I think I hate my parents...

well....it all started about two or three months back when they started threatening me by saying that if I dont stop fighting with my sisters and being cheeky to them...then they'd pack my bags and tell me to get.

Now once or twice I've felt like saying "then hurry up and f*cking do it! dont just say you will! do it!" then I think...they do that and I dont want to see them ever again. Which I think is pretty understandable...I mean who would want to see their parents again if they did that?

Maybe Im over reacting but everytime I say something My sister, who's two years younger than me opens her mouth and says a smart comment so I answer back and I get yelled at for it! its not fair! my mum bought a table yesterday and I said i didnt like it so my sister said "you never like anything thats bought." so I told her to shut it and my mum sent me up to my room! my sister started it,but im sent to my room!

and they wont let me go to Washington to do an exchange thingy, I really wanted to go! they had me in tears when they said no, I had my hear set on going,but no.Almost sixteen and they wont let me...But I kinda understand their point...it is pretty far away...so they next day I asked could I go to Ireland because its closer to scotland than America is and still no! its not fair! I bet my friends all go where they want too! I only wanted to go for the summer! some want to go for a year!

so times I think I really hate them....like really really hate them...

does anyone think i do?

 

Have you tried to talk to them about it? Not only say something to them about it, but actually really talked about it?

 

Personally I think you are over-reacting a little bit.

I think it would be foolish for you to hate them over this.

With regards to your sister, just stop responding to her when she winds you up. My younger sister used to deliberately antagonise me to try and cause trouble with my mom. By responding you are letting her get what she wants.

As for your parents threatening to kick you out, have you spoke to them about how that makes you feel? Maybe they aren't aware how isolated you feel and think you are being angry/agressive for no reason?

As for not letting you go away on your own, well I agree with that, you're 15, it means they are protective of you, not that they are holding you back deliberately to upset you.

Good luck with it dear <3

 

Im afraid I'll blow my top if i try to...i get this feeling they wont listen...

 

Well could you not think of ways to get around these things...I mean rather than turning around and asking to go abroad say you wanna take them with you and make it a family holiday...maybe sit and tell them its your sisters nasty work not yours or even just ignore her comments?

 

Ok, so how about you try this? Write them a letter, write it calmly and express yourself and your feelings. Give it to them in the morning before you go to school so they have the day to read it and digest it.

 

I cant take them with me...its a school student thing during the summer and i have tried ignoring it

 

Well could you not take a whole bunch of school friends? and well...Maybe while you're parents arent around kind of shake your sister up a bit not pysically harming her but just give her the threat...It usually works on the younger people...Love causing trouble but run away when people get mad. And the way you make it sound your parents are just getting the wrong end of the stick and beleiving "the swweet innocent" one of you two

 

Do.Not.Do.This.

Even the threat of physical harm is bang out of order. I am surprised at you for suggesting something like that.

 

I wouldnt do that,though she's two years younger and sometimes deserves a good beating...I couldnt ever do that...besides...she's run and tell...or my youngest sister would -_- the problem with being the oldest....you get the blame for everything

 

Hah, you should try being the middle sibling, and the youngest sibling will say the same.

End of the day family life is complicated and messy, but don't let it tear you down. Talk to them.

 

It's effective when mom and my step-dad do it...thing is ive been an only child for so long ive just learnt to deal with moms methods...and now i have 2 sssters i follow those methods...

 

:l this is a perfect example oh how parents really need to think about the examples they are setting their children.

Don't take their route and become a bully to your sisters, that isn't right.

 

Wait wait wait.

You tried to convince your parents to send you to Ireland (after you asked to go to Washington and denied you) because it was..."closer?"

1. TOTALLY DIFFERENT COUNTRY!
2. Overseas travel
3.Do you know how expensive that is?

Personally, I think that you're just being over dramatic.

My question for you is how often do you help your parents? Maybe they don't find you deserving to go because you aren't doing enough for the household.

 

If she lives in England or somewhere else in Europe it s closer.

And disagreeing with your parents is part of being a teenager. I'm sure they didn't mean it when they said they were going to throw you out. As for the siblings issues, just don't react to them. They're doing things to annoy you just to get a rise out of you. They know it'll get you in trouble.

 

Ireland is closer because i live in scotland....and it isnt costing anything...its free!but i will talk to them...

 

I'm sorry. I didn't know. Excuse me please.

 

Being the oldest sibling sucks, I totally agree. You -do- get blamed for everything that can go wrong pretty much with the younger ones and are the first one chosen to do most chores etc. However, it's not a reason to really be so miffed. Every position in a family has its ups and downs.

You are 15 years old and well, I kind of don't see the reason you are so mad and that you say 'other kids' can do this or that. Some of them can't either, be assured. Parents that -care- are going to not want their 15 year old kid to go across the pond. That's a serious hefty trip there. I can't say if I had a 15 year old kid, I'd be so enthused on wanting a kid to travel so far away I could do nothing if something bad happened. As for taking a trip closer by to a nearby country... right now I think your parents don't feel you are mature enough for it. They may change their minds sometime if you give in a bit more and stop with the comebacks you have been giving them. You kind of have to show maturity to earn that status with your parents. Try helping out a bit more around the house and also don't complain about it. You show initiative, they may turn around on the closer trip if you talk to them.

As for your younger sibling troubles... it seems to me that you in a way set yourself up for failure, because you are more rebellious and she is kind of a butt kisser xD. Saying 'I don't like the table' and your sister commenting that 'you don't like anything' suggests that you make these sort of candid comments more often than you feel you may. Did you think of how your parents might feel that you don't like what they think is really cool? Your sister did.. and she used it against you. Snapping back at the observation was the wrong choice to do. Instead, perhaps you should have taken the cold comment back you made and said something like 'alright, I hear your point'. It would shock her and your parents and maybe things would go better for you. It seems like you may just come off colder than you think you do and your family is kind of getting tired of it and reacting.

Your parents are wrong to tell you that they'd pack your bags and boot you out. However, I think that you are frustrated but you are also not acknowledging your family's frustration with you right now as you spread your wings and kind of say some things and do some things that hurt them. You're all hurting one another, whether intending to or not. You have an attitude and want to do a lot of things, which is normal, and seem agitated with your sister and parents too much. They are definitely getting a solid attitude right back at you now. Who -started- what is hard to say, but this won't settle unless you do see your flaw in this, instead of just theirs. I would say it is time to seriously think on how you talk to your family members and that they are not the enemy. They are angry and so are you and communication and understanding is the key to fixing things. You have messed up here too and it is not just all on them. Love them, because believe me, there are worse families to be stuck with. Talk to them but first lose your temper and drop the front you have, because that is a defensive thing that others will take as an offense. Consider other people's feelings and your own together. You want things and down the road you will get them - a LOT - easier if you simply tone down some and participate as a team player in your family.

I hope things get better for you. Hang in there and I'm sure some of what I've suggested and said, you may disagree with but if any of it helps, good luck!

 

Have you given them a reason not to trust you, other than being a bit more rebellious? Lost trust is hard to gain back, and your parents might feel that you're too immature to have these privileges.

And if this makes you feel any better: My parents won't let me go to Lapland (which is about 700 miles away, in the same country) on my own, and I'm 18 already 8D8

 

I just have two words to say, (sorry this might sound rude). Grow up! The world doesn't revole around you, you can't just get what you want just like that, you need to work hard and earn your parents trust.... Trust me, i had the same issues with my parents and i even thought of running away and leaving them.... Your parents have always looked out for you, the least you can do is to obey and listen to them.