's a normal thing and will pass but it can take some time so doing some things meanwhile can assist you so you don't hurt yourself or anyone else as you go through the fun hormonal times.