Is being a hermaphrodite a deal breaker?

I'm just curious. A recent rumor regarding a celebrity brought this up to mind.

If you liked someone, then you found out they were a hermaphrodite while you were in a relationship, would that be a deal breaker?

I consider myself a straight male, and I was thinking, it really wouldn't bother me if I was really into her, and she was willing to play the female role.

However, in order to be sexually intimate, I would rather her remove her male parts surgically. However, even if she opted not to, I would still treat her as a female unless she acted otherwise.

On the other hand, if she acted like the male, then it would bother me, and I would be bothered, and would seek to abandon the relationship.

If s/he had neither sex organs, which some do, I wouldn't mind either, as long as she took the female role.

I don't know, what do you think? I am curious to find out what both straight males, and straight females think. As well as gay/bisexuals of both genders think as well.

 

Lady Gaga, lol. i herd about dis.

Nah, not really. It would be a turn off in most cases, but if it really isn't obvious, I wouldn't care.

Edit: after some more thinking, yeah. It would be a pretty big turn off. Sex is not fun if there's a big penis waggling along to my beats.

 

If they made it a point to let me know, then I wouldn't mind. Now if we decided to do something sexual and I found out that way, it would probably be a huge turn off and I would be really freaked out to be honest. Even so, if it was a girl and we became serious I would prefer that she get it removed. If it was a guy I would ask for the same. xD

Either way, it doesn't bother me much. ​

 

Do not want. As much as I'd like to say I'd stick with the person still, I wouldn't, because I'd end up looking towards women with the standard equipment. That's just me though. If they're just a friend, I don't mind though.

 

Okay, I'm a straight girl. I love someone because of everything he is, inside and out. Now, when I seriously think about this deeply....to be honest, finding something like this out about him would fucking freak me out. I have absolutely nothing against hermaphrodites, but....it would turn me off and creep me out. It's just not my preference at all. I mean, if I was ever going out with him and found this out, I'd probably stay with him....but not do anything. Then he'd break up with me. Then I'd cry. And stuff. Basically, it would ruin my life. That's why I'm happy he's a full-fledged guy, and not bi-gendered. Sorry, but that's just my preference.

In short: Relationship w/ bi-gendered = </3

 

...this whole time I thought you were a guy :<

But yeah, as a straight person, I'd rather not date someone in-between genders. No problem with gay people, quite a few of my best friends are gay/bi, but when it's two genders together...eh.

 

Well finding out in bed is probably the worst time to find out anything about your partner. I mean, IMO, if i'm going to lay down with someone, I think I should know them well enough that nothing will suprise me.

Are you saying being with a hermaphrodite might change your orientation? I actually don't think so.

I can understand your perspective. But assuming he had all the male equipment, and acted like a male, is it really that hard to maintain a relationship with him? I mean, it really isn't his fault that he was born with some female characteristics.

But yeah, I understand.

 

I did not say this or intend this in any way. I'd try, but I can't go against my own nature, which is preference in natural females.

 

Well the theoretical bigendered partner will have a vagina.

And I do agree with you on that part.

If she intended to be intimate with me, I would want her male organs removed. Which is asking a lot of her.

 

*facepalm*
Yes it is, cuz. Yes it is...

 

Depends how far into the relationship we are. If it's a two week fling, it's a deal breaker. If it's at a marriage-is-around-the-corner stage, possibly not.

Also, they better have a VERY good personality to make up for it.

 

Being bisexual (though slightly more inclined to girls), I probably would not mind so long as she/he told me beforehand.

 

well yea i mean usually that is something you get outta the way at some point now im not saying i wouldnt be friends with them but thats a definite no in the intimacy department but i would still be friends with them

and yea i know you cant really help how you are born but thats still a turn off at any stage

 

I've thought about this before and it is a little tough for me to decide what i'd do.
Probably in the heat of the moment I would end a relationship like that, but if I think aobut it I don't think it is the worst relationship I could be in. I class myself as a Bi-sexual but still this isn't as clean cut as I would sleep with women and men, being with an hermaphrodite is something in the middle, a little something like 'against nature' in my head, but I really don't know what I would do, it's 50-50

And if this is about Lady Gaga, I seriously doubt she is an hermaphrodite. Sexually she's just off the rails and kinda nuts, but I still sy she is a complete woman.

 

It would break the deal sexually, but if she was more girl than guy, I'd probably still flirt with her. On a drunken night, I could even go past flirting. But I don't think I could soberly have sex with someone like that.
Friend wise? Not a deal breaker
sex wise? Deal breaker

 

god, lil, you are so cute! haha i do have to agree with you here... except, just to let you in on a secret: drunk sex isnt much fun for either person by the end of it XD

 

Keep telling yourself that. You just might start believing it.

 

Man, that's a difficult question to answer. I think if I found out at the heat of the moment, I'd be like 'wtf' and be out of there. I'm pretty sure I would be that way just because of the surprise and shock factor, and well, It would be gross to me.

If I had feelings for her, and she told me about it ahead of time, I would have to think on the issue, if I wanted to continue pursuing a relationship or not with the girl. I mean, it's not really her fault for how she was born...same as the rest of us. We just come out as we are and we have to live with it. I think I'd wish for her to well, take the final step and become 'more' female as in getting rid of the male part downstairs, because the wii is awkward and a turn off to me. However, I'd feel guilty about making her do such a thing if that's not what she wanted. There are plenty of bisexual guys or straight guys even that could probably deal with it, and if she was accepting of her own body, and was female in every other way, I'd feel like an ass to make such a demand. So, in the end, it'd just be something we'd have to talk about seriously and see what happened. It could end the relationship or not, depending on how I feel about her otherwise, as in how well do we get along in other ways etc and if I could still find her attractive.

As for Lady Gaga or any transgender person out there, I am not sure still she is one, but I don't really care. Some people go on about how she is and well, if you aren't sleeping with her, what's it matter? I do like her music, despite the fact I'm not really into pop much. Can't say I've found her that good looking, though I don't feel she's ugly either. Guess I have a rationale that says my chances of hooking up with any celeb, even if I did really think they were attractive, is close to zilch anyway. I have nothing against transgender people. I'd just not be attracted to them sexually. We all have our attractions and things that turn us off. I wouldn't treat the person different otherwise though.

 

Well, if they told me about it beforehand, and I actually had time to sit there and think about it, I think I'd probably stick with them. If I really cared about them that much, then I'd find a way to make it work. I mean, if I cared about them before I found out, they're still the same person regardless of who they are physically.​