I remember my 8th grade history teacher told the class weeks before everyone got promoted to high school "When your in high school your slowly going to change and not hang out with your middle school friends". I didn't knew much of what he meant by it but to my surprise it did happen to me. A lot of things have changed since then. Im a Senior now in high school and I recently started to get in touch with old friends and childhood friends on FaceBook. So far I've gotten in touch with most of them except for 1. We met in 4th grade in September of 2003. He was my first friend I've made because I had to change schools due to moving to a new place. We had a up and down friendship (dont they all? Lol). Soon after we started to go over each others house and play video games non-stop. I've be came friends with his big brother who was at 8th grade at the time and shortly with their little brother who was just a grade lower then us. In a way we were like brothers and I was like part of his family. They would invite me to their birthday parties each time. They would be at pizza places and it was only just them and their parent's. I invited him to mine and he attended. Last time I've talked to him was the winter of 2008. They moved to a new place a bit far then their previous house. At the time things started to go on that I've already talked about. Many dark and hurtful things was happening at the time but they are behind me now and I dont ever want to look back at those days because it isn't worth my time. It was like all those things pulled me away from the things I enjoyed and the people I liked to be around because I lock myself in my room (I still do but not much anymore). I've recently got in touch with his big brother on FaceBook this week (you've got no idea how happy I was that day). He still remembered me and just a day ago I've asked for his brother's number but told him not to give it to me even when he told him it was me. I even asked him to tell him to text me of thats any better but he was busy and he never texted me later that day. Im starting to get worried that hes mad at me because its been so long (almost 4 years) and I've lost a best friend. I dont want to lose him as a friend, I've sent him a friend invitation on FaceBook but he never responded. Im very worried right now.
I understand how you're feeling. I have... almost the same problem... but I believe it's worse than your case, so I will use one example that I believe be what's happening to you. This sat me and my friends (including my bests friends) are going to watch a movie. There is a friend of mine who I talk very often, but she move of school 2 years ago. Some of my friends don't think it's a good idea invite her, because they lost total contact with her, just me and my bests friends (4 persons) think we should invite her. But then we arrived in the conclusion that she can come. I don't think he hates you... I think that you guys just... lost the contact. That you guys don't have nothing more to talk about, nothing more to do together... He might think that you've changed so as he did, that it would never be the same thing. He might feel that, say, imagine you meeting him. Say hello, how are you. And then...? A lot of people pass through this, is what your teacher said, each one of you follow different paths and now are in two different places. I understand how you feel, about not having him as the best friend. I kind of have the same problem... My advice is: keep trying to talk with him (or his big brother, or the other brother). If this doesn't help, it can be hard, but ask him. Hope the best for you, this is not the end, there's always a way.
He might be upset that the two of you lost touch--clearly you were all very close, like brothers as you said, and it may have really hurt him for that to fall apart. He could be blaming you for that. The most I can suggest is going to him in person and having a talk--tell him how much you regret losing contact with him and how you'd really like to reconnect. But you should bear in mind what your teacher says. People change. I was very good friends with a girl in middle school, a few months into freshman year of high school and I hardly spoke to her. Sometimes you just grow apart and move on. It's a part of life. But if you haven't spoken in four years, it could be worth a try. You never know.
This is something that happened to me, but much early on in my life My 2 best friends and I use to hang around all the time, make fun of each other ect. ect. ect. then they changed. I however never seem to change, but they did and I had a fight with one after he insulted me, and lost contact with the other in 3th grade since we didn't have the same classes anymore and gained new best friends, and only last year now that (I'm in high school BTW) i started to try and make contact with the one friend but it is just not working and i can't seem to find the other. I see what you mean man and I feel for you.
Like Misty said he's probably upset that you lost touch. If you have the ability to, send a message and see if he responds. If he does then you're one step closer to getting reacquainted. If he doesn't respond if you have another way to contact him then try it. You don't have to lose those bonds if you can help it. Keep in mind though that you will most likely have more friends to come, so try to look on the bright side, though I don't know that there is much of a bright side.
