I'm afraid to tell someone I love them because I'm afraid I'll be friend zoned. Its my worst fear of all time KHV, what should I do?
You'll never know if you don't tell the person you love that you love them. Just go for it. Find a nice, quiet spot and tell the person you love them. If they get all freaked out or upset / angry, they were never a good friend to begin with, because, regardless of whether they love you back or not, they should still consider the other person a friend.
Are you sure? She lives in a different city than me, she has a job now.....and telling someone you want to go somewhere quiet is kind of odd......
I still say you should tell them. The longer you wait the more adverse you'll become to telling them, which may lead to them finding someone else and you developing regret over not have moved when you had the chance. You have to realize that in all romantic situations there comes the chance of rejection and just being put in the friendzone. But telling her will honestly make you feel a lot better after you do it, trust me. Even if she doesn't want to start a relationship, the fact that you said "friend zone" implies that she wouldn't beak the friendship, and that she does (and will) still care about you. If anything, the worst you have to face is the ever possible threat of rejection, and even though it does sting for a bit and you two may be a bit awkward talking to each other for a week or two, saying something now is better than waiting for something to happen.
There definitely could be a chance! Even if she may not feel the same way as of right now, there's no way of telling if she may develop those feelings in the future. :) (unless she already has them now haha)
Haven't you already made a thread like this before? But yeah, go ahead and ask her man before it's too late and you hate your life AND ****ING CHRIST MAN JUST DO IT OR ELSE YOU'LL REGRET IT. But yeah go for it. Wouldn't you hate thinking "man why didn't I ask her when I had the chance?" If things don't go as planned, well, you're not dead or anything. As long as she's around your age, you shouldn't worry about revealing your feelings.
Listen to me, the guy that has gone through this more than his fair share of this, which really sucks, but the thing that sucks more than being friendzoned, is the that regret of never telling that person. Look if the person says they don't feel the same way, yeah it sucks, but some times it works out in the end, some times it doesn't. But you can not be afraid of asking that person out or telling them your feelings, because if you do become afraid, you will also become afraid of doing it again in the future. Now that we have agreed that were gonna do it, now we should talk about how were gonna do it. NOT OVER THE PHONE! NOT OVER MESSENGER! NOT THROUGH A LETTER! In person is the only way were doing this. You need to be in a place where your both comfortable to be in.
This is the question you're going to be caught with for ages if you don't tell her. If you keep your mouth shut, you'll continue to contend with this, wondering what she might feel, what could happen. If you're turned down, it will suck but it will pass, and then you'll be able to hopefully appreciate her as a friend, and move on to other, interested girls. Taking risks isn't easy for anyone, but sometimes you've just got to bite the bullet and do it. Besides, the chance that the feelings are returned is worth quite a bit, isn't it?
