I hate my life. I went back to school today and as it turns out my group appears to be full of heartless b*tches and *******s that couldnt care less about me. I know I sound selfish at the moment but i hardly ever complain in a social situation and all I do is listen to their stupid fricken problems all damn day! And of course as soon as I say anything I get the funny looks. I cop the smart ass comments. I cop the fact that everyone thinks Im so weird because I dont talk. They never considered that I learned 'if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all.' apparently that concept has escaped all of them. They are all bonehead *******s who can die in a hole. Its gotten to the poimt where I never talk-not because i dont want to, but because Im actually scared to death of what they would think if I said ANYTHING. Ive deactivated my facebook-first for school and second because anything i say on facebook they will pay me out for IRL. For instance: So I finished my major history extension assignment. Its this huge historical investigation thing you have to do for like a year and then write a massive essay about it. Well, when i had finally finished I decided to celebrate on facebook. My ******* friends decided to make fun of the whole damn thing!!! See this is the problem: i dont talk IRL...like...at all. So facebook and sites like these are my way of talking full stop. I just dont have any social confidence whatsoever. So to pay me out at a time when i managed to build up a tiny amount of courage to post something online, and then get paid out about it IRL when I cant do anything aboug it is quite sh*t. I may more or less be overreacting but my self esteem is possibly in the negatives. What the bloddy hell do i do now?
If this is the way they treated you, they are not true friends. True friends will, no matter what the issue is, always stay loyal and help you, not make fun of your work or anything like that. This is coming from someone who had this happen on mutilple accounts and is actually still happening with one of my "friends". Anytime we do something that he was not "invited or known about" he starts to ***** and complain. Here is my solution. Ignore them and find people who are worth your time and effort. There are plenty of nice people in this world. For every 3 ******s there are about 4 nice guys/girls who are cool and fun to hang out with.
Seriously? You need to get some new friends. Friends absolutely do not do things like that to each other, which means that they are not your friends. There are plenty of people who have similar interests to you and won't treat you like that. All it takes is some time and you'll get some people who are true friends. I've gotten in your situation before, and in fact still have the same problem today. I can't hang out in groups because I feel I can't say anything, mostly because I will be ignored or get weird looks. I could hang out with only one person at a time. But if you like to be in groups, find people who have similar interests than you, and slowly weave them together using introductions, the 'so and so also like naruto like you do' saying to get them also interested in each other, which will ultimately become a group of friends that are nice and considerate of each other. If they don't like what you say than f*ck them. There is always the whole process of defriending and ignoring on FB. They aren't your friends anyway so why bother with their bullsh*t? I don't talk that much in real life either too, I've always been the quiet antisocial one. So it seems like we have much in common. That is about all that I have to say because I believe that if you just make new friends and ignore the old that it will fix your problems. Please feel free to VM or PM if you ever want to talk because I love to help if you need anything, even if it's just someone to talk to. I send you luv and hugs. ~J~
If they make you feel small and weak, they aren't your friends. Find some other people that like you for who you are, not ones that scare you from speaking your mind.
I'm sorry that they do this to you, but as has been said, if they treat you like this then they're not real friends. Believe me, I've been there and I know how crap from the internet (especially Facebook) can affect your interactions with your "friends" in real life. If I were you, I'd try my hardest to get away from them however you can. If this is the way those asses decide to act towards anyone, let alone a "friend", then it'll be for your benefit in the end.
Negative self esteem? I know what you're talking about, I've been having this problem as well since some years ago. New friends. Actually, were they friends of yours? If you have a bond with someone, then they would understand you and you would understand them, not bad-mouth or make each other angry or sad. You want a place to feel free, that people knows what to say, people who actually understands you? You need to find friends. True friends. Someone you can trust, you need to go to this cruel world and find where are those persons that are good for you... Good luck... but just don't stop believing.
I do have some close friends i can talk to, its just within the group the others generally pay me out so they go along with it. I can be myself and speak to these friends when im not in a group, it just means that when it comes to the group it becomes an inside joke and i dont want to do that to the group. Besides, this is the last term of school so I wont to see any of these people after like 2 months. I do have close friends: but theyre either not in the group, or theyre sheep. The friends that are not in my group are in a group that I generally hate so yeah. Idk today was a bit better at school but it always goes up and down. I can probs just stick it put. Thanks for your advice anyway guys. I really appreciate it :)
