I'm really struggling in life, because I can't find my real identity. I don't know myself and I'm lost and confused. I don't know whether I'm kind or caring, selfish or cold, or quiet or even shy. I haveno idea what people think of me, not even close relatives or friends. When ask the question "what do you think of me ?, or what ' I'm like' ? they just smile and say that " I am, who I am." It's getting really frustrating with only getting PC- like answers from them and just want to know my idenity and who I am. I'm tried of being confused, and is just wondering if anybody here could help. ? Thankyou for reading this if you are and sorry if this has horrible grammar, is a bit nervous because don't usually open up that much.
May I just ask...Excuse me iif it's a bit rude but d you go out often or do you spend most of your time on the internet? If you're not a very social person maybe you should go out and make some more friends, perhaps this could help you? Also have you told anyone else how you feel?
Are there any clubs at your school that might interest you? That would be worth a look around for, and who knows: if you get involved with that club or group you might just make some awesome friends. What you're going through, believe it or not, is very normal. Everyone goes through a period where they just don't feel like they belong in a particular niche. It's just a matter of experimenting with things that may interest you.
Ah, the age old question of who am I? Tis not an easy question, for every second a new memory is born. The way you interpret the world, and how you arived at that interpretation is what make you you. I would suggest as Malvante has said to get out more, and explore the enviroment around you. Think for yourself, and enjoy yourself.
It's really hard to find out who you are. I'm still wondering myself, although I'm not very old right now either. But there are some ways that you can find out what you're like. You can find out what your emotional pattern is just by how you react to people. Like for example, If someone is talking about something and you just have to interject into the conversation. whether relevant or not, you are probably a talkative person with poor conversation etiquette. If you always think before you talk and because of that, almost never get a word in a conversation, then you're probably kind with a reserved demeanor. Also, if you are annoyed by what the general population talks about, you're probably anti-social. Eventually, you notice things like that and if you don't like your attitude, you change it.
I find that most of the trouble in figuring out who you really are comes from being indecisive about it or not knowing how to go about it, or a combination of both. One of the first big steps is discerning between who you are instinctively and who you try to be "on second thought." Some people think their instincts are who they really are, just because it's more natural for them. I strongly disagree. Humans possess higher levels of thought for a reason; we're meant to use them. I measure myself by who I attempt to be after thinking things through, and that is a kind and caring person. (Of course, I'll never say that about myself, but that's a whole other complex.) I also choose to try and be social and outgoing, even though I get really shy around new people. And the kinder and more outgoing I try to be, the more it becomes instinct. So one follows the other, and then there's no doubt in my mind. Your instincts aren't guaranteed to follow, but the point is that they can be taught. So that difference might not establish your identity all by itself, but hopefully it will help you figure it out. Do you think the things you do instinctively are more important, or do you place more weight on who you yourself choose to be? I think you should decide for yourself. If people tell you that you are you, then what is "you?" Who is it? How does it behave? What does it eat? What are its likes and dislikes? You're allowed to make these answers up yourself, and it's no less substantial than having someone do it for you. And try not to think of it as your "real" identity. You could be a thousand and one things, and who you are will probably change over time. It's an ocean, not a brick wall. Even if it was a brick wall, you could always tear it down and start again with a different design.
