I need your advice khv

I am not speaking to a friend currently -- I've been freezing him out sort of for a while because he's treated me pretty ****. He confronted me about it on Tuesday and I brushed him off b/c we were at work & he was being kinda mean about it

I texted him a few hours later apologizing but never got a reply. I am working with him tomorrow night so things could be hella awk

Do I text him tonight and try to talk things out or see what happens tomorrow

 

text him now
the suspense would eat me alive

also to see where the situation stands so you can plan better for tomorrow
contingency plans are a must in all unpredicatble social situations

 

I would text (or maybe even call) him tonight.

 

I would text, if I wanted to talk to the guy, it'd be better to text him than to wait til later.

 

Trying to shoot a text couldn't hurt. It's been about three days, so he's had enough time to respond imo. If he doesn't reply, just carry on to work and wait for him to approach you about it. That would've been three chance opportunities, and if he doesn't capitalize on them, them's the breaks.

 

Isn't that the exact same wording you used in my Disrespectful Friends Rant thread?

 

i texted him. dunno if he will reply.

yeah idk. I think you know who I am talking about so you know a bit of our history. we've known each other such a long time that I can't believe he would just brush off my attempts to reach out... but idk

 

Mhm. It might just be a need for continued space for a while longer. Idk what is going through his mind now & I know you probably feel beat up about it, but in the event things don't go over smoothly tomorrow, just keep going on ahead. I recently started talking with a real close friend I hadn't spoken to in about 2 years after some less than pleasant stuff went down. Anecdotal evidence it may be, if it doesn't happen tomorrow, it could have a chance of turning around later on down the line.

But I do really hope everything goes well tomorrow.

It's a pretty common phrase in some places, I just picked it up haha.

 

Maybe he's been avoiding you because he want to be your Valentine but he's not responding because it's too late now! I mean... what?


In all seriousness, try and find out why he's been treating you like ****. Maybe he's just been having a bad week, maybe you did something offensive by accident. If he doesn't reply to your text, confront him at work about it. But pick your time. Preferably near the end of or after your shift so if it goes well, everyone goes home happy, but if it goes sour, you can leave soon and avoid the super awkwardness of being mad at each other. Oh, and make sure it's not busy so the boss doesn't chew you out for arguing near customers/clients/non-employees.

Also, you could break the ice with candy! "Here, have a Kit Kat. Happy Valentine's day." *pause for effect* "So you've been treating me like ****. Why?"

 

Wait for tomorrow. Maybe it's blown over and you don't want to dig into healing wounds..

 

for those caught in suspense:

he did reply saying he was busy at the moment but that I could email him (and that he was intending to email me as well but hadn't gotten a chance). sent him a long one that I won't share b/c personal but yeah. thanks guys.

 

Well, I'm glad you're friends again. Assuming you're friends again. I will be happy when you are friends and probably at some other times too.

 

it's largely contingent on his reply tbh but thanks

 

How could anyone have beef with the Mistynator? You're like if coolbeans and awesomesauce had a kid and that kid was secretly superman and even more secretly the kid was batman but less secretly the kid was an administrator on KHV.

Seriously though, hope you two can work out your issues. It's tough losing friends over anything.

-Nights​