I think I'm in love with my history teacher

It sounds crazy, but I think I really like her. She doesn't only look really beautiful, but I see her almost every day(including weekends), she's so nice, and she just looks so good. She's like 23..

Sounds stupid right? I can't believe I'm asking support on a forum, but I'm even too shy about it to talk about it to my dad and he and I are real close. Should I talk to her about it?

 

It is actually surprisingly common for students to find themselves attracted to their teachers. I am sure there is a reason for it but I won't pretend to know it.

Either way it isn't something I would panic over, I don't think you are in love with her, I would call it a crush to be honest.

Don't talk to her about it because that would cause a lot of complications, in most places even the idea of student/teacher relationships is enough to cause explosions.

I do reccommend talking to your dad about it though. It might do you good to talk to someone who you are close with irl.

 

Well, I can imagine my dad taking it seriously, but still joke about it. Not really belittling or something like that, but being real laughable about it and stuff. He wouldn't bully me or something though.

 

Adding to what Kay said, you need to realise this could never be an option for you unless you were of age. Remember your teacher would most likely lose her job, even if something as fickle as rumours started spreading round.

 

Well maybe that would be the best approach as opposed to taking it super seriously and intensely.

It wouldn't really be an option even if he was of age either, even universities frown on student/teacher relationships. Which is understandable.

 

It is? I'd rather be helped seriously than when someone doesn't take it seriously enough.

 

I'm going to be honest with you, and I am going to be blunt.

This isn't something to take seriously. You are not in love with your teacher. It is a crush and if you try to make it something more serious you are only going to make things complicated for yourself.

It can never become a reality because a) she would probably lose her job as Harriet said and b) in two years time you will look back and laugh at this.

 

Of course I would laugh at this in two years time. Probably earlier, as soon as this is solved.

And sorry for sounding dumb, but why isn't this exactly not to be taken seriously?

 

By making it a huge serious deal you adding validity to it, you will think about it, it will constantly bug you to the point of distraction. You will lose focus in History because you are too busy staring googly eyed at the teacher.

You will become frustrated because you will know it isn't a possibility, frustration leads to anger and I remember you saying before that you have anger issues.

Say you take it seriously and confess your feelings to her, you'll make her feel awkward and you could end up having to trade classes and have a different teacher.

The school board might decide to get involved if you take it super serious. I am using extreme example I know, but they are possibilities.

 

You may really have a point there...

Maybe that's why I've been acting so aggressive lately! And I guess I don't know how it feels to be in love, so I guess it's just a crush. Still, it feels weird by just letting it go.

 

For sure, and I know it can be hard letting go, hell we've all been there.

The reasons I say what I say is one of my best friends in High School had a crush on one of our teachers (ironically it was also our History teacher), she became obsessed with him to the extent of losing it if she saw him talking to other female students. It got really awkward talking to her, especially in that class. Heck it was embarrassing, she would flirt with him and it was so cringeworthy. It got to a point where someone reported them because they thought there was a relationship happening and he nearly got suspended from teaching.

I think part of why students develop feelings for teachers is that whole forbidden love thing, what you can't have is always very attractive to a person.

 

You have a crush. This is a woman you could not get with and yet she is beautiful to you, smart, witty, cool, but you really don't know the real person. You really do not want to take this too seriously so that it brings you down. There will be girls out there that simply you cannot get with but they just are really interesting and awesome. Take it for what it is, which is a crush, and don't let it get to you so much.

As for talking to your dad, you never know if he has not had similar feelings towards a teacher or someone. Even if he jokes about it, seriously, it is better to joke and share it than it is to feel that anyone should, including you, make this matter more than it does.

Do not talk to the teacher. It makes the situation worse and puts her and you in an awkward situation. She can get in serious trouble if you go around saying you like her that way, or you may have to be switched out of the class if she feels uncomfortable around you. She is there to teach you the school lessons and that is going to be her focus. Crushes are normal but there are times it really is inappropriate to act on them other than admiring from a distance. Appreciate her and let her do her job because you don't want something bad to happen to someone you care about. In life, you are probably going to have other crushes too, which is normal. It's good to deal with it and get used to it. Heck, maybe it will help you since you are caring about her, to study the material more. xD

 

Only a few know this secret, but teachers have roles. So you cannot be in love with her, because she is different outside the 'school scenery'. I cannot help with the thing itself. You just either go for it or you will not. But anyway I'm presenting the possibility that you have a crush to the 'teacher character'. I will not take it beyond this idea though. Lalalaa!