welcome to How Do I Make A Friend: The Movie No, but to give a brief synopsis, I was hella lonely for months at school and it was bad, but I made some friends and WOO. However, this was mostly because two friends from high school got me quickly into the swing of the new dorm moved to (my old one was a steamin' pile of poo), but idk, I just feel like I haven't made an actual friend unaided by anyone else. I wasn't exactly the best at this during high school either, but I reached out to a very few people and they ended up being really close friends of mine. Anyway, there is someone who I do want to reach out & be friends with. They were in one of my classes at the start of the year, and we talked a bit and got along well. We added each other on Facebook and I messaged them about extra credit for that class back in November, and that was the last time we talked. Recently they had ~liked~ one of my statuses on Facebook, and even though that amounts to basically nothing other than a "hey i agree w/ this", I do still wanna talk to them & get to know them more because I always thought they were pretty cool and we had a fair amount of things in common (especially music taste & humor). I'm not entirely sure what to say to them though, given that it's been 6 months. I am sort of afraid messaging them will come off as a bit "?????/ where dd this come from woow Awkward" (which I have experienced before and it is uncomfortable as hell). Idk, I just feel bad that I didn't before because i was having a rough time, and don't want to keep fear of it being too late from holding me back before it is actually too late. halp
Just go for it, Alex. You'll never know what will happen if you don't do it. I sent a friend request on Facebook a while ago to a friend of mine I haven't seen or talked to since the school I chose to repeat the fifth grade at and we got into a conversation one day about what's going on with our lives. Neither of us seemed to feel awkward about conversing. Where do you think these fears stem from? Some sort of past experience or something? Also, you don't capitalize "a." Shame on you. "How Do I Make A Friend: The Movie" JK
Well, I'll list you two different ways to go about it. 1. Throw a party, get together, and use that as an excuse to call/text/message them. If they agree to come to the party, you can chat it up that way. If they don't agree, no harm done, that might even break the ice for you to start talking again. That was the tricky sneaky underhanded method. (My preferred choice.) 2. Just go for it. Just call/text/message them and be like, "How you been man? Things alright?" and just shoot the bull for a while. Worst case scenario, you catch them at a bad time and they tell you to call back. It doesn't have to be creepy to call someone. I've had people I hadn't seen in years call me up out of the blue, just to see what was up. Just go for it (or use the tricky sneaky underhanded method that happens to be my preferred choice XD). Anyway, I'm sure you'll figure something out. Good luck, and hope things go well ^^
I was in the same situation my first year of college. I had a class with someone and we became friends, but when that class was over, we didn't really talk much. So, my first quarter of my second year at college, I got a group of my friends together and we went out to eat and had a movie night. I invited him to come too and we were able to have a good conversation and catch up with each other. He told me that he was worried that we weren't friends anymore and was very glad to have been invited to hang out. I would go for it! They could very well be having the same thought. :P If anything, see if they want to play some video games or something one weekend and chill for a bit. ^-^
thank you my children °˖✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧˖° Anyway, this person and I haven't really talked too much, since I think my post implied that sorta. The only times were in passing and for a group assignment we had to do one day in class, lol. Because this person is a lady and my school is notorious for it's 70/30 male to female gender ratio. As such, there are a lot of desperate guys that creep on girls here for dates and the like, and I really really really do not want to give that impression at all because it is both the Worst Impression and also I just want to be friends with her and don't want a date. I think I'm just nervous that because we haven't talked much at all that me messaging her out of the blue would illicit a "who da fuk is this guy is he tryna be w/ me ew Gross creep", which I don't really think I'd like to deal with lmao.
You could go with the really devious method of making fliers for your party and leaving one where she might see it. Go from there. Or, you could just go for it. You could also forward one of those funny chain messages to her. I'm sorry, I can be really devious. Don't let me rub off on you, it's not healthy. But seriously, if you really just want to be friends (and nothing more) just go with it. Sometimes you have to take the first step, be it over a crack or a canyon.
Just go for it. You never know until you try :/ I cannot tell you how many times I have given up stuff because I didn't try. I regret it all to this day.
Just go for it, message them to say hi, asking how they are and what they've been up to ect. Just talk to them and make an effort, that's all it takes. If it goes well ask if you want to meet up sometime to do whatever, no pressure. You'll be fine, just relax and don't overthink it.
