One day I say to my closest friend in the world that I think that she's ignoring me, than I'm gone the next day and someone told me she was terrified to even see me, because of what I said. Now she didn't even talk to me today, it was just all silence. I feel as if I screwed up on something, I've known this girl for 3 years, my mom and stepfather keep telling me that since I reply to her Facebook status and told her that I feel as if I'm ignoring her that I'm a stalker. I don't feel that way towards her, I just care for her as a friend, my parents are saying that she's leaving me and doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I don't believe them, she would never do that, if shes known me for 3 years she wouldn't think of me that way. Why is she so mad? Should I say something? Is this the end of our friendship, I don't want it to be, I'm not saying this because I'm obsessed with her, I'm saying this because shes one of my deepest friends, I don't want it to ever end, I know things don't last forever, but this is like a nightmare. What do I do?
It really depends on your friend. You, obviously, know her better than me, so think--how do you think she would react best to discussing this to you? If you tried confronting her before (telling her that you think she's ignoring her), you may have scared her off--and that's not your fault! But if she's naturally shy and timid, a full-on confrontation like that can be extremely intimidating. In the past, how have the two of you discussed serious issues? Phone call? Text message? Email? Find a method of communication that she will feel comfortable in. There are a lot of reasons why she could be pulling away from you, let's not jump to the absolute worst conclusion first. She could be going through something; many people begin to recede into their shell and block people out. She may be confused about your friendship, in which case she may need more time to organize her thoughts. Or maybe the two of you really are growing apart... and in those cases, there's not always something you can do. People grow and people change; as much as the friendship means to you--and, I'm sure, meant to her--it takes two to tango. If she wants to move on, then you just have to respect that. The only way you'll know is communicating with her.
Dude, trust me when I say this, I know nearly exactly what you are going through right now. You have no idea. I'm going to tell you right now just to give that person some space for a while. It's most likely not souly your fault why they are acting and feeling like this; most likely, something else is bothering them and that person feels like you're smoothering or ganging up on them. You may say that's not what you're doing, but that's how they are feeling. Just step away for a while, trust me. I'm not saying cut ties or anything, but give them some breathing room. That person needs to work on some of their own problems first. You can still be a friend, but try to make it more casual. Trust me, I'm trying to use this advice, and it is really hard, especially if you are used to talking to her almost every day. It'll take a lot of will power, but a little sacrifice today makes a lot of pay off in the long run. You just need to keep believing that they'll break out of whatever funk they're having, snap back into reality, and you'll have your old relationship back.
She is kind of odd. First she's shy and than when she has a group of friends, she acts normal. I've discussed things with her for years, serious things, as she has done for me as well. I most likely did scare her off and didn't mean to, shes just odd, I lover her as a friend but don't want to be viewed as an enemy. My parents keep saying if I talk to her now that she'll think that there's something wrong with me and she'll do something out of control like call the police. Seriously, I don't know what to do, I feel as if I should let her some space to organize her thoughts, let her forget about it and move on, or say something to her, sure can't do anything online, it just doesn't feel the same, I need to tell her in person but I'm even more terrified to confront her, I see her every day at lunch but I worry about that too. Now I'm the one who's scared, seriously, last week everything was all just normal. I'm not a stalker, I'm just her best friend and I've known her for 3 years, she should know by now I would never do something like that. She's smarter than that.
This is a quite common trait to have, a person is reserved most of the time, but they loosen up when they're around people they know/are comfortable around. Where did you get this notion of stalking, though? I mean, all you've really done is talk to her, right? Stalking is totally different. It does sound like you should give her space for a while, but I think you should discuss it at some point--whether it's in a few days or a few weeks. Maybe leave her a message saying you're sorry if you freaked her out at all, you did still want to talk to her but you were happy to give her space for as long as she needs. Make your intentions clear but don't pressure her--giving her control of the situation may help her feel as if doesn't have anything to fear from you, and she'll be far more comfortable and approachable with time to think. If you don't hear from her in weeks then you may want to approach her again, but for now, it may be best to let her be.
Girls be cray cray. No seriously though, alot of people go through phases where they act "odd" and "different" to their norm, she might be mad at you, she's probably not though. Give her some space, don't really push any issues on her and in time you're more than likely going to come out on top. This being said is all dependant on the person though, she could really just suddenly not want to be your friend, weirder things have happened, so don't get your hopes up too much.
